How many people know you're doing this?

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  • ashleyconstantine
    ashleyconstantine Posts: 73 Member
    My husband.
    That's it.
    He actually joined the site, and is now doing this with me. :D
  • giftogab
    giftogab Posts: 29
    My cousin told me about this, and I have been telling friends and family as well. I encourage them to check my stats and see what I eat...Honestly I could care less what anyone thinks. This is not a Diet, this is me changing my eating habits and incorporating exercise into my life, which I have not done in a very very very long time. If they have something negative to say, that's their problem. I bask in my own glory, I am doing for me and not them. Yeah I ate a brownie last night for desert....what of it. Im the one working out, Im the one changing my life, I post everything to possibly help others. With so many negative people in the world, you would have to expect negative words about everything in your life, just keep enjoying MFP, make some new friends, motivate others, and DO FOR YOU.
  • JessicaPiche89
    JessicaPiche89 Posts: 59 Member
    I haven't told many IRL friends. I have a group of awesome friends in a moms group that are doing the same so we support each other. It is nice when I post new pictures of myself and have IRL people tell me how awesome I look and how much weight I have lost. :)
  • RedHeadDevotchka
    RedHeadDevotchka Posts: 1,394 Member
    I only am friends with one person on this site and IRL. I like it this way, it's more personal and I don't have to worry about IRL ppl getting offended or questioning me or facebook like drama that can occur.
  • gombolyu
    gombolyu Posts: 136 Member
    Everyone knows it, and I said that this a lifetime change and I do it slowly Everyone was supportive. Some of them didn't understand first, why I eat quite everything, but I am not criticized. I even post photos of my food on my insta, and everyone can see what I eat.:)
  • Melanie_RS
    Melanie_RS Posts: 417 Member
    I don't tell anyone. my family knows b/c they always give me the snide remarks, "ohh go log your calories" or I would just look like a freak frantically pushing in "stuff" on my phone after every meal...so they have to know.

    no wait, I told someone from my fb list just last night i do it only bc i saw she also does it...but she never added me. which I'm fine with...

    sometimes I just don't want all my worlds colliding. i figure if people are smart enough, they can figure it all out on their own, they don't need my "oh I do this" comments. besides, i like watching people do their crazy vinegar, juice, no carb, magic pill, raspberry ketone diets all the time. it saves me the time in trying them and wasting my money. :p
  • sandiegosummer
    sandiegosummer Posts: 55
    I have only told a couple of friends about my commitment to getting healthy and losing weight. One of whom I told b/c I really admire her lifestyle and wanted her to know I wanted in on the hikes, kayak trips, yoga parties and a body pump buddy. The other I told b/c she understands having struggled with weight herself and knows better than to comment or judge.

    Everyone else - esp my male friends--- know nothing. I mean they know I go to the gym everyday, but so does everyone else we know so it's not a big deal. As far as eating and drinking ... I am doing less of it but no one's noticed or said anything thankfully!

    I am looking forward to the time when I don't have to "tell" anyone i am getting fit ...they'll just be able to see it :):)
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    Everyone. Friends, Colleagues, Followers on Twitter and Facebook friends (because they get my updates automatically.)
    ^^this
  • amselby81
    amselby81 Posts: 150 Member
    I've posted on FB that I'm doing MFP, so any friends who've taken notice know. I have a few real life friends who are friends with me on MFP, and my husband knows I'm doing this. I understand the feeling of not wanting people to know b/c you don't want them critiquing everything you put your mouth. And people seem to give unwarranted advice, which is so annoying. It's still good to let people know, b/c it holds you accountable. People know, and you don't want to let them down. If they give unwanted advice, just smile and nod. Tell them you have some leftover calories or you haven't had a cheat day in awhile.
  • mariposa224
    mariposa224 Posts: 1,241 Member
    I am with you on this. Only my husband, kids and 1 friend who is also on this site. And for the same reasons, other wise i get "should you be eating that" or "are you counting that" which is what i got when i was on WW.

    I don't care if people know. I don't necessarily broadcast it, but I don't hide it either. And my 14 year old son asked me the other day whose Coke was in the fridge. I told him it was mine. He thought he needed to give me crap about it. Sigh... If I want a Coke, I'll have a Coke. It's been in in there for weeks, he's just been gone (on vacation with his dad & step mom), so he hadn't noticed it.
  • msprouse8
    msprouse8 Posts: 85 Member
    I let everyone know....keeps me accountable, plus several of my friends have joined with me. So we are doing the plans together and keeping each other motivated.

