WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2012

I just posted this in the diabetics forum, and then I saw Walker54's post here and thought maybe I would post this here also. I'm also feeling very discouraged at the moment.

I haven't been active on MFP lately, because I've been a complete sloth about my program. I think I've hit a point of diet-and-logging fatigue. I've been reasonably good with my diet even though I haven't been tracking, but I haven't been good enough to lose weight.

Yesterday was a good example of how almost good enough isn't good enough when it comes to dieting. Okay, I'm prediabetic. Many times I've said said to other diabetics that we have to accept that we can never, ever again eat white bread, potatoes, and sweets like other people can. It's been almost one year since I was diagnosed, and for most of that year, I was able to avoid things I shouldn't eat.

I was really good with my meals all day yesterday, until the very end of the day. For dinner, my husband and I decided to go over to our yacht club instead of cooking at home. We got there and discovered it was pasta night! Okay I still was good. When the club has pasta night, they put out chopped meat and fish and chopped veggies on a buffet table. You create your own topping for the pasta by selecting the ingredients you want, and the cooks stir fry your selection and then put the mixture on top of pasta and add sauce. I selected a plate of chicken and veggies and told the cook I just wanted the stir fry without sauce or pasta. There was also a salad bar, and I made healthy selections there. I even passed on a glass of wine and told my husband I didn't want to add the extra calories.

All was well until we finished eating, and my hubby asked the waiter for a second glass of wine, and he said to me, "Have a glass of chardonnay. One little glass won't hurt." So I did. That would have probably been okay, but the waiters had left a basket of toasted, butter, garlic bread on the table. Dang. When I deviated from my plan and took the glass of wine, it was like opening the door a crack. My food cravings got a foot in that crack and kind of knocked the door open. I decided it wouldn't hurt to have one little slice of garlic bread with the wine. And then a second. And then a third!

Okay, lesson one is keep the dang bread basket OFF the table when I eat out.

A long time ago, I remember reading about double ambivalent conflicts. This is where you have two choices and there are positive and negative points to each. I think I'm facing a double ambivalent conflict every time I try to eat; the food I want is bad for me, and the food that's good for me isn't really what I want. When a person is in a double ambivalent conflict, the attraction of the choice you have rejected becomes stronger as you reject it, and the attraction of the choice have selected becomes weaker as you embrace it. When I've decided against several menu items that I'd really love to eat, that the attraction of those rejected yummy foods becomes the strongest.

I think this is why I tend to sabotage my diet at or near the end of a meal. I need some sort of ritual I can use when I finish eating the planned food to keep me from eating more! I suspect I should get up and leave the table, but I don't want to get up and leave my hubby at the table every meal. The social aspects of mealtime are important too.

Does anyone have any ideas on what to do when you've finished eating what you should, but you need to linger a while with your dining companions who are still happily eating? That's the most dangerous time of a meal for me, especially in a restaurant where waiters keep coming around and asking if you'd like something else.

Hello Everyone!

I am soooo glad I ran across this thread...and I hope you don't mind if I join in! I have been on this yo-yo weight loss way of life for maaaaaaany years! I lost over 60 pounds eight years ago with WW, but it all came back---and brought friends!! I know I can do this, but it's abit more difficult since I'm over 50...soon to be 53, actually...sigh... :sad:

I have been reading so many motivational weight loss/healty eating FB pages over the weekend that really have set me up for success!! And then I came here today and found this thread as well!! I love reading about your successes and tips and will share mine (I hope to have some!!) as well! :flowerforyou:

I am a Minnesota Mom of 3 (daughter and her hubby 30 and son 25) and grandmother to the most adorable boys EVER!! Blake is 7 and Bryce is 4. I have been divorced for....22 years?? Had to figure that one out. I'm very active with my community, which keeps me busy. I also have a 3 yr old dog (who thinks he's human!!). I enjoy taking Tucker for walks at the park along the Mississippi River. He's still in the puppy stages so sometimes when we return, I have one arm longer than the other!! :happy:

Here are my August goals:
1) To eat within my calorie goals--and track everything!!!
2) Drink at least 60 oz (3-20 oz bottles) of water each day
3) Add more fruits and veggies into my meals
4) Do my Leslie Sansone WAP 5 Really Big Miles DVD (1 mile for now) at least once a day/morning and walk 25 miles with Leslie in August! (Down 3 miles so far...just started that on 8/4)

I look forward to "meeting" you all and sharing this journey to becoming healthy with you! I think if we make it a fun time, we will enjoy it much more and all the pounds lost will be a BONUS!! :flowerforyou:

Time for me to head home from work...gonna do another WAP mile this evening...I read this weekend that "Sweat is your fat crying"...I wanna make my fat SOB!!!!

