Why do girls have to be such bleep bleeps??

Maybe she couldn't tell your size based on what you were currently wearing. I had a lady helping me with the jeans that are your waist size numbers because I don't always know what I wear in those and she got me ones that were way too big at first and suggested a medium top even though I needed a small. No biggie. She was probably trying to help, it can be frustrating to try clothes that are too small, even worse than ones that are too big. It doesn't even sound like she was so bad to me...

One time I think wouldn't be a big deal. From what the OP said, it was the fact that this woman was *insisting* that she try the larger sizes, even after she tried them and they didn't fit. I can see how that would be frustrating.

But that's why some people have questioned the one-sided story. Does it seem reasonable that a person would behave in such a way and keep bringing the customer clothes that she now knows are too big? Maybe it did indeed happen and this sales person was an incredibly rude person who is seemingly miserable as well, but maybe the story was also exaggerated due to emotions.

Yes - I've had it happen. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding and the clerk said she would not order me a dress unless I agreed in advance to pay for an extra 2 yards of fabric so that it could be altered as needed. I was younger and did not want to raise a fuss on my friend's behalf but I can tell you that, at this age, that scene would have gone down a lot dfferently!! While there are already a lot of good suggestions here I would add that the classiest responses are always the nest. You have taken the higher road. The only problem is that some of the real dimwits might miss the intent of a truly sarcastic response!

I also live in Northern PA and people up here are always in a hurry and always miserable so you get used to it! Thats why i miss living in the south! People are genuinely nice and want to help people!

So this has gone from an issue with a sales person to us "Yankees" not being genuinely nice? Talk about a blanket generalization. I'm starting to side with the Express manager now.....LOL. Is it possible your disdain for Northerners may be more apparent than you think and perhaps part of the problem?

Maybe she couldn't tell your size based on what you were currently wearing. I had a lady helping me with the jeans that are your waist size numbers because I don't always know what I wear in those and she got me ones that were way too big at first and suggested a medium top even though I needed a small. No biggie. She was probably trying to help, it can be frustrating to try clothes that are too small, even worse than ones that are too big. It doesn't even sound like she was so bad to me...

One time I think wouldn't be a big deal. From what the OP said, it was the fact that this woman was *insisting* that she try the larger sizes, even after she tried them and they didn't fit. I can see how that would be frustrating.

When did she say she tried the suggested sizes and they didn't fit? I read that she found a new salesperson without trying on the sizes the original clerk suggested.

From the OP:

"When i would try on the larges she gave me they were huge and would be falling off but she would still insist i needed bigger size."

But that's why some people have questioned the one-sided story. Does it seem reasonable that a person would behave in such a way and keep bringing the customer clothes that she now knows are too big? Maybe it did indeed happen and this sales person was an incredibly rude person who is seemingly miserable as well, but maybe the story was also exaggerated due to emotions.

It's possible. But, if it did happen the way the OP described it, I can understand why that would be upsetting.

But that's why some people have questioned the one-sided story. Does it seem reasonable that a person would behave in such a way and keep bringing the customer clothes that she now knows are too big? Maybe it did indeed happen and this sales person was an incredibly rude person who is seemingly miserable as well, but maybe the story was also exaggerated due to emotions.

It's possibly. But, if it did happen the way the OP described it, I can understand why that would be upsetting.

Even though everyone is entitled to their own opinion it did happen that way and i wasnt just being emotional about it. My boyfriend was with me and was getting mad about it because he thought she was being rude as well and he's one that runs his mouth really bad when he gets mad so i had to keep telling him to be quiet. So yes it is my fault for not directly saying anything to the girl. I personally dont like doing that because like i said "in my opinion" most people like that, that i have confronted get even worse. At the end of the day i was just venting which i realize i will never do on here again because everything gets twisted around! I do appreciate the positive support from people on here.

I'm horrible with confrontations, so I'm not sure what I would have done. And honestly, if you'd said anything, she probably would have just gotten ruder and then talked about you to her co-workers later <shrug> I'm sorry you had such a bad experience with something that's supposed to be fun (I love shopping for special occasions!!)

