Part of me really wants to stop getting on here...

when it comes to eating right everyone always has something to say good or bad, all you can do at this point is look out for you, sure its good to have some motivation but you have to try and motivate yourself even more, dont leave because of the negativity honey, just do you ok?

You need to develop thicker skin if you're going to interact with people on the Internet, particularly if you're going to ask random strangers for advice, Also, the absolute worst thing you can do is play the "Why is everyone being so mean to me?" card. No matter what it may feel like to you, I promise you nobody here has made it his/her personal mission to hurt your feelings. Some people are going to be friendlier and more supportive than others because that is their nature. Some people may just be giving you a harsh glimpse of reality because that is THEIR nature, and you are taking it more brutally than they intended it because you are sensitive.

I think most people who lose a lot of weight and successfully keep it off come to the realization that it is really freaking hard and requires some intestinal fortitude that most people simply do not have and will never have. In fact, most people who claim they are trying to lose weight are really just trying to prove to themselves that it is impossible so that they can give up and feel good about it. That is why you see a lot of "mean" people on this website. Many of us are sick of seeing all the nonsense like "I've tried to eat 700 calories a day, but it's not working, and I feel like giving up" or "I stood still for 3 hours today, and damn it, I'm going to log those calories." It makes it impossible to be able to have adult conversations about real weight-loss, and considering that is what this site is supposed to be used for, a lot of us are quite frustrated about it. I can't tell you how many people I know who have lost 70, 80, even 100+ pounds who have walked away from MFP because their advice, which is based on months and years of hard-won experience, is now considered "mean" or "rude" or "unsupportive" by the moderators because this site is full of trigger-happy crybabies who don't want to be told they aren't trying hard enough. I am not saying you are one of those. I'm just trying to explain why not everyone gives advice that is full of sunshine and rainbows and unicorns.

Taboo subjects:

Fast food
Chain restaurants
Processed foods
Fad diets
Dessert
1200 calorie diets
Not being able to eat all your calories
Not liking fruits and/or vegetables
Logging cleaning

Some MFPer's get alittle testy on these subjects. I'm sure there are more but these are the ones that can get mean. Personally I think they all need some chocolate ;-) It's better to post a question on these subjects in a group forum rather than the mainboard. I notice the groups tend to be nicer in answering those kinds of questions. Although I wouldn't ask the 'clean eating' group the V8 question, that'd go badly!!

About a year or so ago I made an attempt to use MPF. It was a horrid experience. I quite. I gained weight. I checked out other websites of similar design, there are many of them. I found that most of them are the same. I forgot that the world is full of douche bags with nothing better to do than bring others down. The internet seems to bring out the worst of them. My best advice to you, learn to ignore them.

MFP can be a great tool and there are some fabulous people on here. It can also make you crazy and piss you off. I read so much erroneous information on here every day I cringe repeatedly. People spout opinion as fact, belittle those that don't think the same as they do and generally make a nuisance of themselves. Gladly, they are very easy to ignore.

I read through most of your posts and I will make one suggestion that is meant as constructive criticism and with your profile stating you want to become a published writer it's something that should be important to you anyway. Work on your typing, check your spelling. Nothing brings out the trolls faster than bad grammar and poor spelling.

Hehe, that makes me think of the meme for how the internet has more effect on a persons grammar compared to an English teacher. xD

But in regards to the OP ignore the trolls. They feed on your replies. There are douche bags EVERYWHERE. On these forums, on another sites forums, on youtube comments, wow forums, the mall, you name it, there's probably a douche or two sitting around waiting for the moment to ruin someones day. There are a lot of nice people on here, focus on them. Surround yourself with supportive and nice people and focus on the reason you're here. To lose weight. I post stuff, and I don't care what people say, I speak my mind, period. If they don't like it, oh well, they have that right. If they want to write some more crap about how terrible I am, go for it. I don't care, I'm a nice person. I will support and offer reasonable, realistic, and legit advice to any one. If I'm wrong, then I'll admit it, say I'm sorry, and try to fix it.

Don't quit over idiots. If you want, feel free to add me. I'll gladly cheer you along the way.

coming from someone that can be seen as rude and sarcastic at times, it just depends on what i am responding to.

if someone legitimently posts up asking for help and asking the right questions on how to eat and exercise, i will respond properly and curteously.

if someone asks how many calories kneading bread or cleaning burns, then i'm going to be less then nice. because those are also the people that will post up in three weeks asking why they aren't losing weight, even though they "exercise" and are only eating over their calories five days a week and not seven.

maybe people and myself have a bit of a chip on our shoulders because we are so commited to changing ourselves, that we do our best to make it happen, and we find so many people trying to cheat the system. to me it seems like they are saying "oh, i don't have to work out as hard as you do to get results." like my time and energy was wasted.

you did not seem to ask any silly questions, but it's a little early in your posting history to be hurt over what people say. i suggest that you start paying more attention the answers you do like, and not the answers you don't like.

and remeber, not agreeing with you ≠ being a jerk

Every group has its rude idiots. Learn to ignore them, they don't matter. There is a wealth of information here, don't let the morons keep you from gleaning what you need from the site. You'll soon figure out who the jerks are. They don't matter, achieving your goals are all that matter.

a lot of people on here are probably just cranky because they are starving lol try to ignore them. there are a lot of nice people here too.

LMAO so true!

try to stay on your own profile with friend you have added and try not to pay much attention...life is to short just ignore and enjoy you life

Hang in there and build a friend network. Use them for your positive encouragement and support.

Aww.. I kind of (sort of) felt the same way when I started this, but then I remembered: whatever I'm doing here, I'm doing it for ME, not for anyone else. So in the end, it doesn't matter how cranky MFPers are, because it shouldn't affect my progress or my life regardless of whether or not I use the site (if that makes sense).

I'm glad you were able to find a few people who you can rely on for motivation; I'd love to be one of them if you want to add me!

Excellent response! You are the kind of friend she needs!