who is the oldest here to give birth?

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  • Mabohlale
    Mabohlale Posts: 148 Member
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    43 years old with my youngest. Second youngest at 40 and firstborn at 25 ... yup ... 15 year gap! =) So I think I tie with someone else for the oldest so far! :happy:
  • Sk8rG
    Sk8rG Posts: 55 Member
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    The trend seems to be much older now than a generation ago. I had my kids at 21 and 23. I'm now 40 and my kids are preparing to leave the nest, but many of my friends who are my age and older are just starting their families. My daughter had a classmate growing up whose father was older than MY father.

    It's a trade off - my kids are nearly independent and I am only 40 - I'll get to really enjoy my grandchildren and probably great-grandchildren, but I made a lot of sacrifices in my 20s and financially I would have been better off if I waited a decade.
  • Julzanne72
    Julzanne72 Posts: 467 Member
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    I was 19 with my oldest, 28 with my yougest, and am engaged and 40, and considering one more...
  • ksutte
    ksutte Posts: 76 Member
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    37 and 38
  • majordlite
    majordlite Posts: 266 Member
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    Well, I think I may be the leader so far...I had my little one two weeks before I turned 46. One of the reasons I'm on here is to get in and stay in better shape so I can keep up with her.


    ETA: Hmm, maybe "leader" wasn't the right word... :-) The oldest, anyway.
  • clairekeogh42
    clairekeogh42 Posts: 127 Member
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    My mother had me when she was 45 and my dad was 53.....I wasn't expected, they had given away all the baby gear at that stage!!
  • jenaissance
    jenaissance Posts: 302 Member
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    25, 28 and 29, DONE.
  • _Tara_R
    _Tara_R Posts: 688 Member
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    I had my first at 21 and my second at 25.
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
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    I enjoyed this. I'm 24 and done with three lol. I can't imagin not having kids and being "older." I mean like being independent and on your own and not having kids. I was almost 19 when I had my first and got married four months beforethat, two weeks after high school graduation so I was never on my own. My hubs and I talk about it a lot. What would it be like to just be married with no kids??? What do you do with all that time?!?!?!?! lol.
    I can think of only a ton of things to do without kids... :indifferent:
  • BluenoserChick
    BluenoserChick Posts: 106 Member
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    The trend seems to be much older now than a generation ago. I had my kids at 21 and 23. I'm now 40 and my kids are preparing to leave the nest, but many of my friends who are my age and older are just starting their families. My daughter had a classmate growing up whose father was older than MY father.

    It's a trade off - my kids are nearly independent and I am only 40 - I'll get to really enjoy my grandchildren and probably great-grandchildren, but I made a lot of sacrifices in my 20s and financially I would have been better off if I waited a decade.


    ^^^^^^^ this. My experience too. I was 25 and 29. My son's GF's parents are older than my parents (who were 18 and 21 when they had me). My brother and wife just had their first @ 38. And I tell you, sleep deprivation at 25 is not pretty, but at 38 it's downright UGLY. They are worn OUT.
  • foranagirl
    foranagirl Posts: 64 Member
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    I come in second so far. 43, but only because she showed up 2 months early!

    So yes, I'll be reading AARP when she's in junior high.
  • lporter229
    lporter229 Posts: 4,907 Member
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    This is far more personal than I usually like to get on a public forum, but I have to interject my words of advice on this one. For all of you young ladies out there in your late 20s/early 30s who think you have plenty of time to have a child later, please consider the possibility that it may not be as easy for you to conceive as you think. Statistically, chances of conception begin to decrease after the age of 24.

    I thought I had all of the time in the world to do what I wanted and start a family later. I married at 33 (husband was 38), we decided to stop trying NOT to get pregnant at 34, and then actively started trying 2 years later. At 39 we began seeing a fertility specialist. I am 40 and still do not have any children. Possibilities are pretty bleak at this point.

    I just feel the need to impress this upon younger people who, like me, feel like they will be able to control their future and make things happen when they want. It's not always that easy. I have several friends in my same situation who would probably like to tell you the same thing.
  • majordlite
    majordlite Posts: 266 Member
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    This, this, THIS!! I got married at almost 40 for the first time, waited a year to try for a baby, thought it would be a cinch (I'm one of four, my sister has 5). We went through 2 cycles of IVF (4 and 6 years after we were married)...the second "took". According to my doctor, my chances of "naturally" getting pregnant after 38 were about 2%. You may feel young and act young, but your eggs just aren't.
    This is far more personal than I usually like to get on a public forum, but I have to interject my words of advice on this one. For all of you young ladies out there in your late 20s/early 30s who think you have plenty of time to have a child later, please consider the possibility that it may not be as easy for you to conceive as you think. Statistically, chances of conception begin to decrease after the age of 24.

    I thought I had all of the time in the world to do what I wanted and start a family later. I married at 33 (husband was 38), we decided to stop trying NOT to get pregnant at 34, and then actively started trying 2 years later. At 39 we began seeing a fertility specialist. I am 40 and still do not have any children. Possibilities are pretty bleak at this point.

    I just feel the need to impress this upon younger people who, like me, feel like they will be able to control their future and make things happen when they want. It's not always that easy. I have several friends in my same situation who would probably like to tell you the same thing.
  • foranagirl
    foranagirl Posts: 64 Member
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    The trend seems to be much older now than a generation ago. I had my kids at 21 and 23. I'm now 40 and my kids are preparing to leave the nest, but many of my friends who are my age and older are just starting their families. My daughter had a classmate growing up whose father was older than MY father.

