What weightloss does to people

I know a few people who have lost weight. A couple of them have become extremely superficial and straight up selfish and slutty.

They might have been bullied for being overweight and now feel the need to overcompensate, and maybe to exert their new power by bullying others. When people who were bullied are in a new position where they have more power, they can sometimes become like the people who bullied them, in order to feel powerful.

I think it's a lot about self-perception too. I mean, if someone has always despised herself for being fat, and she sees thin people as superior and fat people as inferior, then when she becomes thin, it stands to reason that she will see herself as being superior and despise the fat people. The fat people will represent her despised former self that she has tried so hard to get away from, and she needs to prove herself by showing that she is not 'one of them'. I've seen this happen a lot with unpopular people who become popular, or shy people who become talkative. But it only happens if a person really despised themselves and felt inferior - the self-hatred gets transferred onto others. if you have a healthy self-esteem, and don't despise yourself for being a certain size, then you won't change once you lose weight.

You're a little young to be this bitter already, no?

Ha !

Some people do become superficial. Perhaps they like the new attention because they never received it before. If they are talking down to you there is no reason to have them in your life or share your journey. Sourround yourself with people who are encouraging, build you up, and hold you up in tough times. Be sure to check yourself and make sure you aren't being overly sensative. Maybe their comments truly are coming from a place of help.

Chances are those people were like that on the inside before. They were too ashamed to behave in that manner.
I have found that it doesn't change you but, it reveals you.

This ^^ or have you ever thought that maybe...juuuuuuust maybe they're not used to getting the attention they've craved for so long and they're finally getting it? That in itself can cause someone to go absolutely wild if they're not able to handle it.

Agreed

I know a few people who have lost weight. A couple of them have become extremely superficial and straight up selfish and slutty. These people have changed so much that I actually get a little apprehensive about losing weight. Why are people like this? I would think that weightloss would make you humble and very into helping others that were once in your shoes. Any chance one of these people get they try making me feel bad because they were once as big as me and they try to show off and say little double meaning comments about me. I just don't get it and it makes me worry, if I lose weight am I going to become like this? Yes weightloss will make you healthier and more fit but does it really make you a better person?

Or maybe your just overly sensitive and unperceptive. Maybe, they really are trying to help you, but it comes across insulting to you because they are already skinny. Think if a larger person said these things to you and say they've already lost 100 lbs but have another 100 to lose would you feel the same? Maybe, it's not them. Maybe, it's you.

There is no one as self-righteous as an "ex" something. An ex-smoker is unbearable because they can no longer stand being around smoke. They become allergic to it. I know. I am one. Ex fat folks are much the same. Ex poor folks who get rich are often that way too.

I see a number of people here who were once fat or obese and now slim and trim and even athletic. They tend to talk very authoritatively about weight loss and health and sort of look down on those still in the struggle. Not all of them are that way, however. In life, there are people you're going to like being around and many others you will detest being around. Just choose not to have those people who annoy you or who feel superior to you in your group of friends and write them off wherever you see them post.

Yes, I agree with the sentiment that it was always within them. Maybe the fat acted as a filter for that behavior?

I think once I get rid of my "Fat Shield" with +5 awkwardness, I'll be the same person.

I hope my fat isn't filtering a honey boo boo child.

This is the best thing I've read all morning. :laugh:

I know a few people who have lost weight. A couple of them have become extremely superficial and straight up selfish and slutty. These people have changed so much that I actually get a little apprehensive about losing weight. Why are people like this? I would think that weightloss would make you humble and very into helping others that were once in your shoes. Any chance one of these people get they try making me feel bad because they were once as big as me and they try to show off and say little double meaning comments about me. I just don't get it and it makes me worry, if I lose weight am I going to become like this? Yes weightloss will make you healthier and more fit but does it really make you a better person?

I think your concern about changing into this kind of person is enough to show that you WILL NOT behave that way.

What's wrong with being slutty?

I would think that weightloss would make you humble and very into helping others that were once in your shoes.

It does (the helping others part at least).

However ex-fat people can see right through the excuses, half truths, and weaknesses of fat people. For many fat people their lives are built on them. People who haven't been fat are often lacking in this vision, because they haven't been there.

A lot of fat people aren't ready to hear the truth. Being humble also means being an enabler of the excuses, half truths, and weaknesses that are keeping you fat. The ex-fat have learned how to be harsh and unweilding with ourselves, to not accept excuses and weakness.

The ex fat can only show you the door. If you don't want to see the door, you certainly aren't willing to step through it.

Anyone know what a honey boo boo child is? I desperately need to know this now.

i think sometimes a person is faced with the fact that they look good and for once in their life they can show it off. maybe that is the reason for the "slutty"... the "selfish" may be just wanting to maintain looking good or wear things that flatter them... the "superficial" maybe along the same lines, happy how they look so want to focus on it... it is a mind change too and i think for some people they have the "i'll show them" attitude about how good they look. it's not always a bad thing but depends on the person. i do know a few people who have lost weight and they dont' seem that way (superficial, selfish, slutty) so i'm not sure. probably depends on one's outlook.

What's wrong with being slutty?

nothing so long as your on the right side of 30?

WTF??

I jest!

Phew!

When I lost a few pounds last year I was all happy and cheerful and then when I stalled I became cranky and angry all the time.

I think it can be several things.

They are simply happy and proud of themselves and brag about it and how they did it. It is an achievement and reason to brag a bit. I hate how people expect others to be humble when they achieve something. Loosing weight is not a reason to be humble. It is a reason to celebrate.

Another thing, overweight and obese people tend to have low self easteam. not all but many do. They want to be liked and agree to things and try to be nice. With loosing weight they gain confidence and stop leting others push them around and others don't like it. Maybe they just finally do what they always wanted but didn't dare instead of agreeing with everybody so they like them. Ask yourself, what exactly do they do that piss you off. Maybe they are not as helpfull and supportative and go out of their way to help you but finally live their lifes.

Third thing. You say they shoudl be supportative. I guess they already completed the journey others are on. Maybe they hear them make all the excuses they made themselves and instead of nodding "Yes loosing weight is hard. Ofcourse cheating a bit is understandable." they simply tell how the things really are, That the only way to do it is to stop complaining, stop making excuses and start getting seriosu about it. But peoiple don't like hearing this. They prefere being patted on the head and if tehy are not tehy believe they are not getting support.

You didn't state what do they exactly do that annoy you so it is hard to say and saying "I'm afraid of becoming *kitten* when I loose weight" just sounds like an excuse.