About to give up and just accept im fat

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  • 57silverfox
    57silverfox Posts: 56 Member
    even 2lbs over 12 months is 24 keep going
  • kadinlucas
    kadinlucas Posts: 77 Member
    This is not going to be a popular comment but...
    Had a quick look at couple of days in your diary and it does not seem near complete, and is full of just added calories.
    If you want to seriously give it a go with this site then you need to do it right and log everything, otherwise maybe this site isn't the way as it is primarily for tracking food and exercise. Give it a serious attempt for a few weeks and try to log everything, a half assed attempt is probably not worth the time.
  • RokkinRobin
    RokkinRobin Posts: 13
    Please don't give up! I am having a hard time myself and some days I swear I am starving. If you've lost inches and you're working out, perhaps you are putting on muscle, and since muscle weighs more than fat, that could be what is happening. I know it is hard to stick with it. I've thought about just accepting my fatness too... the pounds will come off, it is just slow. It has taken me a few tries, giving up, trying again. I am finally down 13 pounds, but it has taken like 4 months to get even this far. Don't be discouraged.

    We're all here to help each other!
  • Rylansmommy12
    Rylansmommy12 Posts: 103
    This is not going to be a popular comment but...
    Had a quick look at couple of days in your diary and it does not seem near complete, and is full of just added calories.
    If you want to seriously give it a go with this site then you need to do it right and log everything, otherwise maybe this site isn't the way as it is primarily for tracking food and exercise. Give it a serious attempt for a few weeks and try to log everything, a half assed attempt is probably not worth the time.
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    Like i said before i could nt find the foods in the database. So i just looked at the box and quick added.
    I Did nt know you could add your own food on here.
  • sydnisd183
    sydnisd183 Posts: 247 Member
    Yup.....just keep trying. I'm actually scared to do 30 day shred haha it looks intimidating at least you did 6 days so far. just jump back on in.

    i know it's not cheap to eat well either. in the produce section i look for "manager's specials" (Kroger) they usually have them on the bagged salads. Usually $2.79, they will be marked down to 99 cents. Other than that, potatoes, onions, sweet potatoes are usually cheap. Along with apples 5 for $2, and they had strawberries for $1.88 a carton a few weeks ago.

    most of the bigger stores have their store brand of greek yogurt. mix with a teaspoon of fat free sugar free Jello cheesecake pudding mix, put in a dessert glass, crush up a cookie (a small one haha) and sprinkle on top. Feels like a cheat and you don't feel deprived.

    as far as meats, even if you get 80/20 ground beef just make sure to drain well. i'd also get a whole chicken. i notice a lot of times they have the thigh/drumstick portions for way cheap. i'd de-bone, use the meat for stir frys and the bones for soup stock. plus all this extra peeling, prepping and cooking burns up extra cals. sometimes i get burnt out on all the prep/cook but i try to keep it going.
  • Louiyen
    Louiyen Posts: 69
    Noooooo! Don't give up!!! LIke several of them said, you have to be honest when you count your calories. Most of the time i overestimate. And you mentioned you didn't have much money right? Well that's not a problem b/c I don't have much money either since i'm still searching for a job after college. Yet, i'm doing just fine logging in my calories. Except what i think will really help you in this case is intermittent fasting eating. It's not a diet, just a way of eating at differently timeframes. Msg me if you're interested in knowing more. You can also do research on it on the web. there are several great sources. GL
  • Laura80111
    Laura80111 Posts: 958 Member
    I checked your diary, you really need to be eating better. Your food is high in sodium, fat and carbs. Check out some of the topics on heating healthier foods. Once you start that you should be seeing some results.
  • RuthSweetTooth
    RuthSweetTooth Posts: 461 Member
    You asked what are you doing wrong. I agree with the poster who said that you are living off of processed food. You said you had money problems. Look around and get simpler foods like bags of apples, old-fashioned oatmeal, milk, real raw chicken, carrots, etc. and start cooking more. No more quick added calories. That is bad because you don't know whether you are meeting targets for protein or whatever. When you start cooking, you will be able to eat larger portions and really not feel deprived on your diet. When you diet correctly, you enjoy what you eat, and you enjoy the transformations in your body. The sign that you are not happy does not mean you should quit. It means that you need to change how you are dieting. You should erase all those rewards in your profile ! Love yourself! You are not a child who needs to be punished or rewarded, but a deserving creature that needs to be fed right to thrive. Put your focus on eating right instead of counting calories.
  • LifestyleChange33
    LifestyleChange33 Posts: 169 Member
    Hey this is a lifetime process. You're making good changes for your health. Don't give up on being good to yourself- the rest will follow. :flowerforyou:
  • shanson1313
    shanson1313 Posts: 2 Member
    don't give up, don't give in! You can do it! track those calories and be for real, no guessing. Lots of water, a really good multi-vitamin and good sleep all helped me!
  • emmamiso5
    emmamiso5 Posts: 44
    Watch Extreme Makeover Weight loss edition- its inspiring!
  • MelissaAnn1983
    MelissaAnn1983 Posts: 149 Member
    I agree with what some others are saying. A month isn't enough time. The fact that you lost 5 lbs in a month is pretty good. Think about the times you are weighing. Your sodium intake is through the roof. Work on that and you will see the scale go down. Work out harder. Stop adding quick calories and actually log what you eat. Its ok to do quick calories every once in a while. I hardly do it but I do. I once wanted to give up but I refuse to do it. You can do this. Just give it time.
  • mlscott96
    mlscott96 Posts: 9 Member
    NON SENSE GIVING UP IS NOT AN OPTION!!!! THIS IS TRULY A JOURNEY. I STARTED THIS SIGHT IN JULY AND I ALSO HIT A PLATEU AND WANTED TO GIVE UP. THEN I REMEMBERED THAT THE RACE IS NOT GIVEN TO THE SWIFT AND THE BATTLE TO NOT GIVEN TO THE STRONG, BUT TO THOSE WHO HOLD OUT AND ENDURE :wink: UNTIL THE PERFECT END.

