No compliments on weight loss...

my family and coworkers have all noticed and have said something, but my friends and people I went to school with have not.

weird huh. I guess it can be awkward to comment on weight loss, or people might just be jealous.

It is awesome when someone works hard to lose weight for the right reasons. A lot of us have mindsets about the way we see ourselves. I have lost over 100 pounds since my surgery but I gained back about 20 due to a variety of setbacks. I still see myself the way I did when i weighed 309. I know in my mind that I really do look different but "seeing " it is hard. With that being said, there could be so many reasons why people are not complimenting you. The most obvious assumption would be jealousy. How many of them have been trying to lose weight and are not succeeding? Have you been open about your efforts and willing to discuss your progress with others who are dealing with these same issues? Does your work place discourage person talk during business hour? Are you really close to these people enough so that they would feel comfortable approaching you? I have an acquaintance who has lost 182 pounds but is so closed off about it that people are afraid to even mention the subject. Be careful what you wish for. When my loss got to be noticeable, I ran into a friend whom I had not seen in about15 years When I spoke to her & she finally realized who I was, her first words were " Gosh, I didn't recognize you, you look like you lost about a million pounds!" Always quick with a response, I said " No, not a million but close". Then wished her a good day and walked off. The next time I saw her she apologized right off the bat saying that she never meant for it to come out that way, that she was simply amazed that I had lost so much and that I looked really good. We laughed about it but it still made me question what other people had seen before & what they were seeing now. The bottom line is simply this. You did this for yourself and that is the only person who' s opinion counts! Don't depend on others to compliment you, do it yourself. Then you will know the words spoken are sincere. Good luck with your continued success. One other thing, when people realize you don't need to hear them they usually become more vocal.

I have lost 51 pounds in 5 months and most of my "family and friends" don't say a word. It feels horrible, but these people and I have not been on friendly terms. On the other hand it feels horrible, because we were so close just right before I started this journey and they know how much I needed this and they still don't care. But I know that I have done sooo much for myself that it doesn't matter how they react. They will be looking like the douche bags when I'm 80 lbs down and they still haven't said a thing!

Some people might be jealous.

I noticed a co-worker had lost some (a lot of?) weight and mentioned that I noticed. I did not imply that it was good or bad, just that I noticed. I did not speak with her beforehand about weight or other health issues. I put it on her to continue on the subject. Basically, she said "Yes, I did." She didn't get excited or go into the hows and whys of it, so I just let it go.

I have a friend who had major health problems that was only exacerbated by the extra weight she was carrying. After she had surgery to lose weight, I commented on how glad I was that she had lost so much weight. I was comfortable telling her that because we had talked about it before.

For me, it's awkward for someone to mention out of the blue about weight loss (or gain) when I know we had not discussed it before. Some people are very sensitive about talking about weight loss often because they have their own weight issues. Do not take it at all personally that people "don't notice" your changes. It's very possible that they do notice and simply don't say anything to you for entirely their own reasons.

I have two aunts who suddenly "gained weight" in two very localized places, but I would never mention it to them out of the blue. I would totally let them open that subject if they were so inclined.

Hugs for you and I feel your pain, I too work at a school and people say nothing but is that all you' re going to eat for lunch?? :laugh: the jokes on them, I plan on being around to enjoy retirement, them well.....

I'm a teacher and can relate so well to this and a few of the other comments from teachers! I became vegan last November, lost 20 pounds pretty quickly, and no one said anything at school. All I hear is, "When are you going to eat meat again?" or get weird looks at my healthy lunches. I've been teaching a long time but it never ceases to amaze me how teachers act when there are situations like this.
Everyone have a great school year and I hope everybody gets recognized for their efforts, too.

I know how you feel. When I was younger I took up bike riding and weight lifting. I lost a lot of weight and the only difference I noticed was, people stopped calling me "Fat *kitten*" and "Chunkers".

:flowerforyou: Just keep up the hard work, they'll pay off soon. You always have us here on MFP.

I have never found anyone jealous when I lose weight. Only compliments.

First of all....CONGRATS!! Losing weight takes determination, sacrifice and hard work. It is a HUGE lifestyle change and you should be congratulated!!

I have lost 55 pounds so far. Went from a tight size 20 to an 11/12. I am a nurse and wore the same scrubs for awhile so people started noticing when my scrubs started looking more like loose fitting pajamas! Also, I wear more form fitting clothes and people notice.

Don't take it too personally that people aren't giving you a big high 5. Weight is a really touchy subject when it comes to women (and some men). Just keep posting your progress on the MFP boards...you will get plenty of congrats!!

Keep up the great work!

I commented on your achievement

That can be a double edged sword,,,,,people have said to me,," you look great" and i think,,i thought i looked good before too,,,i am a sexy 55 yrd old nana with some extra weight,,lol,,,if they dont like it,,dont look at it,,,ya know what i mean? :flowerforyou:

I commend you for all your efforts. People that did not notice, just weren't paying attention.
It's how you feel. You know your accomplishments. Maybe a before and after pic would make
you feel better.

You have just given me inspiration as a newbie to this site. I challenge people to notice and
if they don't, I will say, hey "Look at me"< I am down __ pds and I feel healthy, How are you feeling?

Have a wonderful day..

My Motto:

HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT

Kathy in Ms. :flowerforyou: