Baby or Body

For me, my husband not being on board would be a huge red flag. I have three children and work full-time. If I didn't have a supportive husband who is also a devoted father, I would be pulling my hair out( even more than I do now:))

Your husband's lack of enthusiasm and your parents concerns about care (are they providing care?) seem much more important than what you are asking. Your personal goal weight is pretty small potatoes in the big picture.

Your husband's lack of enthusiasm and your parents concerns about care (are they providing care?) seem much more important than what you are asking. Your personal goal weight is pretty small potatoes in the big picture.

This.

I think that your husband's opinion is far more significant than whether or not you've achieved your goal weight. :S

Probably the wrong person to reply to this since I don't want kids, but if I read correctly it sounded like your husband didn't want another child? If that is the case, I think you really need to talk to him about it and find out why and how he feels.

If that is not the case and I totally misread what you said, than I still think you aught to talk to him about it. Write it down, make a list of pros and cons.

This shouldn't even be a question (doubt) in your mind. If you whole heartedly wanted another child, you would be trying to get pregnant rather than worrying about your weight.

Wait until you're happy with yourself. It'll make pregnancy so much better for everyone around you. Then have another discussion with your husband and go from there.

His parents/Your parents don't matter in the conversation - It's not up to them if you can or cannot have more children.

Good luck!

I don't know the extent of the problem (hubby and others, who btw it does not concern them!) with you having another child so I can't really say don't do it. I would want to make sure 'everything else' is ok first though.

However, if you know you want another child, you should do it soon. Ask your Dr. about your weight concerns. Maybe you should lose more before you get pregnant? He/she could guide you. Also, you can stay on MFP, still exercise and have a healthy pregnancy! Have your Dr. tell you how many calories to eat each day and what exercises you can do safely. Pregnancy is not disabling unless you have complications.
You have the rest of your life to finish school, advance in your career and have the body you've always dreamed of. A child is worth the extra effort it takes. Personally, I'd want to have the 2nd one and get it over with at a younger age. Just my opinion!
Good luck with your decision & <hugs>.

I am 43. I spent many years of my life fighting my weight, and at least 4-5 years yo-yoing with the intent of getting down to a 'good weight' before getting pregnant.

I finally allowed myself to try even though I was at the time 235. It took some time, but I did get pregnant. It didn't happen quickly, I was 38.

I have wanted to get pregnant again, but have suffered 2 miscarriages in the past 2 years. For the first time in my life, I feel like i have finally figured out this whole weight thing and how to lose it forever. Unfortunately, while I am finally figuring it out, and am at my lowest weight in over 10 years, I fear I am now too old to get pregnant.

I knew this, in the back of my mind, that the longer I waited, the odds would start stacking against me, but I SOO wanted to be at a healthy weight, and then ballooned up to 268 before I finally started to get a handle on it.

While I would never encourage anyone to get pregnant if they were not ready, if you are ready - and only debating career or weight - and no other issues, I encourage you to consider the fact that the older you get, the harder it will be to get pregnant. For me, I am trying now, and yes, I know if I do, my goal weight will be put off for a good year, but I don't care! I feel like I know the answer now, and whether i get there this year or in 2 years, I will get there. and if it means I put that off, in favor of having a baby, i'd take that trade in a heartbeat.

Take care.

Tina

One of the greatest gifts you can give a child is a sibling.

Honest truth, it sounds like you know it's a bad idea (for whatever reason) but are hoping for people here to give you some way to justify it.

Not really I am just not sure and worried but not a bad idea.

Pretty much this is my rule about huge life altering decisions. If you have to ask the internet you probably shouldn't be doing it. I know its hard to hear but if you need outside advice outside of your marriage to see if you want to pursue this then that should be a red flag that its just not time yet. I understand there is a time limit for you, but if you want a child so badly, have you not thought of adoption? There like what 6+ billion people on this planet now? There is an infant out there who needs a loving mother out there I am sure of it. just a thought.

Having a baby is something you should be absolutely positive that you want to do. You are obviously not sure of yourself and your husband isn't "thrilled" about it. I would not try to have a baby, especially not just because your "teacher friends" want you to.

This.