    It's a trade off - my kids are nearly independent and I am only 40 - I'll get to really enjoy my grandchildren and probably great-grandchildren, but I made a lot of sacrifices in my 20s and financially I would have been better off if I waited a decade.


    ^^^^^^^ this. My experience too. I was 25 and 29. My son's GF's parents are older than my parents (who were 18 and 21 when they had me). My brother and wife just had their first @ 38. And I tell you, sleep deprivation at 25 is not pretty, but at 38 it's downright UGLY. They are worn OUT.
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    This. We are always exhausted. We are 46 and 45. On Sept 5th our oldest starts kindergarten and his sister turns 2 and 1/2!
  • gaylynn35
    gaylynn35 Posts: 854 Member
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    Had my first when I was 20, my second when I was 21, my third when I was 35 and my fourth when I was forty.

    So, I have a 29 year old girl
    27 year old girl
    14 year old boy
    8 year old boy

    I also have four grand kids: All of which came from my oldest daughter
    11 year old girl
    8 year old girl
    4 year old boy
    3 year old boy

    My daughter and I were both pregnant at the same time, so My youngest and her second oldest are 5 days apart. It was quite funny to go shopping together to get baby stuff.
  • AmberLeighD
    AmberLeighD Posts: 112
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    .. edited out.. think I will make a new post.. for what I had wanted to ask. LOL
  • foranagirl
    foranagirl Posts: 64 Member
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    Well then I'm a freak of nature. IVF didn't work for us. I would conceive and then miscarry at 6 to 8 weeks. So after the last miscarriage, at 43, we gave up. Fast forward 4 months. Sick as a dog and no cycle since miscarriage. Doctor says come in...could have an infection from miscarriage. Nope. 4 months pregnant. "Spontaneous ovulation" and conceived naturally w/i 2 weeks of miscarrying. She shows up 2 months early, so I can say I had her at 43, and my sisters can say I had the easiest--"3 month" pregnancy.

    But darn I'm tired.


    This, this, THIS!! I got married at almost 40 for the first time, waited a year to try for a baby, thought it would be a cinch (I'm one of four, my sister has 5). We went through 2 cycles of IVF (4 and 6 years after we were married)...the second "took". According to my doctor, my chances of "naturally" getting pregnant after 38 were about 2%. You may feel young and act young, but your eggs just aren't.
    This is far more personal than I usually like to get on a public forum, but I have to interject my words of advice on this one. For all of you young ladies out there in your late 20s/early 30s who think you have plenty of time to have a child later, please consider the possibility that it may not be as easy for you to conceive as you think. Statistically, chances of conception begin to decrease after the age of 24.

    I thought I had all of the time in the world to do what I wanted and start a family later. I married at 33 (husband was 38), we decided to stop trying NOT to get pregnant at 34, and then actively started trying 2 years later. At 39 we began seeing a fertility specialist. I am 40 and still do not have any children. Possibilities are pretty bleak at this point.

    I just feel the need to impress this upon younger people who, like me, feel like they will be able to control their future and make things happen when they want. It's not always that easy. I have several friends in my same situation who would probably like to tell you the same thing.
  • foranagirl
    foranagirl Posts: 64 Member
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    Here's the question... oldest dad?

    My man will be 50 next month.. and we will be starting our family in about 2 years (he hasn't had any children yet!).

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    I find this very refreshing b/c my BIL just got divorced after 23 years of marriage and no kids. We suspect that ex-wife wouldn't adopt, especially because she dropped off the face of the earth when we adopted 5 years ago. He's 51, looks great and is fit. We want nothing more than for him to find a nice chickadee like yourself and have a family!!
  • majordlite
    majordlite Posts: 266 Member
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    Of course many women have babies after they're in their 40s without reproductive assistance...I didh't mean to imply otherwise, or that it was impossible. The percentage I gave was for my situation--being over 38 and never having conceived at all. And being in the 2% success group doesn't make one a "freak"...
    Well then I'm a freak of nature.


    This, this, THIS!! I got married at almost 40 for the first time, waited a year to try for a baby, thought it would be a cinch (I'm one of four, my sister has 5). We went through 2 cycles of IVF (4 and 6 years after we were married)...the second "took". According to my doctor, my chances of "naturally" getting pregnant after 38 were about 2%. You may feel young and act young, but your eggs just aren't.
    This is far more personal than I usually like to get on a public forum, but I have to interject my words of advice on this one. For all of you young ladies out there in your late 20s/early 30s who think you have plenty of time to have a child later, please consider the possibility that it may not be as easy for you to conceive as you think. Statistically, chances of conception begin to decrease after the age of 24.

    I thought I had all of the time in the world to do what I wanted and start a family later. I married at 33 (husband was 38), we decided to stop trying NOT to get pregnant at 34, and then actively started trying 2 years later. At 39 we began seeing a fertility specialist. I am 40 and still do not have any children. Possibilities are pretty bleak at this point.

    I just feel the need to impress this upon younger people who, like me, feel like they will be able to control their future and make things happen when they want. It's not always that easy. I have several friends in my same situation who would probably like to tell you the same thing.
  • AmberLeighD
    AmberLeighD Posts: 112
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    Here's the question... oldest dad?

    My man will be 50 next month.. and we will be starting our family in about 2 years (he hasn't had any children yet!).

    ***

    I find this very refreshing b/c my BIL just got divorced after 23 years of marriage and no kids. We suspect that ex-wife wouldn't adopt, especially because she dropped off the face of the earth when we adopted 5 years ago. He's 51, looks great and is fit. We want nothing more than for him to find a nice chickadee like yourself and have a family!!

    I started a new topic.. so I could get the Men's answers on here.

    There are some great older guys out there that want some munchkins.

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