Quickie weddings or long engagements?

I've been with my SO for a little over six years now. We're not engaged, but I'd imagine it will be a long engagement when we are. Doesn't bother me, I'm in no hurry. Getting our lives together first.

LONG engagements for sure.
5 years is the soonest I would except a proposal and then atleast another year or two before the actual wedding.

I believe you should live like an married couple before actually getting married, get past the honeymoon phase.

Got together October 2004. Found out we were pregnant with out first in August 2005. Engaged February 2006. Married March 2011.

First date on Thanksgiving weekend, moved in together the following week, married the following June. Still married 34 years later.
I agree with leakramirez - when you know, you know.

We've been together for 6 1/2 years, engaged and living together for 6 years, have 3 kids and no wedding in sight. Honestly not sure if I still want to marry him.

I met the hubs when I was 19, we got engaged when I was 21, and married at 23. We both wanted to wait until we were done with school before getting married, but in retrospect, graduation didn't really do a whole lot for me.

Anyway, we had a long engagement, and to be honest, the engagement was the worst part of our relationship. It's like we had to figure out some things before the wedding. We had so much fun in college, and then when we moved in together it was tense. After we got married and picked out a place together (rather than him moving into MY apartment) we get along much better now.

I think folks should take their time and really think things through before getting engaged. As far as the length of engagement goes... it shouldn't matter. Just be confident in the decision BEFORE you agree to get married.

Now that I think about it, this is why I hate surprise proposals... a lifetime decision shouldn't be a surprise. Well, to each their own, but for me, that was not the way it was going to go down.

The hubs had to drop a hint in April, and then by August, I finally agreed. No one "pops" the question and gets a yes out of me.

Met when I was 15, engaged at 17, and this year married at 19 several months before I turned 20

I always thought I wanted to be engaged for about 2 years but when we finally got engaged last November after 8 years together I just wanted to get married and we are 2 months and 1 day away from our wedding. I can't wait to proudly call him my husband

Just a question I've been thinking on. I was married within 8 months of meeting my hubby, only engaged for four of those months and then he went overseas right after we got engaged! Engaged at 19, married at 20, first kid at 21. (Been happily married 13+ years now)

I really like the quote from When Harry Met Sally: "...when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." It just rang true for us!

What was your engagement length? Still engaged? How long had you been serious before the proposal? What's your story?

Met my husband Jan 19/20th,,,started dating on march 7th engaged july 16th married august 4th he left 2 days later to move to VA to his new duty station... I could not move for 3 months. Just celebrated our 7 year wedding anniversary and have 2 gorgeous kids one of them was born on our 1 year wed anniversary lol (hubby is in navy on subs)

We moved in together after 5 months, but didn't get engaged for 4.5 years and waited another 2.5 years before the wedding... we're not much for rushing, lol. we have been married a little over a year, and plan to wait another year or so before trying for a baby

Ha! Ok so my husband and I dated four years before we moved in together. Then 2 years later, he proposed (I will say one of the big reason it was put on the back burner was both his parents were diagnosed with cancer within those 5 years and a lot of our time was spent driving to hospitals, treatments etc). We got married 2 1/2 years later...and this October we will celebrate our 3 year wedding anniversary and 12 years together in April.

We are going to start trying for a baby this fall/winter..it is definitely time and it wasn't in "our cards" before but we are ready and we've never been happier.

Well my first marriage was quick. I met him on Feb 3, got engaged in May and married Sept 3rd. The length of the marriage lasted a little longer than that I left him in 2 months after our 1yr anniversary.

This time around my fiance and I dated for a month, became official, moved in together 4 months later, engaged 10 months after that. Our wedding is 2 months from today (oct 6) 11 months after we got engaged... I prefer the long courting and engagement

My husband and I were together for over 5 years before we got married. We just randomly decided one day in November to just do it. We were engaged for just over 2 years though, after our first daughter was born. I never wanted to get married, I think it's kind of dumb in a way, but he did, so we got married.

My husband and I moved in together 4 months after starting dating, he proposed 4 months later on my birthday, and our engagement was 13 months. We only had that long of an engagement because we wanted to wait until after my brother got married, as my sister in law would have killed me if I had gotten married before her, and it was important to me to have my brother walk me down the aisle, so we had to wait until after their month long honeymoon. Since I manage retail, we needed to wait till after Christmas as well.

Met my husband end of July 2011, moved in together around Thanksgiving, pregnant in Feburary - due October 11th, married April 20th (informally engaged before that, but insurance is easier married).

When we decided to go through with the marriage part, I just wanted it over, regardless of insurance or anything else. I don't know how people wait much longer than that! We planned a gorgeous wedding in 4 days and it was everything I have ever hoped for in a wedding; the dress, the location, everything was perfect.