What do you think about Interracial relationships?

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  • MrsBlobs
    MrsBlobs Posts: 310 Member
    I'm white (english by birth - scottish family), husband is half chinese, half indian our kids are...confused :laugh:

    We are very happy and have no problems, but that is probably because we live near London and that is a complete melting pot. Not an issue and my kids are gorgeous. We respect and enjoy each others culture - it works.

    And I have fun when ticking those race forms for schools, doctors and stuff for my kids, I just tick 'em all.
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
    Half Panda babies make the cutest babies.
  • beckajw
    beckajw Posts: 1,728 Member
    Currently in one. I'm black (to put it bluntly) and my boyfriend is white. I guess technically you could say that I'm bi-racial, since my parents were an interracial couple as well (white mom, black dad.), so naturally I don't see anything wrong with it. To top it off, we live right smack next to San Francisco. xD So yeah, a lot more tolerance over here, but we do get the occasional "look" every now and then. Hell, I even get them from his friends sometimes, like they don't really think it's going to last. You just kind of have to accept the fact that not everyone is used to the idea, and think of how awesome it'll feel when you finally prove them wrong~

    Of course, maybe his friends look at you that way because they don't think it's going to last. It might not have anything to do with your color at all.
  • whiteheaddg
    whiteheaddg Posts: 325 Member
    Whoa!!! I had a buddy once who married a Canadian. At first we were all, "WTF?" She just kept saying "aboot" instead of "about." Creeped us all out.

    She then started making us Moose Milk and we loved her. We've all moved apart and I sure do miss Carol and good ol' whats-his-name.
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    i think they are mixed up....LMAO.Sorry but HAD to make that joke. I would say who cares as long as your are happy.
  • Kap10
    Kap10 Posts: 229 Member
    I'm 55, my wife is 54, we started going out when I was 18, I am 3/4 asian a 1/4 anglosaxon, she's 100% anglo saxon, when we were young there were a few that were anti it but not our friends and families. That said my (now) mother in law stopped inviting her sister and brother in law to christmas because he used to call me curry kid. Which was nice support and I only found out a year or so ago.

    My daughtern still comes across racism, but not directed at her as she looks anglo saxon and revels in allowing people to make racist remarks about indians before saying "I'm indian" .. she is a bit feisty!!!
  • VictorianJade
    VictorianJade Posts: 705 Member
    What do I think about interracial relationships? Simply put, I don't. The thought doesn't occur to me, that it's interracial. You're just people, doing what people do- falling in love. *shrugs* I feel the same about gay relationships, about age-difference relationships, etc. I honestly just don't care... because in the end, we're all red on the inside.
  • fueledbychange
    fueledbychange Posts: 132 Member
    :I This question bothers me quite a bit. WHY are they called 'interracial relationships'??? They should just be called 'relationships' BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT THEY ARE. Race is still such a big deal these days, and that seems ridiculous to me. You'd think that with all these amazing technological advances we've made, we'd at least be able to see through skin, race, and all other pointless physical attributes, but noooo.
  • Vx3_
    Vx3_ Posts: 102 Member
    Interracial relationships are beautiful!
  • TrailRunner61
    TrailRunner61 Posts: 2,505 Member
    I don't see why anyone should care. It's none of their business! What matters is that you are both happy!
  • stillthesamegirl
    stillthesamegirl Posts: 112 Member
    My boyfriend is black and ofcourse, I am white.. And to make us even more "different" I am from Canada and he is from the US. I feel like so many people are judgemental of us. And assume, I am a trashy white girl and he is a ghetto black guy. This is not the case. He is educated and may dress a certain way, but is far from what people perceive him to be. I'm so tired of people judging our relationship based on our difference in cultures. I see him as a person, I don't think of the color of his skin everyday. What do you all feel about interracial relationships? Have you ever been in one or are you in one? And by interracial, I obviously don't just mean black and white relationships.

    Why do you think people are judging you?

    I think that there are people out there that are still narrow-minded, but I think that most people believe that as long as 2 people are happy together no matter what (race, gender, etc), they should be allowed to be together.

    Do people say things to you to make you feel judged?

    Are you sure the judgment is external?


    When people see the background on my phone as me and my boyfriend they are always shocked! "OMG YOUR DATING A BLACK GUY?" like its this huuuuge thing! Maybe it's because I'm from Canada (pretty friggin liberal) and now I'm going to school in NC.. I notice it way more. Black women seem to give him dirty looks and white people seem to look at my like they are disgusted and disappointing. Of course this isn't everyone, but still a surprisingly large amount. I do notice that when I go out without him., people in general treat me very well, but when I go out with him there's a noticeable difference. In the end it's not going to make me think twice about my relationship.. it just makes me think twice about the people in this world and how terribly judgmental they are.... ESPECIALLY when I'm in the bible thumping capital. But i do know this is double standard that has been around for centuries.
  • moniqueonline
    moniqueonline Posts: 26 Member
    Wow! You know what the children would be? They would be human beings... that's all that matters
  • greeneyed84
    greeneyed84 Posts: 427 Member
    My boyfriend is black and ofcourse, I am white.. And to make us even more "different" I am from Canada and he is from the US. I feel like so many people are judgemental of us. And assume, I am a trashy white girl and he is a ghetto black guy. This is not the case. He is educated and may dress a certain way, but is far from what people perceive him to be. I'm so tired of people judging our relationship based on our difference in cultures. I see him as a person, I don't think of the color of his skin everyday. What do you all feel about interracial relationships? Have you ever been in one or are you in one? And by interracial, I obviously don't just mean black and white relationships.


