I think I need to be told I am fat

I've faced the exact same issue. I gain weight very proportionately across my body, and it was easy for me to rationalize that because I held my weight "better" than so many other people, it wasn't that big of a deal that I gained a few pounds here and there. It took five years and fifty extra pounds before my motivation finally kicked in.

Having people tell you whether or not they think you're fat is most likely not the solution. About ten pounds before I hit my max weight, my parents tried to tell me that I was fat and needed to lose weight (not nearly as harsh as it sounds; they were really concerned that I was becoming more and more unhealthy). While a very rational part of me understood what they were trying to get across, the formerly skinny me still clung to the fact that I "wasn't that bad" and I was still skinnier than a large portion of the population. As kind as a lot of the above responses are, I feel like a lot of them reinforce that mentality.

Ultimately, the choice to lose weight is one that only you can make, and you have to find your own motivation. It may be as simple as seeing one too many pictures of yourself and going, "Who is that fat person and what's she doing in my clothes?" It may be when you get tired of being winded from going up one flight of stairs in your house. It may be when you realize that you're the "fat chick" on your rec soccer team, or it may be when you can no longer buy pants at your favorite clothes store. All these were just some of my motivating factors. Getting healthy and losing weight is a struggle, and it's not something you can accomplish overnight. To do so, you have to truly believe that you want the ultimate results.

I hope you find the motivation you're looking for. Good luck!

I think that yes you do look morbidly obese.

Please let me justify before everyone freaks out at me.

Firstly you asked.

Second I am 5'6 and at 154 looked great. However I was pushing the top end of the healthy bmi. If i'd have gained a couple more pounds I would have been overweight, a few more and obese and a few more ..etc etc

To me you are very pretty and there are plenty of people bigger than you but that's no way to judge. Just because the average size has increased does not mean you need to go with them. You are not hideous, or disgusting and if you are happy in your skin then bravo. I wish everybody loved the person on the inside, however losing just 10% of your body weight will have major health benefits for you.

You wanted to know so I'm giving my honest opinion. Hope you are happy, honestly, with whatever you decide xx

I think that yes you do look morbidly obese.

Please let me justify before everyone freaks out at me.

Firstly you asked.

Second I am 5'6 and at 154 looked great. However I was pushing the top end of the healthy bmi. If i'd have gained a couple more pounds I would have been overweight, a few more and obese and a few more ..etc etc

To me you are very pretty and there are plenty of people bigger than you but that's no way to judge. Just because the average size has increased does not mean you need to go with them. You are not hideous, or disgusting and if you are happy in your skin then bravo. I wish everybody loved the person on the inside, however losing just 10% of your body weight will have major health benefits for you.

You wanted to know so I'm giving my honest opinion. Hope you are happy, honestly, with whatever you decide xx

when I am not dressed the morbid part becomes A LOT more obvious :sad:

clothing can hide many things and make us(me) feel thinner than I actually am :laugh:

I did put up a bikini pic on here awhile ago that shows more of the obese part ...dont know if I am up for that again,people were quite kind then,but now if you compare....probably wouldnt be as nice

Like I say if you are happy as you are then I am super happy for you. I do see a lot of people in my work and unfortunately get to work out BMI's daily so maybe that's why I am comfortable saying you look morbidly obese even dressed. It doesn't give me any pleasure telling you, I don't want to be mean but I don't think sugar coating will benefit you. :flowerforyou:


ps: I don't like the term morbidly obese I think it sounds terrible but it does indicate what can happen x

First of all, I think it's fantastic that you were feeling pretty good about yourself in your outfit.. I think you should feel good and love your body WHILE you lose the weight. You don't need to be told you're fat, you just need to decide if you like the way you look. And if you do, GOOD for you!!! And if you don't, then you have much support on this site to make a change.

I think that yes you do look morbidly obese.

Please let me justify before everyone freaks out at me.

Firstly you asked.

Second I am 5'6 and at 154 looked great. However I was pushing the top end of the healthy bmi. If i'd have gained a couple more pounds I would have been overweight, a few more and obese and a few more ..etc etc

To me you are very pretty and there are plenty of people bigger than you but that's no way to judge. Just because the average size has increased does not mean you need to go with them. You are not hideous, or disgusting and if you are happy in your skin then bravo. I wish everybody loved the person on the inside, however losing just 10% of your body weight will have major health benefits for you.

You wanted to know so I'm giving my honest opinion. Hope you are happy, honestly, with whatever you decide xx

when I am not dressed the morbid part becomes A LOT more obvious :sad:

clothing can hide many things and make us(me) feel thinner than I actually am :laugh:

I did put up a bikini pic on here awhile ago that shows more of the obese part ...dont know if I am up for that again,people were quite kind then,but now if you compare....probably wouldnt be as nice

Like I say if you are happy as you are then I am super happy for you. I do see a lot of people in my work and unfortunately get to work out BMI's daily so maybe that's why I am comfortable saying you look morbidly obese even dressed. It doesn't give me any pleasure telling you, I don't want to be mean but I don't think sugar coating will benefit you. :flowerforyou:


ps: I don't like the term morbidly obese I think it sounds terrible but it does indicate what can happen x

morbidly obese isn't just a term, there's a medical definition for it. morbidly obese means that someone has a body fat percentage of 40% or more. i dont know what you work in , but if it's in the medical field i'd certainly hope that you knew what morbidly obese means.

there's no way the OP looks like she has 40% or more body fat.

i'd got with 28-33% which would put her in the overweight.obese category NOT morbidly obese

You look overweight. You do not look like my mental picture of morbidly obese. What I am seeing, in details, is a lot of overspill over the jeans, jeans very tight on legs, upper arms heavy enough to hide muscle definition. I would guess that from the side you've got more stomach sticking out than you think you do (because I have the same thing)
You're carrying the weight well, but you'd look and feel better with less fat.

I am 5 ft tall and carry my weight very proportionally. I have an hourglass body structure, so until I'm quite, quite, quite overweight I can fool myself that I'm not. My eye automatically checks out my good places and ignores the unsightly areas, also people tend to tell me that I'm fine, look great, don't look heavy...but the pictures don't lie. Neither does the aching knees and feet from too much stress.
Take measurements, because those aren't as forgiving as flattering cuts of clothes and soft lighting.

The healthy human body hasn't changed since the sixties, even if the average one has.

i think this needs to be plastered on a billboard on every major US highway. I want to scream it out on the street corner. The world is ending? No. You're just killing yourself with french fries.