If you saw a ten year old girl with an iPhone....

Alex_is_Hawks
Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
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Would you b*tch her out for it? Assume it wasn't her phone?

Would you think her parents were too permissive?

Would you say anything or make any judgements at all?

My daughter just texted me to let me know that someone just gave her hell for "playing with her parents iPhone" when she told them it was HER phone, they then, IN FRONT OF HER, made some rather derogatory comments about my parenting choices and how permissive parents make bad children.

I almost wish I was there so I could give that person a piece of my mind.

Lauren
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  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    I think that is too young to have a phone, but I wouldn't say anything about it. I sure as heck wouldn't berate the child for it. Simply uncalled for.
  • AlotOfSweatAndPain
    AlotOfSweatAndPain Posts: 234 Member
    I wouldnt say anything. None of my business.
  • backwoodsbama
    backwoodsbama Posts: 104 Member
    I say forget 'em. If you as a parent feel your child is mature enough for a phone then so be it.

    I would suggest certain limits or restrictions though as friendly advice.

    Restricted calling times

    Restricted internet maybe

    Really depends how she handles the responsibility really.

    I do not believe in ever overstepping my boundaries on another person's children unless they are out of control or it is an emergency situation.

    This is not one of those times so I find it uncalled for.
  • lyricalLies13
    lyricalLies13 Posts: 151
    i think its a bit much for a 10 year old to have an iphone but i would keep comments to myself. no need to say anything to the kid, thats stupid.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    I think that is too young to have a phone, but I wouldn't say anything about it. I sure as heck wouldn't berate the child for it. Simply uncalled for.

    This.
  • tennisbabe94
    tennisbabe94 Posts: 444 Member
    I think 10 is a little young for a phone. When I was 10, I didn't have a phone. But your child, your choice. I don't see the point in saying anything to someone else. It's not my place.
  • jencooks
    jencooks Posts: 62 Member
    I think that is too young to have a phone, but I wouldn't say anything about it. I sure as heck wouldn't berate the child for it. Simply uncalled for.

    This.

    Second this.
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
    Way way too young to have a phone in my opinion.. but I agree, the people who want to bless the child out for it are misguided and jealous. No one should speak to a kid that way, regardless of your opinion.
  • JuneBPrice
    JuneBPrice Posts: 294 Member
    I think anyone with an iPhone is stupid, but I wouldn't yell at a kid for that.
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    I think it's a bit ridiculous that a 10 year old even has a phone.. let alone an Iphone. Would I say anything to them about it though or berate them in front of others? No.
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
    My 12 year old doesn't have a cell phone... much less an iPhone.
    She isn't responsible enough to even bring homework home most days, or bring her clothes back from staying the night at a friends house lol ... therefore she doesn't get one.
    BUT that is my choice. With MY child...
    I would NEVER say anything to someone else, or their child about THEIR choices...
    I think that is rude.
  • SmartAlec03211988
    SmartAlec03211988 Posts: 1,896 Member
    I think it is perfectly acceptable for a 10 year old to have a phone. I know mine will.

    I would have given that person a mouthful if it was my child and I was there. The nerve of some people.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    I would think to myself that I can't find a reason for a child that young to have a phone, but I would not assume she stole it and I would definitely not speak to her derogatory comments about her / her parents!
  • Pipsg1rl
    Pipsg1rl Posts: 1,414 Member
    our son is 12 and was using my husband's old iphone with wi-fi only. We had texting and now a free calling app.

    it's also YOUR money.

    sorry that someone was unkind to your daughter. i have a friend who is divorced and shares custody. her girls are 12 and 9 and have phones so that if something happens when they are away there is peace of mind.
  • modgirlrachel
    modgirlrachel Posts: 44 Member
    I would leave her the hell alone because who picks on a 10 year old girl?
  • likearadiowave
    likearadiowave Posts: 445 Member
    Kind of unfair to yell at the kid about it. It depends on the maturity of the child; how well do they behave? do they take good care of their possessions? do they earn the right to have expensive devices from grades/chores/etc, or are they just given anything they want with no actual reason?