Soooo glad to be here!!

TTYL!
Brenda

Hi everyone!

I have been bad, didn't log in for over a week, I was on the west coast visiting my brother in San Francisco and working with the Mets and TB Rays...took in some of their games, and toured Carmel and Monterey....but the best news is, somehow lost 2 more pounds while I was out there!

back in Atlanta now, for a few weeks I hope.

Hope all is well!! I am still wondering if I am starting menopause, I have only been without that monthly thing for 2 months, but I seem to be over emotional these days, and well.....a bit more cranky?? I am 51...any advise out there??

Bye for now!!!

Glad there is a place for over 50 - I'm over 60 (65 to be honest) and very active. Right now I have a lot of stress in my life because my 92 year old mother is developing extreme short term memory loss and is not taking care of herself. My brother and I are trying to figure out the best way to treat her so that she can maintain her dignity even though she is deteriorating. She is healthy and not dying, but she forgets who we are and where she lives and it's very stressful to live with this.

Additionally, my boyfriend went to the emergency room today because he has blood in his urine and I haven't been able to get in touch with him to see how he did.

It's hard to concentrate on weight loss while all of this stuff is going on and I also tend to under eat when I am anxious, which isn't good for me.

Just had to get this out.

Brand new ...first day on....they tell me I am not eating enough....so I guess I will up my intake and pray I do not gain!

Hello Lovely Ladies,

So happy for the weekend to be over. I wasn't at my best my family would agree with me. I was outright grumpy I really work hard at not being negative but I guess we all have our days.
@Lin awlful on the bathroom issues. I hope there is no other damage.
@Ruthanne I try to track everything so I will become super aware of what I put in my mouth.
@Meg hope you gets lots of rests.
@Barbara--thank you for the invite.
@ami so amazing how you are helping your rented daughter. It is hard to imagine how anyone can turn their backs on their child.

I was experiencing a lot of swelling and have been getting headaches etc went to the doctor was put back on the bp meds which will help. But makes me feel old.
Experience a heat wave here and very poor air quality. Grateful for our a/c and fans.

Well hello everyone, I hope you all have a good day and take care of yourself.
Liz

Good day here. The 3 kids being home all day kind of gives me a break from the school routine and spend time with everyone together or individually.

Ate well today and took a walk. With my father gone as of last year and my mom very close behind him, my walk just made me realize that it isn't JUST about losing weight, but staying healthy and stay around for my family and friends. Each day I walk, my heart, brain and overall health is better!


JazzyJess: Wow! How dedicated you are at getting healthy! Keep it up and glad you found this website!

Yoyonomore: It is great that you are 10 pounds away! How hard you have worked!!! Keep logging and keep posting and you will get there in no time!

Amiscci: You are wonderful to open your heart and home! I try every day to be supportive of my kids (even "those bad days")-She will be a better person because of you and your family! Also, wonderful accomplishment on the weight loss!!!

Hello, I have just found this thread and would like to jump aboard! I turned 60 last month.

I have been with MFP since January 2011 and had lost 34 lbs over the year, slow and steady as she goes! lol However in January of this year my husband was in hospital for 2 weeks with a lifethreatening case of pneumonia and my healthy eating and exercise ent by the wayside. He lost 25 lbs in 2 weeks (NOT the way to do it for sure!), my weight gain was just beginning! After he came home I ended up with sciatica for 3 weeks so, no exercise. Well all that really was a glitch in my weight loss, but... that was 6 months ago!! I am happy to report that he is fine now, but in the ensuing months I have managed to gain back most of the weight I'd lost :grumble: I have had a couple of false starts over the last several weeks but I really do believe this time I will get back on the bandwagon and stay there! And while MFP brings people of all ages together with our common goal to be healthy, I look forward to sharing my struggles and successes as well as encouraging others who are my peers.

I haven't entered my net loss in a while, so my ticker is not correct, I will be weighing in tomorrow morning and the number will unfortunately be less than the 12 lbs that it currently says <sigh>

Hi all, just noticed this thread tonight (I've only been a member since the end of June). I'm a 57-year-old wife and mom with a recent empty nest, and also am feeling my age for the first time in my life. I recently committed to losing the weight gained since being diagnosed with Hashimotos thyroiditis about 3 years ago.

Goals for August include getting back into the skating habit (my favorite form of exercise) to tone while I lose weight. I have an appt. with the thyroid doc mid-August, and I want to wow him with my weight loss. (Every visit has so far seen a gradual gain.)

Nice to see a thread for us youngsters. ;D