I'm so FLIPPIN' tired of this!!!

You guys are all AMAZING!!!! Thank you all for commenting and helping me through. You all actually made me feel 10,000 times better!!!!!! I need to work on moderation. Now where's that Snickers bar??!!!! And I'm still going to Crossfit! XOXO's to you guys!!!! THANK YOU!!!

But the number 1 thing I always tell myself... do not allow it to make you feel bad or guilty. That can only lead to other negative things and is not healthy in the long run. NEVER LET FOOD MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY! Heck, I am going out this week with a friend and will most likely have a burger, fries, and beer and I won't feel an ounce of guilt about it. Why? Because I want to have those moments... and the place we are going has an AWESOME burger lol!

I Know exactly how you feel i love some white wine!! Im not drinking any for a month and it is hard but i can do it! You can too! But when i do drink it next month i ll make sure i have enough calories for it! Gl

I don't understand why you feel you need so many rules. Fit your wine and snickers bar in every day. I would go nuts if I tried to eat by some of the "rules" these people have.

this.

I hear ya. I get tired of rules so I've allowed myself to have treats, I just have to MAKE myself use moderation. Sometimes, my moderation is too much. I have to deal with those choices and move on. I'm taking very slow weight loss over a restricted diet because in the long run, I won't be restricting my foods forever.

Saying "Oh I've already ruined my good eating for the day, I'll just eat like crap", is like saying "oh I dropped my cellphone on the ground, I'll just smash it until it breaks".

I wouldn't let it bother you. Just fit it in your calories for the day. I go over sometimes and I'm still losing weight! You will do this!

I really like this quote. I need to remember this

look at it like this: a glass of wine is what about 100 calories? if you go over your calorie goal by 100 calories EVERYDAY, but the end of the week, you've added 700 calories. it takes 3500 calories in a pound. so you're still in a negative 2800 for the week.

do the math. the extra here and there aren't going to hurt you. it may slow down your progress, but that may motivate you to burn the extra 700 calories a week.

personally, if i get to dinner, and we EAT dinner, steak and potatoes round here, and i've used all my calories for the day, or i'm over, i MAKE myself get back on the elliptical. even if its 30 minutes at half speed.

i love sweets and goodies, and i refuse to live without them. this is a lifestyle change. i can't live without the things i love.... and nobody should have to. you have to find a balance. sometimes it does suck. especially on the weeks i work really hard and don't see much loss on the scale.

you have to love yourself more than you love food.

i sometimes feel the same way and i could be why i never seem to "stay on track" on the weekends. i like my wine i like eating comfort foods i'm not a big junk food person (haven't had mcds or bk or any of those places since i started this and i don't miss them). i miss comfort food, real food and i'll never give up my wine (i don't mean this in a i have a problem way either). why not eat the candy - look at it this way. you COULD eat a super sized candy bar OR you could get your fix from a mini and move on. be done with it. i've found if i restrict myself too much i end up eating TOO MUCH like the entire bag of minis instead of just one. i wait SO LONG to enjoy it that by the time i get around to enjoying it i want the damn candy bar so badly i can't stop at one. now THAT ruins a workout. one mini won't destroy everything you've accomplished in a day. if you're only reason for working out is to loose weight then you're not going to do it. find something you enjoy doing then it won't feel like you're working out just to loose weight. maybe change up your routine, throw yourself a curve ball. heck join a baseball team. curve ball made me think of that one.

i've learned to not be so hard on myself. if i restrict myself where i'm stressing over everything i eat then i KNOW I'LL FAIL! like i said weekends for me are the hardest but i make sure i have a good healthy breakfast and i make sure to have a good healthy snack. if i know i'm going to indulge in wine and cheese and burgers and pizza okay not all at the same time - i make SURE i go for a run because it gives me the added calories so i can indulge. i would rather go for the run and have the extra calories so i can indulge then go over. yes i am exercising for the sake of over indulging but it's better than NOT exercising AND over indulging.

At some point you are going to have to decide what's more important to you - your sanity or you weight.