Same thing happened to me yesterday at Victoria's Secret. I went to one display to look at some underwear, and the girl made a point to open the size Large cabinet for me. I continued to look at the size Medium display (which is what I wear there) and she took the hint. I went to 2 other displays, and at one point she showed me one where I did like a particular style, but couldn't find the color in a size Medium, so I asked her if there were any more in the Mediums in that color. She then made a point to say "We do, but these run all the way to a size XL as well." Uhh...okay, well, how about you STFU and get me the size medium like I asked you to? I actually used to work at Victoria's Secret, and I can honestly say I was never told to "guesstimate" someone's size for them. Their bra fittings are absolutely ridiculous, too. Just for the hell of it, I let the associate give me a bra fitting earlier this year, since I could see her manager giving her the evil eye (VS insists on pushing that service on customers...again, ridiculous). They kept giving me bras that, although were the same size...some were too big, some were too small. None of them fit the same. Point is, sizes are never equal...so associates shouldn't assume someone wears one thing, then they may or may not.

Same thing happens when I go to Aeropostale. "Hello, how are you today? What are you shopping for?" "[insert whatever I came for here]" "Okay, we don't have many, but let me show you which ones we have in XL sizes." Well gee thanks for not allowing me to browse the store on my own...please, continue to hand me items I do not want, in a size I don't need. It's happened to much at that store that I just refuse to shop there anymore.

The only time this doesn't bother me is if I'm shopping at a store that isn't a chain. My favorite store is actually a shop owned by woman I met while working at a coffee shop a few years ago. She went to school for fashion design, she designs her own clothing and purchases other clothing from REAL designers...not big box stores or retail chains. She and the ladies that work for her know their stuff, and are always dead-on on the size you need, and they'll tell you up-front if a particular style runs small, large, or true-to-size.

I also want to say, I completely understand with the OP wanting to complain when she was there. Especially if that woman was a manager. If there was no GM to complain to, what then? She'd have to complain to corporate or on Facebook or another review site anyway. Also, complaining to an employee "right there" ensures nothing--you think they're going to tell their boss if they did something wrong? Not likely. I don't even bother with that anymore. I ask to speak to a manager. If they ARE the manager, I ask to speak to their boss. If they aren't available, then they'll get a call to their regional manager.

People typically go in the back and bring out some rainbows and unicorns for me.

When I was in high school, I worked at an Express. I never had any co-workers who acted like that. Express is actually pretty strict about all of the policies in the store.

If you feel that strongly, call someone at corporate and go above her since she's a manager. They will take care of it. At my store, they fired all of the managers and brought in new managers for smaller reasons than this.

not to be rude, but maybe you are that size? i mean i can squeeze into size 10 but just cus i can doesnt mean i am a size 10 :laugh:

i remember when i went bra shopping at a real place. i went in asking for 1 size and the store worker looked me up and down and was was like no you probably need X size (which was much larger). turns out she was right. isn't it more important to leave the store looking your best than to have your ego stroked by someone agreeing with a wrong size?

not to be rude, but maybe you are that size? i mean i can squeeze into size 10 but just cus i can doesnt mean i am a size 10 :laugh:

i remember when i went bra shopping at a real place. i went in asking for 1 size and the store worker looked me up and down and was was like no you probably need X size (which was much larger). turns out she was right. isn't it more important to leave the store looking your best than to have your ego stroked by someone agreeing with a wrong size?

While I would *generally* agree with that statement, when someone tries on the size the person gave them and it's noticeably NOT the right size, I'd say that employee needs to admit they were incorrect and get the size the person asks for.

call head office. I once had a sales assistant be a complete bleep to me because I'm tall (5"10). I was looing for a shoe I had seen in a catalogue that was for women, and a sales assistant came over and told me "the men's sections over there if you're looking for shoes". I have big feet but they fit ladies shoes ffs. I called up head office and complained they spoke to the staff about it. I got free next day delivery on the shoes I was actually looking for, because I wasn't willing to add profit to that store ( they were
lady's shoes!!!!) x