Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?

Yes. I lost 57 pounds so far and people are nicer to me in general. Cashiers don't give me attitude as much and are more likely to go out of their way to help me. Before losing the weight, I went into Victoria's Secret and all I got were snotty attitudes and "we don't have THAT size here." Now I lost the weight, I still can't fit into their stuff but they're more willing to help me look and say, "are you sure? I'm sure you can fit into this."

Family have asked me about how I did it and how much I lost, how close I am getting to my goal. I do get the "are you sure you should be eating that? Is that on your diet?" I say, "Yup! I saved calories for it and will go to the gym tomorrow." :P

all that.

I've always been somewhat overweight at least. In 2005 i went from 5'10" 280 to 5'10" 190 and about 10% bodyfat. During the next year I got up to 210 at about the same body fat %.

I absolutely got treated differently. Both male and female were more apt to stay engaged in conversations, and there's just smaller signs of people's respect/attractions.

I knew I was doing something right when I started to get hit on by men...which was a totally new experience for this sheltered youngster (was 25 at the time).

I'd sinced gained some of it back after life and my old habbits happened and it's changed back again to how I was treated before somewhat. Women still treat you differently if they see the ring though (seriously, it means I'm married, not please try to steal me), but that's for a different thread.

I'm getting close to being back to that level of fitness (and to the point where I look good clothed) and the treatment's returning.


I don't think most people realize they treat others so differently though.

Yes, definately.

Like a previous poster, I've always shopped at Victoria's Secret, but now the same women that were not so helpful are the ones telling me how great I look and helping me find what I'm looking for.

I go to the gym to sweat - no makeup, messy hair and soaked by the end. Guy told me yesterday that he works out at 7am every Saturday and Sunday morning just "to see the red headed goddess tear it up". If I wasn't sweaty I would have hugged him for that.

But the only negativity I get is from my cousin who's extremely overweight. I've offered countless times to take her to the gym with me when she's going off about being fat, but she never takes me up on it. Instead I get the "your starting to get too skinny" or "you know its in our family to be big after having a kid so don't expect to lose too much".

So yeah - treated differently in both negative and positive ways.

I've gone from 230 to 164, but other than a few compliments, I haven't seen any change in the way people treat me.

I was once in shape at a healthy weight and now I'm working to get back down to that weight. People definitely treated me differently when I was at a lower weight and also now that I'm at a higher weight. It was more positive treatment at the lower weight.

I get more stares in a good way and then theres some people that say bad things like she still needs to lose more weight, but i am just happy to have went from 381 to 277 i know i have 107 more pounds to lose but i just taking my time cause i dont want a lot of saggy skin

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I haven't lost "alot" of weight... but I am definately getting hit on more now :smokin:

Ditto! I lost 76lbs, I get more help and people are nicer towards me when I'm out shopping. I worked at a different location before I lost the weight and almost a yr out my office location was closed and I was moved to a different location. I notice the women look at every outfit I wear to the office, they look at me up and down, I get compliments.. but I know they are hating on me, well some of them. I even get private messages on facebook from friends asking for weigh loss advise.. it's sweet, I help them out by telling them how I did it and I recommend MFP all the way!

I also get, "oh be careful not to get too skinny" or "you should stop at where you are and not lose anymore".. oh well what can you do, before I was too fat and now I get told I'm too thin. I'm happy as I am at the moment and that's what counts!

I do find that when I lose weight (I tend to fluctuate) I do get more friendly response when I go into a clothing store. That being said perhaps I am giving off a more positive vibe when I feel better about myself.

I definitely have been treated differently. One time I lost 50 pounds and people were a lot friendlier to me and suddenly wanted to hang out with me more. Also, once I started gaining the weight back, they didn't want to hang out with me as much. This was especially true with people from the church. Nobody has ever been mean to me or made fun of me for my weight; at least not to my face.

In my experience, I don't think that people treated me differently intentionally. I guess it was a subconscious thing. I think that many people assume that if you're overweight, you're lazy, and we all know that's not true.

This time around my friends and family have been very supportive. Hopefully the support continues.

Well, I'm most definitely in the middle of my journey, but at school I'm known as "the crazy girl who doesn't eat" (which is obviously not true :-D).
Once I did a small presentation. I wore white T-shirts. I heard some guys talking afterwards that "did you see that girl? I could see her obliques, that is hardcore".

I'm from a small village where everyone knows everyone, and the old ladies commented that "don't get too skinny" and "you're very pretty now, stop losing weight". That was kinda funny.

Yup definitely!
I was unemployed the whole time I was overweight, once I had lost 50 pounds I somehow managed to get a job? Not sure if I had gained confidence, or sometimes getting a job is based on looks!
I have also been "hit on"...alot! I never used to get hit on...EVER. Me and my boyfriend (who i've been with almost 6 years now, so he has seen me at my biggest and now at my smallest ) met as friends first and our relationship built from there, so he didn't even technically hit on me lol!

One negative thing is I may have lost one of my close friends, she came in to where I work a few months ago saying she'd call but never has. She didn't say anything about my weight loss when she saw me (I hadn't seen her that much while I was losing weight but we kept in contact through texting etc) but I saw a "startled" expression, and since then she hasnt bothered to even text! Deffo think a bit of jelousy? (her weight has always been very up and down)

Just my experience anyway.

Being a southern boy and a geek at heart combined with being heavy has always given me negative attention the last decade. I was 6'4" at 250lbs with probably no muscle weight at one point about 5 years ago. Let's just say it was very hard to attract female attention and I didn't get much respect from others either.

Now I am running at 220 lbs as of today. I also have a lot more muscle weight. However my stomach is still a bit ignorant so my pooch is till around though it is getting smaller at a snail's pace. At this point in my life, I am starting to receive a lot more feminine attention now which is still relatively new to me so I do not know how to take it sometimes. I also generally get a lot more respect from others. I attribute this to my fitness as well as the fact that being a geek at heart is starting to gain popularity with the modern world becoming so into technology.

Funny how the world works....

I lost 62lbs and I do believe you attract a different type of man after you lose weight. And yes definetly many more stares. My family was always supportive. I had friends that were jealous and it motivated them to start their own healthy lifestyle, but overall my experience has been great.

For those of you that have lost a lot of weight tell me if people acted different towards you or if you noticed any other changes with yourself.

Did you get more stares?

Did you get negative or jealous reactions fromn friends/family?

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Yes, a lot more stares, strangers talking to me, and some men making crude comments.

I have been lucky, my friends and family are all supportive. Though now people don't understand when I say I want to lose about 5 more pounds, and make "obsessed" comments.

I have said before that this is like a social experiment BIG time. People in the general public treat me very differently and I don't always know how to react.