Were you treated differently after losing alot of weight?

The last time I lost 30 pounds my family also was negative about me losing weight. I started off at a size 14/16 and ended up at a size 8. You would have thought I was a size negative 3. They were so dramatic about how skinny I was, when actually, I was just eating healthy and exercising every day. This is not the norm for my family where everyone is overweight. My sister is morbidly obese.

Since losing 120 pounds, people have definitely treated me with more respect and admiration. I don't receive many direct compliments or comments in general, but whenever my mother comes home from the bar, she'll go on for 20+ minutes about how some guys were down there asking about me, saying how "hot" I've gotten, etc. It's kind of creepy (they're all MUCH older than I am), but it still makes me giddy to know that people take notice of my efforts.

Yup! I have an uncle tell everyone up north where he lives that I photoshop my photo's that this really isn't me. He has never been this cruel to me. I understand that he seen me like the week before I got control of my life and I was really big then, but he is dead serious, he don't think that the girl in my photo's is really me, he does know its me but he thinks I have photo shopped myself, now I do have photoshop but going in there and taking THAT much off me, I would not look right if I tried, I'm not good at all at photoshop lol.

Then my cousin (this uncles daughter) she likes to find a way to put me down, she'll say things like "You are looking good but you still have a gut" or one time she said "Why in the world would you post half naked photos on facebook?" now understand that the photos go in an album called "Body transformation" for my weight loss photos. I'm in sweat pants and a sports bra, then the current photo in a bikini top and shorts, sorry I've seen a lot worse on facebook. She's went as far as saying I look like a porn star.

I have a friend who I use to be really close with, but now she don't want much to do with me. She don't invite me to go anywhere, I made a girls night out thing and wanted her to join but she hasn't said nothing so I doubt that'll happen. It use to really bother me that she pushed me away, but now I think I'm over it.

My husband can't keep his hands off me lol. I like this one haha..

My mom asks me for weight loss advice. I have other friends who either come to me theirself for weight loss advice or refer people to me for weight loss advice. I love those as well.

I used to be very scrawny, people now call me things like "big man", to which I respond "not big enough".

Their idea of big is so mediocre.

Heck yeah - I actually get looked at in the face versus a stranger looking at my body in disgust or disbelief. I have always been a very outgoing and warm person that does not know a stranger - but now when I strike up a conversation I get responsed to versus grunts or nods. It's a different perspective for sure from those that I have never met and do not know I have lost over half my body weight. As for those that know me, during the first 200 lbs. lost I got alot of encouragement, support and compliments - like they could not believe a lazy non-moving person like me could accomplish something that requires more than a little physical effort. Now I still get a bunch of kudos and attagirls from those that have true feelings for me as a person and great intention. Those that were just in it to see me fail or wanted to lose weight themselves, and have expressed their intent to me and then have not lost weight or even tried in the 1.5 years I have been doing this - they say very little and treat me as though I have some type of disease they don't wish to catch!

Absolutely. I think I am just more approachable in general. People are more likely to talk to me everywhere - in line at the grocery store, pumping gas, etc. No one ever talked to me before. Now, they do all the time. It's kind of strange for me though since I got used to being ignored. I don't really know how to talk to strangers.

me too I have been over weight my entire life and now I'm average weight and when people talk to me now I have a hard time dealing with it not use to the attention.

My heart goes out to all of you, society is so heartless. I could never understand why so many people are quick to discriminate against people who are heavier... I remember my mother would be treated awful, people stereotyped her as being lazy and couldn't control her eating when in reality she has a thyroid problem and it;s very diffiult for her to lose weight. Regardless, even if you are "lazy" and "like ot eat a lot," that shouldn't mean you are any less of a person. Okay, I'm done my mini rant.

The difference is night and day. In public my husband is always telling me that guys are looking at me but I am oblivious to it. Why the heck would they look at me? My friends are always asking me what I am doing, eating etc. I get compliments by the truckload at the office about my new clothes and how "tiny" I am but I am not tiny in any way. It is all overwhelming for me. I am quiet and shy and like to hide from the world. I wish I was very outgoing, I am working on it. I want a personality that shines and makes others smile.

This is good motivation right? :P

Sometimes it actually makes me mad. I want to scream, I was just as awesome before people!

I lost about 70 lbs since December 2011. I get a lot of compliments from friends and coworkers but not so much from family. Probably once in a while from one of my siblings. But what's important now is that I'm glad my wife joined me during my journey and we're setting a great example for our kids.

I haven't noticed, but I'm pretty oblivious to this stuff, I'm a very friendly person, talk to people at the grocery store etc. so when men are flirting with me often times i just think they are being friendly and then I'll be talking about it to a friend and they will smack me upside the head and say Hey idiot that guy was totally hitting on you. OOPS! But one annoying thing is my mother cannot stop bragging about me, it actually makes me feel a little bit uncomfortable, if we are talking to people at a store (trying on clothes for example) she will bring up my weight loss. Maybe because I still have so far to go that I'm embarrassed because I can just imagine what's running through their head is well that's nice but she's still a fat *kitten*.

People are always nicer when I'm thinner. Also, the thinner I go, the more guys check me out. Always been that way.

Didn't lose a lot of weight. But lost a lot of inches. But nope. And that's what makes it disappointing): Not even really gotten a compliment on it.

Being a southern boy and a geek at heart combined with being heavy has always given me negative attention the last decade. I was 6'4" at 250lbs with probably no muscle weight at one point about 5 years ago. Let's just say it was very hard to attract female attention and I didn't get much respect from others either.

Now I am running at 220 lbs as of today. I also have a lot more muscle weight. However my stomach is still a bit ignorant so my pooch is till around though it is getting smaller at a snail's pace. At this point in my life, I am starting to receive a lot more feminine attention now which is still relatively new to me so I do not know how to take it sometimes. I also generally get a lot more respect from others. I attribute this to my fitness as well as the fact that being a geek at heart is starting to gain popularity with the modern world becoming so into technology.

Funny how the world works....

Thank you for serving our country and you don't look geeky to me.

I've only lost 1/3 of my goal but it's created a little tension with my DIL who has had numerous attempts to lose weight. The success I'm having seems to make her dwell on her own failures.