    An yway, I'm 30 and i've never had an iphone; I prefer androids ...
  • 23Missy
    23Missy Posts: 13 Member
    I remember last year I was getting a pedicure. This little girl sat down beside me probably about 10 as well. She had her own Iphone too. She was getting a mani and pedi too!! I cant afford an Iphone and I can only afford mani/pedi's occasionally. I was about to say something to the lady next to me about how ridiculous it was what the kids get these days. RIght when I was about to say something to her, she told the manicurist that she wanted to pay for the little girl because it was her niece. WHEW!! It really made me stop and think about "who am I to judge?" NO ONE is in a place to judge : rich/poor fat/thin attractive/not attractive. God made us all unique and gave us what we have or what we dont have. Not saying anything to that lady would have shown a bad character about me...not about the child. :)
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
    I don't think there's a problem with her having an iPhone. It is 2012, technology is not the enemy it is the reality of our world. In my opinion good parenting is about preparing your child for the world, not preotecting them from it. As long as she is taught about appropriate use of the phone and can't purchase random apps, go for it :) I swear some people would have us living in the dark ages...
  • jadedzen
    jadedzen Posts: 221 Member
    if i had children i feel 10 is too young to have unlimited internet access and texting. Maybe i'd be a bad parent, but i came from a time when the only kids in school who had pagers were drug dealers. But it's not the childs fault, that's a parenting decision i wouldn't have said anything about except that you asked what people opinions are.
  • hannahamay
    hannahamay Posts: 77 Member
    It's not my business whether she has a phone or not. When I was ten the last thing on my mind was whether I had a phone or not, because I was out doing other things. I'm eighteen, I still don't have a phone, and my life is perfectly fine. I personally think technology is ruining this generation's youth, but it doesn't make you a bad parent for allowing your child to have a nice phone. They're good to have for emergencies. I don't think you should worry about what other people are saying about your parenting choices.
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Seeing a child with an iPhone makes me bitter that I can't afford one right now, lol.

    But seriously, I think it's quite rude and presumptuous of that person to say those things. I still remember getting yelled at in school by the principal for coming late to class in the mornings, and I was only 6 or 7, and it left a lasting impression on me. I hate when people take up "parenting issues" with children who aren't at any fault or hold any responsibility, kids are kids.
  • Afterblue
    Afterblue Posts: 78 Member
    Was she sending evil text messages? Was she using the iphone to summon demons from hell? Was she hitting other children with the iphone? Was she telling other kids that they are neanderthals because they don't have one and then taking photos of them and posting them with the "DORK" label on facebook? Was she having long, loud conversations on that phone in a place where silence was expected?


    As a parent, I am often astonished by how people feel their own parenting rules should extend to everyone and if you fail to follow their rules you have failed as a parent and your kid needs to be told that on behalf of all parents everywhere. If your child is not being disruptive, rude, or using her iphone for evil world domination purposes, then my opinion is that it is not right to comment.
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    Would you b*tch her out for it? Assume it wasn't her phone?

    Would you think her parents were too permissive?

    Would you say anything or make any judgements at all?

    My daughter just texted me to let me know that someone just gave her hell for "playing with her parents iPhone" when she told them it was HER phone, they then, IN FRONT OF HER, made some rather derogatory comments about my parenting choices and how permissive parents make bad children.

    I almost wish I was there so I could give that person a piece of my mind.

    Lauren

    Id be more worried if i saw her with a gun.
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    First off, what better way to keep track of your kids while you are not with them. I for one have no issues with this 10 year old child having a phone. These days you can upgrade your phone cheaply and sometimes even for free so who cares if they get an iphone or whatever. And second I would be just like you, my kid, my business and you keep your thoughts on it to yourself. I agree with you OP. I hate people nosying into my business. I don't agree with the way a lot of people raise their kids but I don't tell the parents or the children my opinion.
  • Julz2586
    Julz2586 Posts: 1,330 Member
    i get annoyed seeing little kids with iphones and stuff.... but only because i didn't have that stuff when i was their age.

    BUT my neice and nephew have an iphone and one has an ipod touch both hand me down and both only use to play games not texting people.

    But like most have said if you think your child is mature enough to handle something like that then do it.
    I know my stepdaughter is not mature enough to have an iphone, i was going to give her my old iphone for christmas last year but didn't because she broke her mobile that she only had for 3 months (and this wasn't the first mobile she had broken or lost)... and she's 17 this year.

    BUT there is no way i would go up to a kid and say "OI DID YOU STEAL THAT PHONE" thats just stupid.
  • ethansmug
    ethansmug Posts: 159 Member
    I would have just jacked the phone and then came home and added the running to MFP as part of my exercise for the day =]
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
    I wouldn't buy a child something that expensive.

    But I don't care what other parents do with their money, nor would I berate a child over such a trivial issue.

    I'm a big advocate for this thing called minding your own business. Unfortunately some people don't know what that is.
  • stfriend
    stfriend Posts: 256 Member
    I might do a double take and then assume it was hers. I may think she's too young, but then again, I don't know the circumstances. Plus, she's not my kid and as long as she's not hurt its none of my business. I certainly wouldn't say anything to her.
  • FrenchMob
    FrenchMob Posts: 1,167 Member
    10 is too young for a phone. Nothing like perpetuating the "texting generation" then letting them start that young. But I wouldn't say anything to the kid.
  • SteffieMark
    SteffieMark Posts: 1,719 Member
    Not my child? Not hurting me or anyone else, that I see? Not my business, no matter what I think of it.

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