What weightloss does to people

Hi,

Just because someone has lost the weight, doesn't mean they have figured out their issues as to why they gained the weight or were heavy in the first place. I've read all sorts of articles where people who lose weight turn to other addictions such as: alcohol, pills, shopping, men etc. when they haven't dealt with their issues/behavior patterns. And as others have mentioned; some people are not used to the attention they receive once they do lose the weight or the exact opposite- they have these great expectations that life is going to be wonderful once the weight is lost and then......it's not.

You are not eveyone else- so I am not sure why you are concerned that you will be like "them" if you focus on you and your issues. Just because someone reaches their goal weight that doesn't mean the work is necessarily done! That is how I am looking at things this time around and hopefully I will be successful in keeping the weightless off for good.

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In regards to weight, my oldest sister and I are at opposite places. When we were young, I was always the thin one and she was the chubby one (30-40 pounds overweight). When she went to college, she lost a lot of weight and became a size 2 (after being a 10-12 for a llong time). When I was in college, I gained weight (from a size 4 to a size 12-14). We both gained and lost another two times after college. She has kids and is married, and I don't have either. One major thing she does that really bugs me is her attitude towards weight. As a kid, she must have felt as though skinny people rule and fat chubby people are ugly and disgusting. Her attitude is very hurtful- to me and her own kids. She has three kids, two of whom took after her chubbyness as a kid. Her entire family goes to Lifetime 4 times a week. Her kids are active, too. Still, 2/3 are chubby and they have an appetite for food (just like her and her husband). My sister is now a size 2-4 and I'm a size 6-8. But, a couple of years ago, when I was a size 8-10, she would give me a very hard time about it. She was very very harsh. She would tell me that the reason i'm not married is because of my weight. I don't share my relationship life with her, but that's very wrong (many men love my curvy butt!). I told her off a few times and would tell my other sisters to talk to her about it, she was & is still getting nastier and nastier. She also yells at her kids if they eat chips or any junk food. "You're so fat! Stop eating!" omg! She's got some major psychological issues! My sister-in-law who is a size 0 is her competitor. My sister thinks she can be a size 0 too so she starves herself all the time! I have to speak to her husband, my bro-in-law about this.. she has to get some help.

It's definitely hard for me to hear people commenting that I look good. I have a friend of 6 years who all of a sudden is telling me to stop being so sexy. It's hard for me to take. I'm the same person I was before, why can't you see that?! Definitely not one of the people that lets it get to my head. I see a person who still has a long way to go and I still look in the mirror and say "I look fat". I find I tell myself I look pretty a lot more, but seeing the actual weight loss is difficult unless I make a side by side comparison picture.