    This...in fact, several girls I work with are on here. Not that I'm not an honest logger, but if I forgot something...they will remind me. :o)
  • Tony_Brewski
    Tony_Brewski Posts: 1,376 Member
    I do this. I say nothing 'cept.. I've made a life style change. I put down the lame for the lift. If I snitch at a family function I let it slide. LIFE will always happen. Its not a friggin diet its a life style.
  • Desterknee
    Desterknee Posts: 1,056 Member
    My partner knows- he lives with me.
    My mother and brother and ex boyfriend know- They've always given me crap about being overweight and I turn their negativity into positive motivation.
    My friend John knows- He was my weight loss buddy before I joined here. We'd have weekly weigh ins and discuss technique.

    That's it.

    Once someone saw me scanning food into my food diary and asked why. I said "so I can log the calories." She asked "are you on a diet?" I said, "no just keeping track of what I eat."

    I'd rather not tell anyone I am trying to lose weight as a by product of treating the body the way I should. Too many questions and unsolicited advice.
  • elyelyse
    elyelyse Posts: 1,454 Member

    1) If I have the odd bit of chocolate, or a biscuit or something, I don't want people saying 'I thought you were on a diet'!

    If people who know I am watching what I eat comment about something I eat that THEY think is inappropriate, now I can actually be proud of myself and tell them that I've worked it into that day's or week's plan, because watching what you eat doesn't have to mean giving up everything you love to eat. With that perspective, we might even convince other people that eating healthy doesn't have to feel like a punishment!
  • gerripho
    gerripho Posts: 479 Member
    Very few people and for a very good reason. While my medical doctor has bugged me for years about my weight, it wasn't until I started going to a chiropractor for back pain -- which none of the medical doctors fixed -- that I finally found someone sincerely concerned about ME. He and his whole staff were so kind, caring, uncritical, supportive, on-and-on, that I finally got started. After the first ten pounds, I actually told the chiro guy about that little success and asked him to please not say anything about it to his team. When I had lost an even 30 lbs and went in for my bi-weekly appointment, one of his staff asked me, "Have you been loosing weight?" That was the best "high" ever! Well worth keeping it quiet to get a boost like that.
  • Misslisat
    Misslisat Posts: 203 Member
    I tell anyone and everyone who listens or cares. It helps keep me accountable. I don't go overboard with details, but let people know I'm eating a healthier diet and if they ask questions, I tell them about MFP. Some don't care, some offer support, others watch from a distance as if they're going to catch me failing. But in the end, it's my choice, and it's now a healthy one!
  • shannypoo21
    shannypoo21 Posts: 329 Member
    Not many. The friends/family I've told really weren't too interested so I just decided to keep it to myself. They'll find it eventually if they really want to make a change.
  • LoveMyLife_NYC
    LoveMyLife_NYC Posts: 230 Member
    not many people know I'm on this site... mostly because I'm tired of everyone *****ing me out for counting my calories... You're so thin already, you don't need to watch what you eat! Geeze don't you exercise enough already? You keep building muscles, you're going to look like a man... blah blah blah.

    I love my MFP peeps - they're the ones who get that I need to keep getting better! (not thinner)

    My family = gets facebook... I get MFP. :-D

    THIS exactly! How do they think we've gotten the bodies we have? My family also thinks I'm too skinny already. Um, no... I'm just the only one in the family who is at a healthy body weight. Because of all the hard work and calorie counting. And yes, I need to continue all that exercise to tone my body and keep it that way.
  • gvheintz
    gvheintz Posts: 138 Member
    Great question. Um. Not sure.

    I had some members of my parish ask if I was losing weight. It was only after about 5 lbs and I shrugged it off. I guess I don't like announcing my weight to the world. I feel it is my struggle. If I think the person would be a help and encouragement, I don't mind them knowing. If I know someone might be less than helpful and start making unhelpful comments or start telling everyone ... I don't mention anything.

    I'm a single guy and haven't told family. Like some other posters mentioned, I have certain people who scrutinize everything I eat (Mom, I'm 37 years old now...).

    I have some real life friends who I "friended" on here ... so they know.
  • brandy2076
    brandy2076 Posts: 37 Member
    Its kind of personal and I'm not doing it for anyone other than myself so I don't really make it public. If someone asks, I let them know. But I don't open with "Hi, I'm Brandy and I'm changing my lifestyle. Nice to meet you." People see the difference and ask. I say I am just watching what I eat and being more active. Usually enough to make them happy.

    But my sister and I are doing it. She lost 100lbs and I've lost about 23lbs and so its going pretty well!
  • 1Kristine1
    1Kristine1 Posts: 697 Member
    I don't tell anyone for the same reasons that I don't want to be judged or have people watch what I eat- I KNOW I'm doing well, I don't want other people's opinions on how to do it and quite honestly the fact that a lot of people haven't said anything about my very obvious 13 kg loss goes to show how supportive they would be.