    You will learn to ignore ignorant people like that. Trust me. I'm white, from Germany, and my husband is black and from Detroit, Michigan. We've been together for almost 10 years now. You can't help who you love, we're all human, i don't believe race matters. Plus, most people in the states are mixed with different races anyway. With English people invading, the Indians and black slaves and lots of immigrants. Nowadays, who cares! :-)
  • stillthesamegirl
    stillthesamegirl Posts: 112 Member
    wow, what year are you writing this? Geez, I'm from the South and I know of people who were together and married and black and white (he was black and she was white) and people did freak out but that was in the 70's!
    Is this race **** still such a big deal? OMG! Who cares what anyone thinks if YOU are happy. I"m married to a man who is 40 and I am 52..... should I care?

    I think that people need to get their noses out of other ppls businesses. Whatever two consenting adults want to do (that is legal!) is up to them.


    PS: If it is your "Friends" giving you hell, maybe reconsider your friendships... look for more open minded, non-bigoted ppl?
    Also, I thought Canadians were a lot more open minded than us Americans? :)

    Who said my friend said anything? lol
  • It_never_ends
    It_never_ends Posts: 105 Member
    I don't have a problem with it at all. Whoever makes you happy. :) I'm white and I dated a black guy once, holy crap did I get friction from my little all white christian conservative town. My dad threaten to throw me out of the house if I didn't break up with him. We did eventually break up but it was for other reasons.
  • sugboog29
    sugboog29 Posts: 630 Member
    My main question isn't what color is your skin or his! But is he good to you and are you good to him. Is he in love with you and you with him. If the answers to those questions are yes....what is the problem? Both of my sisters have bi-racial children, one sister by birth, the other through adoption. I don't care what color they are or their parents as long as they all (10 of them) remember that I AM THE FAVORITE AUNT! I started telling them ALL that when they were quite young...easier to brain wash them at a young age!!

    So, as long as you are happy...who cares if you are pink with purple polka dots!!
  • auntiebabs
    auntiebabs Posts: 1,754 Member
    One black guy I dated was so focused on other people judging us that, that became an issue for me. Not others judging, but his focusing on it so much.

    1)
    Maybe I was young and naive, but it was not blatantly obvious to me.

    2)
    So! Other people ARE going to judge us, but we can't control that and I don't want to waste all my time and energy stressing over what strangers are thinking when we could be using that time and energy to have fun. Let's enjoy what we are doing and spending time together. If we want to date, (BTW we're talking 1979 here so society has changed somewhat since then) we are going to have to deal with static, but we don't need to amplify it.

    3)
    In the end I got tired of him whining about this and moved on.
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Whatever. If two people have a good relationship, who cares?
  • DavidCHobby
    DavidCHobby Posts: 53
    "Interracial" should not merit a second thought. Much less be perceived as a barrier.

    But Canadian? Oh, I just don't know about that. I mean, how would I even broach the idea with my parents? And you have to, because they are gonna find out soon enough. Yeah, maybe the first aboot goes by unnoticed. But soon enough, somebody is gonna pour some gravy on french fries by accident and that's all she wrote. Trust me, they will find out.

    And the kids. WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS???

    For God's sake. Think about the kids.
  • beckajw
    beckajw Posts: 1,728 Member
    Whoa!!! I had a buddy once who married a Canadian. At first we were all, "WTF?" She just kept saying "aboot" instead of "about." Creeped us all out.

    She then started making us Moose Milk and we loved her. We've all moved apart and I sure do miss Carol and good ol' whats-his-name.

    ^^ This sounds like me. I'm not from Canada, but I'm from so far north that apparently I have a Canadian accent. My southern boyfriend constantly made fun of my accent. Then I fed him poutine. He asked me to marry him.
  • MsFitnFabulous
    MsFitnFabulous Posts: 432 Member
    If you are Happy in your Interracial relationship it does not matter what I or anyone else thinks, Only God can Judge Us


    And don't nobody but Him have a heaven or a hell to put me in. Does he make you happy? Treat you well? Love you and only you? If you can say yes, then you're golden. Somebody is always going to have something to say about something. Do you girl!
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    If the people are happy in the relationship then who's to judge.
  • GraceEsther
    GraceEsther Posts: 37 Member
    Go for it!!!!! :)
  • SunnyBrooke0
    SunnyBrooke0 Posts: 44
    I'm pro-happiness :wink:

    I love this!!! :smile:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    The fact that you are a woman and he is a man is the only difference between the two of you, biologically speaking. Anyone that has a problem with interracial relationships is just uneducated and ignorant. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
  • Gidzmo
    Gidzmo Posts: 905 Member
    I know two interracial couples in my church (one is our worship pastor and his wife), and they are the nicest people. 8-)

    My family, unfortunately, would not be happy if I was in a mixed-race relationship. 8-(
  • caring4cath
    caring4cath Posts: 19 Member
    Hi there, don't get to hung up on what others think. You enjoy your relationship. I am aussie and married to a wonderful fijian man. I believe it's the heart the matters. We have lots of jokes happening here, about the whole black white brown, who cares what shade really, and hubby says, we all look the same in the dark. But seriously, if you love each other, go for it girl.
    Heart, sincerity, honesty, trustworthy are what matters. Hugs.
  • KeegansMomma
    KeegansMomma Posts: 156
    More power to you two! :) I have a cousin who was with a black guy for...13 years. They have a 14 year old daughter together. I never met him...but I adore my cousin and her daughter.

    I say if it makes you guys happy, then blow off the nay-sayers and dirty looks and just be happy. :D
  • Michellec9982
    Michellec9982 Posts: 2 Member
    Be happy no matter what :)
    screw those ppl who are judgmental
  • CrystalFlury
    CrystalFlury Posts: 400 Member
    Nothing is wrong with interracial relationships. My best friend's sister is married to a black man (she's obviously white in order to make it interracial). He's a really great guy and I don't think anything negative of them.

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