    HANG IN THERE, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO ADD ME TO YOUR FRIENDS LIST. YOU CAN DO THIS. TRUST ME IF I CAN YOU CAN, AS MY WEIGHT HAS ALWAYS BEEN AND ISSUE FOR ME!!!!!
  • mlscott96
    mlscott96 Posts: 9 Member
    ALSO REMEMBER AS A WOMEN WE GAIN WEIGHT DOING OUR PERIOD, A LOT OF WATER WEIGHT SO TAKE THAT IN ACCOUNT
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Losing weight slowly isn't a bad thing. I have restarted my journey in April and I am losing soooooo slooooooowly!!!!! Don't give up on this :wink: We're all here for you!!!! Remember why you are doing this and reach for it. I am doing this for a healthy pregnancy when it does happen :happy:
  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    What you are doing wrong is expecting it all to happen overnight. You didn't gain the weight overnight, nor will you lose it that quickly. I lost 2.2 lbs over the last month and a half and I was thrilled when I found out!

    That said, if your sodium intake is very high, I'd assume the missing pounds you expected to have lost are still on you in the form of water weight. The fact that you are losing inches but not pounds reinforces that assumption (and feels like a win to me in its own right).
  • JenRei87
    JenRei87 Posts: 91 Member
    veggies, chicken, fish and beef are actually a lot cheaper than you think. Take it from someone who also has a very limited budget -_-
  • lengirl75
    lengirl75 Posts: 153 Member
    NO! DO NOT GIVE UP. Give it another month and if you're in the same boat, go see a doctor and see if something else might be affecting you. Stay strong, add me!
    This :smile:
  • moonlightturk
    moonlightturk Posts: 398
    If you wanna give up, give up. It's your choice. Just know that if you end up being miserable - that was your choice too. I mean if you like being fat, sure don't change a thing. But if you want to lose weight it takes patience, consistency, dedication and hardwork!
  • LokiOfAsgard
    LokiOfAsgard Posts: 378 Member
    2 lbs in one month is about 1/2 pound a week. You're doing great! And losing an inch? I didn't even notice that until my 3rd month. Now if you're sodium is a bit high, some of that could be water weight. Also weight fluctuates a lot from day-to-day Past week I think I went up one, down two, then up another until it even out again, so DON'T GIVE UP!
    And besides, the slower yoou lose the weight, the more opt you'll be to keep it off... or so I heard :smile: :flowerforyou: Don't give up, you'll regret it later
  • nekoxvampyx
    nekoxvampyx Posts: 163
    of course your not losing weight your eating pure carbs and carbs are pure sugar theres not nutrients there. also your not counting your calories to the dot. and it doesn't look like your eating enough so whenever you do eat your body is just gonna store that. try doing different exercises do more cardio , lift weights! lifting weights builds muscle and muscle speeds up your metabolism which burns fat. Don't be lazy and give up unless your really happy about being at the weight you are.
  • wrensong27
    wrensong27 Posts: 33 Member
    Don't give up!! It takes time. Plus your weight can fluctuate 2lbs or so depending on what time of day it is....Keep on trying
  • Rylansmommy12
    Rylansmommy12 Posts: 103
    Thanks everyone who was surportive. How offen should i weigh myself?
  • Rylansmommy12
    Rylansmommy12 Posts: 103
    of course your not losing weight your eating pure carbs and carbs are pure sugar theres not nutrients there. also your not counting your calories to the dot. and it doesn't look like your eating enough so whenever you do eat your body is just gonna store that. try doing different exercises do more cardio , lift weights! lifting weights builds muscle and muscle speeds up your metabolism which burns fat. Don't be lazy and give up unless your really happy about being at the weight you are.

