Help me to not kill my mother

I have absolutely nothing helpful to contribute. My mother let my 19 year old boyfriend move in with us when I was 15. She's cooler than me, if I'm being honest.

That's not cool. That's criminal.

Not in the state of Tejas. So yea, still cool.

Are you SUREEEEE you want to move in with your BF???!!!!!! Geez there are some days I'd give anything for an empty house and some G.D. peace and quiet!!!! :laugh:

really easy. I don't talk to my mother. I'm much happier now.

I went for a long time without talking to my mother.....I thought I was happy too.....now she has dementia.....now I'm sad.

:frown: I'm sorry.

So I'm moving in with my boyfriend. Nbd you say. NAY SAY I. My mother is absolutely the scariest person I've ever met. Or been birthed from. She lives in Florida, about 20 hours away from me. I'm contemplated not telling her, but I'm scared that she'll have a dream about it or she'll get her spidey sense going and pray about it and God's going to give me away. (Yes, I'm dead serious.) So I guess I have to kil.... tell her.

So of those living in sin like I'm going to do shortly, how did you tell your parents? Hopefully they're as scary as my mother.

:drinker: <--- I just really wanted to put that in somewhere.

I would tell her. Let her know that you know she may not agree with this but this is your decision. She needs to respect that you are a big girl and this is your choice. Maybe if you are up front with her she will be more understanding??? I'm sorry you are so scared of your mom........I hope your relationship gets better. Life is short, you never know when you have your last moment talking or spending with her. Hope it all goes well

Be an adult. Tell her. When she starts to say she's going to pray tell her that you are fine but if she wants to focus some prayers there are plenty of impoverished kids who could use them. If she starts to rant about it tell her that you are an adult and she needs to deal with the fact that you will make your own decisions and she won't always agree with them. If she continues to harp on and on about it tell her that you'd really like to have a nice conversation but if she can't say anything nice then she shouldn't say anything at all and if she continues you will end the conversation and try again later. She'll either stop or continue. If she stops - congratulations. If she continues say "I'm sorry mom but this topic is closed. Since you can't seem to talk about anything else I will go now and try again in a few days" (or however long between times when you usually talk to her.

^^^ THIS!!!!! you cannot reinforce her negativity by listening to her when she starts talking about how disappointed she is in you. that is when you end the conversation each and every time. no listening, no arguing, just end it. You are an adult. You can handle this!

Are you SUREEEEE you want to move in with your BF???!!!!!! Geez there are some days I'd give anything for an empty house and some G.D. peace and quiet!!!! :laugh:

This. LMAO

Ah, sorry to hear about this. My mother is crazy, but she's crazy in the other direction.

First, my advice to you is to be honest about who you are and what YOU think is right. You don't need to go around with lies weighing you down, it's too hard.

Second, if you're afraid to tell her before you move in, tell her afterward. "Oops, I didn't realize it was a sin! Why didn't God tell me, I prayed about it, and He gave me His blessing." or "Well, God loves me no matter what I do, mom. I'm one of his children, he is more worried about the people that are actually sinning."

Or if you really want to get down to it, you could mention that the bible also says women aren't supposed to speak in church, or wear makeup. Does she do either of those things, because if so, she's a sinner. :devil:

really easy. I don't talk to my mother. I'm much happier now.

I went for a long time without talking to my mother.....I thought I was happy too.....now she has dementia.....now I'm sad.

:frown: I'm sorry.

Life is too short. You never know when you have that last converstion, that last moment with a loved one. Don't take it for granted, spend every day as it were your/their last. Sorry to hear this

I'm dying!

I know exactly what you are talking about... my momma is the same way and God tells her stuff too! Seriously! lol. I would just tell her... my mom doesnt agree with half the stuff I do and corrects me alot but I am about to be 26, have a 8 year old daughter, own my own house and car, and pay my own bills.... so with that being said she just has to love you. My mom does and she has gotten better over the years. She will do non stop prayer if she is anything like my family. I have had my older sister praying to remove my ex out of my life because we were "living in sin" and we broke up. Lol. She might be disappointed but she will get over it..... Good luck and update us. Oh my mom now has a facebook and we are friends..... watching my every move! lol. I love her to pieces!

Is it possible that we share the same mother?
Well, except that my mother is awesome but the whole "I'm so disappointed in you" bit screams mother.

It's so bad that I had my fiance tell her I was pregnant (planned) instead of telling her myself.

Tell her you need to know if he will wear the cowboy hat while you "test drive the merchandise" That should do it...

Oh wait, you wanted advice on how not to kill her? Can't help ya there. :flowerforyou:

Well.... If that boyfriend ever turns out to be the scarriest you ever met.... You might NOTwant to kill your Mom..... Not saying your boyfriend is scarey... But sometimes you never know. It's usually after they get your trust, and isolate you from your friends and family... Never thought it would happen to me. I'm pretty headstrong.. But I remember saying and thinking the same thing as you..... before I learned the real truth about who this guy was.... He turned out to be satans brother... That was 1996 - 1999..... Good thing my caring mother was still there for me. Sometimes Moms worry for good reasons. Sometimes they can see, what our lovestruck selves can't.

Of course that is the VERY worst case senerio... And I hope its nothing like that for you... Good Luck... And don't kill your mom okay. She only means well. Thats her way of caring about you.

Peace Out...