Venting: I feel so frustrated!!!! Why can't I just put down the crap food and wine??? It's not fast food or going out that is the problem. It's my stupid "comfort" foods at home. Getting off of work and enjoying some wine feels great…though it doesn't feel nearly as great as the feeling I have after I workout. And I know that! Yet, after a week or 2 of working out, counting calories, not eating this or not eating that, I get tired. Tired of all the flippin' limitations! I don't want to count calories or feel like I can't eat this or know that if I drink another glass of wine it's messing up what I've been working at. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't starve myself when I'm watching calories. I love lifting weights, so I take in about 1500-1600 calories a day WHEN I do what I am suppose to do. I don't drink alcohol WHEN I'm on my nutrition kick. But, it's the "don't eat that", "don't drink that", "I know you're tired, but you have to go workout", rules rules rules!! Just writing them makes me feel overwhelmed. It's not hard to lose weight, it comes off when I cut out the bad stuff (cheese…gee whiz. I do love cheese) and workout 4-5 days a week. On average, I lose 2 lbs a week when I do what is needed. But, by week 3 and week 4, I'm so tired of all the "don't do's", I stop. I'm tired you guys. Tired of failing. Tired of counting. Tired of looking at this journey as "all in or nothing." For instance, right now, I could actually go for a little Snickers bite size candy. But, I feel if I eat that, it's just ruining everything! Why eat candy if I'm going to Crossfit to workout today after work??? Knowing I ate junk makes me not want to go workout because I feel like I've already ruined it and it won't matter (I haven't eaten bad today, this is just an example on the days when I do eat something bad.) Any comments or suggestions would be so helpful you guys. I want to succeed this time!

I hear ya sister. I have been dealing with this issue for 25 years...get all motivated, go on a diet, deprive myself, lose weight, get bored with my limited food selection or life just happens (lose my job, move, etc) and before I know it, I'm back to eating the way I was before the diet and not only gain the weight back but more! It's a vicious cycle! I have finally found something that is working for me - I eat whatever i want on Sunday and follow my eating plan and stay under my calorie limit the other 6 days of the week. Now, I'm not saying that once in awhile I don't eat something "i'm not supposed to" during those 6 days but mostly, I don't because I know on Sundays I can eat it all day if I want to. Now I know this sounds scary but I've been doing this for 6 weeks and I've lost 8 pounds. Maybe I would have lost more weight if I didn't have my free day but it's what's keeping me going so it doesn't matter much to me if I would have lost 12 pounds as opposed to 8. I'm in this for the long haul - I'm not trying to lose more than a pound a week. In a year, I'll weight 52 pounds less than I do now instead of weighing 10 pounds more because I couldn't stick with it. I feel like I can do this for a lifetime because I don't feel deprived. When I first started this plan, I started planning on Wednesday for what I would eat on Sunday...I was counting the days till Sunday. Now, I just think about it once in awhile but I don't live for Sundays anymore. In fact, while I do enjoy my free day, I also look forward to getting back to eating healthy because I feel better when I do.

One of my main goals this time around is that I want this to be a lifestyle, not just a diet - it's got to be something I can live with for the rest of my life. I can't live without certain foods for the rest of my life but I can live without them for 6 days at a time. So find a way that you can follow your diet plan so you lose weight but also give yourself permission to enjoy your special foods. If you keep track of your calories on this site, you could have them every day as long as you stay within your calorie limit. Ask yourself, how can I make this work for a lifetime?

I admire your courage to be so vulnerable and honest! You will find a way that works for you because you're wanting to find it. Ask and you shall receive. Keep us updated on how you do.

Dont deprive yourself or you wont enjoy what you are doing. It's ok to have a small treat....remember everything in moderation. A glass of wine wont hurt nothing...heck red wine actually has many health benefits.

I am now down to a size 4 from a 10, but guess what...I still have a glass of red wine every now and then, fried chicken here and there (but now instead of a 6 wings, I get 1 or 2), instead of the whole cake, I now will buy a slice of my most favorate red velvet cake every so often, etc. Because I know that I now eat 80-85% healthy as opposed to the way it was before when it was 80-85% unhealthy.

You will benge and fall of the wagon if you don't endulge sometimes. But just make compromises. Instead of that whole snickers a bite sized one or some healthy dark chocolate. Have 1 glass of wine. You get it. But don't give up because this is a lifestyle and you gotta live this journey for the rest of your life. Set realistic expectations for yourself.