What gives with the nasty comments about my weight loss?

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  • HealthyMe46
    HealthyMe46 Posts: 226 Member
    Sorry to hear about the comments. I agree with some others - keep your boundaries and let your sister know what she said to you was not appreciated and was insensitive. Not to mention plain ol' unhelpful. Good luck and keep focused for YOU.
  • pixelsurgeon88
    pixelsurgeon88 Posts: 39 Member
    My sister brought my brides maid dress without me even trying it on or being there....when I tried it on it was 3 sizes too small and her response was that I was wanting to lose weight anyway.

    In the end she let me buy another brides maid dress of my choosing....three months after the wedding I has lost some weight and I wore the dress to my graduation and two months after that I sold the dress because it was too big!
  • DirtyStacks
    DirtyStacks Posts: 179 Member
    No wonder it is harder for women to lose weight than men. I don't ever recall any guy I know being upset because his buddy or brother or whoever lost weight. Women torture each other wether you gain weight or lose it. Someone always gets upset. Feelings are bruised. Friendships are lost. Family is at odds. And then comes the emotional eating and whamo! 5 lbs. All because someone was trying to get fit? Bizarre.I don't get it.

    Everyone looks better fit. Get over it. If she is more fit than you are, do something about it. The more fit you are, the more physically attractive you become. When you are fit, you are Confident, radiant, charismatic. When you are not, you know in your heart you aren't and you do not exude those qualities with the same intensity...you just don't.

    The thing is, if you want those things, than just do the things to get fit. Simple as that. Leave haters behind. Make a goal and work till you get there.
  • mlynn1974
    mlynn1974 Posts: 5
    I'd tell them that weight can be lost but you can't fix stupid.
  • this_is_my_year
    this_is_my_year Posts: 38 Member
    In the event you come across these and/or similar comments again:

    Your Sister - , "You need to lose more weight if you want to be in my wedding."
    You – “Who says when I do I’ll want to be in your wedding”


    Your Friend - , "I need to start working out. I don't want to be the fat one."
    You – “ Too Late” .

    HA! XD
  • mandy0688
    mandy0688 Posts: 335 Member
    I am very proud of your weight loss, being overweight is tough and when ppl say bad things about it its plain wrong. They are haters. Ignore them and keep up the good work .
  • Brunchstress
    Brunchstress Posts: 49
    This is a great plan! My BFF and I have always "dieted" together. I'm not dieting anymore... just made some lifestyle changes and there's no turning back. She's motivated to get healthy now, too. (though she's pregnant right now, so losing weight is out of the question!)

    Don't lose weight or eat healthy for anyone but your SELF!
    Best of luck!
    Well, your sister just sounds like a bridezilla.

    As for your friend, she obviously thinks you're looking good and losing weight. Let her use your weight loss as motivation for her own. Why is it a bad thing? You can do it together.
  • AlicynH
    AlicynH Posts: 201 Member
    My brother was visiting this summer from New Jersey (I'm in Utah). He hadn't seen me since Christmas and I had lost about 50 lbs. He was really excited about my weight loss. My mom and sister told him not to encourage me. It really upset me that they would say that after all the hard work I've put in. But that's just it. I did it. They haven't. You're always going to find "haters" wherever you go. Keep up the good work!!
  • MadtownMadisonian
    MadtownMadisonian Posts: 66 Member
    Miss Manners always counsels us to respond to rudeness with politeness, as the best form of shaming, for example: "You will need to lose even more weight before you can be in my wedding" gets a reply of "Of course! And I want to thank you for giving me some motivation. Apparently I didn't have enough while I was losing the last 30 pounds."
  • girish_ph
    girish_ph Posts: 148 Member
    I am so sorry. Keep doing what you are doing. All that matters is you are getting healthy and making things better for you. Keep up the good work.

    I am sorry, I don't agree with this. People have been pretty mean to me all my life. But many, many, many people have been supportive and kind as well. Just kick the mean people out of your circle. Dont talk to them. Cherish the kind ones - they are numerically far more than the unkind ones.
  • jordanreddick
    jordanreddick Posts: 197 Member
    It has been said several times but an honest "Really!?" will get you a long way. People sometimes don't think before they open their mouths and think because you have made your weight loss public they can say whatever they want about it. Keep them in check and stand up for yourself. Don't make it ok for them to hurt your feelings.

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