    I Dont have money for weights and i dont like muscle on women.
  • reid95
    reid95 Posts: 18 Member
    Could everyone please friend jessiiscutee !!!!!!!
  • sagittarianna
    sagittarianna Posts: 11
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    I think i have high anxety so i can never sleep when i need to.
    I use to take melatoin ( A Herbal pill that helps you sleep)
    I am getting ready to get that again.
    As for stress. Yes i am stressed to the max.
    I Am about to get a job and i been a sahm for almost ten months.
    I Am worried about that also
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    Melatonin is a hormone. Taking too much or too often will mess up your body's ability to make your own. Besides that, you are actually either taking synthetic hormone or pig hormone. I would like to suggest you look into Hylands homeopathic items 1)Calms forte to help you sleep and 2)nerve tonic, for anxiety.
    Hang in there. Don't be so hard on yourself, dear.
  • anamika59
    anamika59 Posts: 37
    Hey girl, don't give up. It could be that you've lost actual fat and have gained muscle (inches lost) as muscle takes up less room than fat. Keep going and don't put too much emphasis on the scale.
  • anamika59
    anamika59 Posts: 37

    I think i have high anxety so i can never sleep when i need to.
    I use to take melatoin ( A Herbal pill that helps you sleep)
    I am getting ready to get that again.
    As for stress. Yes i am stressed to the max.
    I Am about to get a job and i been a sahm for almost ten months.
    I Am worried about that also
    [/quote]

    Melatonin is a hormone. Taking too much or too often will mess up your body's ability to make your own. Besides that, you are actually either taking synthetic hormone or pig hormone. I would like to suggest you look into Hylands homeopathic items 1)Calms forte to help you sleep and 2)nerve tonic, for anxiety.
    Hang in there. Don't be so hard on yourself, dear.
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  • anamika59
    anamika59 Posts: 37
    I think i have high anxety so i can never sleep when i need to.
    I use to take melatoin ( A Herbal pill that helps you sleep)
    I am getting ready to get that again.
    As for stress. Yes i am stressed to the max.
    I Am about to get a job and i been a sahm for almost ten months.
    I Am worried about that also
    [/quote]

    Melatonin is a hormone. Taking too much or too often will mess up your body's ability to make your own. Besides that, you are actually either taking synthetic hormone or pig hormone. I would like to suggest you look into Hylands homeopathic items 1)Calms forte to help you sleep and 2)nerve tonic, for anxiety.
    Hang in there. Don't be so hard on yourself, dear.
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    Try Tryptophan - not a hormone and it is not addictive.
  • SenshiV
    SenshiV Posts: 131 Member
    Woo woo whats going on here you are doing very well?

    One problem is you want to loose weight too fast, as soon as you are loosing weight, why give up? is not like going that way your body will feel guilty and make you thinner faster.

    Just be patient, i see your post every day and you are doing good just don't get to desperate ^^, sometimes you will weight less, sometimes more, sometimes you weight more because you are full with food or water.

    Don't give up.

    I recommend you weighting yourself every week or so, at the same time, in the mornings if you can, clothes off. For example, i weight myself usually every Monday morning.

    If follow some advice here, you will see the scale go down, slowly but steady, one time or the other, it will go up a little, it's normal, happened to me but just said "have to do it better this week' and that's it, don't get discouraged ^^.

    And by the way, don't take loosing inches very seriously, I have lost 18 pounds since I got here, and inches are not going anywhere, even so, something is going away that's no lie. And I'm 218 pounds.

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