    On the other hand, when people do notice they can't really appreciate how hard I've worked for it because they don't know what I'm doing so they think it's been much easier than it has and I must just be somehow lucky to lose weight so easily!
    ^This. But my family knows and a few of my closer friends. I still get the "should you really be eating that" or "oh your not going to eat that?" from my mom occasionally. Since I have been pretty successful its okay, but if I put on weight Im sure that would be a little embarassing.
    What bothers me is that when people whine about being overweight and ask me what I am doing, I tell them enthusiastically about the site and offer to help them set up their account and calculate cals/day. Then they never get going with the weight loss or dont bother to take my advice. I guess ppl will lose weight when they are ready.
  • deannakittygirl
    deannakittygirl Posts: 228 Member
    I have told mom and sister and friends I see often. the day I signed up to this site I shared site info on facebook and explained what it was. I have not shared my weight or how much I have lost on facebook (a few friends know). I have been sharing a workout challenge that I am doing on facebook. no one really seems interested to try the workouts or this site for that matter. unfortunately I think they want to hear that I am taking diet pills or starving to lose weight. when some people gave noticed my size getting smaller and asked what i do, I can see the disappointment when I tell them just exercise and changing eating habits. everyone wants that magic pill!
  • emtb319
    emtb319 Posts: 87
    I've told everyone and even gotten a few people to join the site. The only thing that I don't like about my journey this time around is that people are giving me unsolicited info and some are even trying to sabotage my progress. I'm gonna prove them all wrong and push forward.
  • jeezekaitlynn
    jeezekaitlynn Posts: 18
    I haven't told anyone except my parents and my boyfriend. I would rather not tell anyone, for mainly the reasons that you have mentioned.
  • Tors1984
    Tors1984 Posts: 25
    Morning all,

    I was just wondering how many people you have told about this site, that you're trying to lose weight, etc?

    I have only told my husband that I'm actually calorie counting and a friend who is on here already and recommended the site to me. I mentioned in passing to my Mum that I'm eating healthily at the moment ready for the IVF, but not that I'm trying to lose a bit of weight.

    I don't want to tell people this time round for several reasons:

    1) If I have the odd bit of chocolate, or a biscuit or something, I don't want people saying 'I thought you were on a diet'!
    2) It's not a diet, this is now my new way of life - eating healthily and treating my body the way it should be treated.
    3) I am losing weight at a nice and slow pace and am focusing on being healthy, rather than losing weight quickly.


    What are your thoughts? :)

    I totally agree.
    I've told my parents and a few friends that I trust. I'm also trying to overcome BED which all my friends and even my family have insisted is just a lack of self control and that I shouldn't be asking for help for it, which you can imagine makes things difficult. That and some of my friends will wave chocolate in my face every time I pass within a day of me saying the words 'losing weight'

    I used to have BED so if you ever want to have a chat, let me know! I have had a few lapses since having treatment for it, but I would say more in the opposite way, where I've gone to the extremes of not eating enough, but I haven't had a proper binge binge with that uncontrollable feeling for about 8 years now! It's not a lack of self control, it's a demon to fight! I'm here if you need me!!
  • musicgirl99
    musicgirl99 Posts: 252 Member
    My husband and my mom know. That's it. I don't like people knowing as I feel that opens things up for judgement. In my opinion, it's really no one's business what your personal goals are especially if they are not going to contribute to them in a positive way or add support. Just me though.
  • Tors1984
    Tors1984 Posts: 25
    No one except for my husband and a family member that also uses MFP.
    I feel like I am not taken seriously by anyone else because the only person that sees the effort im putting in to this is my husband.
    And weight loss is personal for me! Ive always been the chunky girl.

    Just so you know, you look beautiful in your profile picture!
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    It isn't a secret anymore, I'm just about 1/2 the size I was two years ago so people tend to notice!!!
  • ckay220
    ckay220 Posts: 271 Member
    My mom, my sisters, my boyfriend, and three of my friends from school..that's about it, I don't have a problem telling anyone, it just never comes up that much.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    People know I'm losing weight, I comment occasionally about my running, but I try not to talk about it like it's the only topic I can come up with. I don't want to antagonize people or bore them, I just let the results do the talking. If they ask about something, I will certainly answer, but I rarely bring up the subject, myself.

    It's like when you're a new mom and so much of your baby's health and the quality of your day depends on the baby's poop. No one gets this unless they are in the same boat. Don't talk about baby poop or fitness unless that person is knee deep in it, themselves.

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