Smoking Neighbours

After reading this entire thread [I love these forums.] I've noticed that the OP is the rudest person contributing to this conversation.

Oh, and take my previous comment: go blow a dead goat.

He was there first, you didn't check out the apartments tenants before you moved there, and you're demonizing the man and refusing to even consider talking to him.


Put a fan near the window to blow the smoke out.
Chill out.
Talk to him tomorrow.



Or, you know.. Overreact and move out because you were too immature to talk to the person and/or find another resolution.

By nature, smoking is rude because they can't consume 100% of the pollution. What other voluntary behavior enters other people's bodies without permission? Spoils the taste of their meals? We have to understand that smokers are often defensive because they would rather not face that they're trapped in an addiction.

However, unlike forums and anonymous letters, most people react positively in person when someone politely informs them of a discomfort they're causing. Letting someone know that each time he/she smokes, you know it because your windows are open may just be enough to reduce (probably not eliminate) it. Talk of allergies and illness may be less effective, because it's hard to convince someone comfortable in a thick cloud that the invisible smell that annoys you is significant. Letting the landlord know why you want an accommodation may have a long-term benefit, if enough of us do so. That's how restaurants and hotels have learned not to be cowed by aggressive smokers.

Most importantly, don't take it personally because the smoking is not meant to be against us. Smokers are just blind (or the olfactory equivalent) to how much it takes away from others' quality of life. Be sure that the owner, not just the manager, knows why you've decided to find a new place next year. Good luck!

By nature, smoking is rude because they can't consume 100% of the pollution. What other voluntary behavior enters other people's bodies without permission? Spoils the taste of their meals? We have to understand that smokers are often defensive because they would rather not face that they're trapped in an addiction.

However, unlike forums and anonymous letters, most people react positively in person when someone politely informs them of a discomfort they're causing. Letting someone know that each time he/she smokes, you know it because your windows are open may just be enough to reduce (probably not eliminate) it. Talk of allergies and illness may be less effective, because it's hard to convince someone comfortable in a thick cloud that the invisible smell that annoys you is significant. Letting the landlord know why you want an accommodation may have a long-term benefit, if enough of us do so. That's how restaurants and hotels have learned not to be cowed by aggressive smokers.

Most importantly, don't take it personally because the smoking is not meant to be against us. Smokers are just blind (or the olfactory equivalent) to how much it takes away from others' quality of life. Be sure that the owner, not just the manager, knows why you've decided to find a new place next year. Good luck!

He was living there first. There are steps she can take to prevent the smoke from entering. She should have done her due diligence.

I realize that in the land of the "free," everyone is allowed to walk all over everyone else, and "first come-first serve" is how things work, but up here, where everyone has equal rights, it doesn't matter if the guy smoking were the pope, I still have the right to live in a comfortable environment, windows open or closed.

I totally agree with the above. Wow, what a bunch of jerks and you know who you are. Can't you find something more productive to do with your time than pick on the OP and make rude comments and misspell abhorr?

By nature, smoking is rude because they can't consume 100% of the pollution. What other voluntary behavior enters other people's bodies without permission? Spoils the taste of their meals? We have to understand that smokers are often defensive because they would rather not face that they're trapped in an addiction.

Driving automobiles and factories. But nobody minds that do long as they can get a $5 shirt and a whopper.

It's interesting how it's ok to give other people cancer.

I've never seen a lease where tenants are permitted to smoke in the property.

Good point well made.

I assume the obnoxious bros on the thread are the variety of smoker who assert 'you can take my cigarette from my cold dead hand'.

Obviously it's *entirely unreasonable* that a non-smoker not want to indulge in someone else's death wish.

I'm a non-smoker and abhorr cigarettes.

Sames.

Just because you dont like something doesn't mean you should take away others right to do that thing

And how could anyone not like being slowly poisoned by someone else's habit.... yeah that makes perfect sense. He's free to choose to poison her, and all she needs is a little air freshener.

Rofl

And how could anyone not like being slowly poisoned by someone else's habit.... yeah that makes perfect sense. He's free to choose to poison her, and all she needs is a little air freshener.