What does your SO (Signifigant Other) do to support you?

When I was with my ex it was impossible for me to eat healthy. We were living together, on a very tight budget and I was also going to school at the time. Eating meals was a disaster. To make matters worse he was Italian and had a light speed metabolism. Because i couldn't afford to buy and prepare two different kinds of meals, i ate what he did and suffered through it. He was never complimenting, and always said I looked fine. I think he did it to avoid conflict.

Now for other reasons besides that, I left him after almost 9 years and have spent the last 4 years trying to find myself again and I'm happy to be on the path of fixing things for me.

I'm living with family and although not all of them in the house are eating healthy; I do my best to avoid those crappy items. (cakes, danishes, doughnuts, processed frozen meals etc)

God I hate your husband.

LOL thank you yeah I'm pretty much at that point too..but it's life and it goes on. I am doing what I am doing for me. I plan to be a strong old woman just like my mom. She turns 90 this month as I turn 50 and that woman could still kick *kitten* if she had to...that's how I want to be. I just figure if the old man wants to sit around and rot away by eating crap then so be it. I'm not sitting around with him.

When we have our nieces and nephews over, we end up with "kid food" left over- the stuff they eat at home that we don't buy for ourselves.

my husband isn't dieting- just building muscle- so he eats all the "kid food" or takes it to work so I don't have an easy option to cave and eat things I shoudn't be eating.... lol :laugh:

I suffer from depression and am on medication but I really struggle with taking them everyday. He was always asking me What could he do to help me. Finally one day I asked him if he would be in charge of giving me my meds. So at 5:30am before he leaves for work he comes in with my pills and a glass of water - kisses me and tells me to go back to sleep. He is such an amazing man. We have been married for 24 years ago and he truly is my best friend!

My Fiancee calls me each day, (since he is lives in the barracks currently) and asks me how everything is going and he asked if I have worked out. He helps motivate me to be the best I can be. He also wants to help me train for a marathon and told me to take it slow and start out by walking 3 mintues run 1 minute. Little steps towards a great reward. When he moves down with me next month he is going to get a gym membership to work out with me. Even though he works out everyday at PT and has a gym on Base and still knows it's important to me

my husband leaves little notes in my food journal. He tells me how good im doing and to keep it up. My man really keeps me motivated.

My boyfriend, when I was too inebriated (not my finest moment tbh...) actually logged my alcohol consumption LOL.

My hubby pushes me but in a positive way. When we go to the track together, he stays with me - even though he wants to run - BUT he walks faster than I normally would if I were by myself. He also regularly makes encouraging statements ("I've really noticed improvement" for one example). And he wants to eat more healthy so we don't keep as much junk food around the house!!!

What I'm most thankful for with my SO is that he is so willing to learn what I need him to do to help me. I've told him I need encouragement, but he's had to learn HOW to encourage me in a way that is effective yet sensitive, to help steer me away from temptations. He'll work out with me if I ask, he takes the time to weigh out ingredients when he cooks, so I can log them, he'll make me a separate version of a snack he's making himself -- a low-cal version. And he's recently started bragging about my dedication. It feels really good, especially since he's not really all that communicative when it comes to lovey-dovey relationship things.
He also knows -- most of the time -- how to break the tension of a really bad moment in my new lifestyle.
Ex: One day, we were out running a ton of errands and it took longer than I'd planned. I'd eaten very little and was taken by surprise by a sugar low. Read: REALLY GRUMPY. Really hungry. (I'm not diabetic, but this happens occasionally)
Anyway, all that was close was the mall food court. Ugh. And it was a terrible food court. (Double ugh.) Pizza, ice cream and pretzels, Chinese and Dunkin Donuts. Really?
The best choice I could make was a veggie flatbread from DD. So he hit up the chinese place and I met him a the table with my flatbread, already grumpy I wasn't getting in on the lo mein and crab rangoon.
That's where things went downhill REAL fast.
I unwrapped my flatbread, and not only was it just dry egg (no cheese, no turkey bacon), but it was on the most stale piece of bread EVER. It was a cracker.
I lost it. I practically threw it across the table. (Again, I was confronting a sugar low and feeling shaky and upset. in general. When I get that hungry, the worst thing EVER is to have something in front of me I have NO interest in eating, but knowing I can't eat anything else.)
Anyway, he looked at me, he looked at the tossed flatbread and, very seriously, he said, "Now, I know you're struggling right now, and I know you're upset. But if you can't behave, you're going to have to go sit in the car."
I just stared at him.
And he stared at me.
And I smiled.
And I had a few bites of Chinese food and tossed the flatbread, and it was all OK again.
Love that guy!

He's not that supportive honestly. It makes me sad...

Well when you become your fabulous self that you want to be... he can either be supportive or you'll be hot and not care.

That's what I said. I still eat 'junk' just not nearly as much as I would before. I don't want to anymore. And he rolls eyes and gives me **** saying i don't eat enough. I'm eating plenty. I feel fine, and I feel better than I did 19 lbs ago.

nothing...mine is an old *kitten* that only thinks about himself. So he gets mad if I made something "new" for supper that's not full of calories and crap nobody needs to be eating. He gets mad if there's not crap in the house that he can just sit around and eat all the time. (he's a twig and is always telling people he's being starved)...I suggested he get tested for a worm. He's got RA and instead of telling his doctor when he has check ups that I'm trying to get him to eat healthier ..he informs her that I'm not feeding him. ...do I need to go on? I have NO support here.

Mine is the same way! His doctor told him, he NEEDS to watch sodium intake for his blood pressure. He's 29, and his BP is consistently very high and he doesn't care. He gets mad at me when I tell him to start watching it. He thinks that by just not adding additional salt to his meals after they're cooked is good enough. But his meals are huge, and he cooks with salt when he cooks, and eats crap like Ramen all the time. So I told him yesterday, if he wants to slowly kill himself, fine. I'm done trying to help him if he won't let me. I told him to think of his kids.

My hubby and I have a great partnership in supporting one another in our wellness journey. He does CrossFit 4-5 days a week. I manage to get to the box 3 days a week. We try and eat Paleo 90% of the time. Even the meals that don't look the best, he is bragging on them. Without him as a team player, I really don't know if I would be able to have so much success.

He too is a keeper!

Gotta do what's going to make YOU happy....great job! :flowerforyou:

Thank you!!! You put a smile on my face today!

my husband leaves little notes in my food journal. He tells me how good im doing and to keep it up. My man really keeps me motivated.

My boyfriend, when I was too inebriated (not my finest moment tbh...) actually logged my alcohol consumption LOL.

This made me laugh out loud. That's freaking awesome. Hahahaha!

Mine is the same way! His doctor told him, he NEEDS to watch sodium intake for his blood pressure. He's 29, and his BP is consistently very high and he doesn't care. He gets mad at me when I tell him to start watching it. He thinks that by just not adding additional salt to his meals after they're cooked is good enough. But his meals are huge, and he cooks with salt when he cooks, and eats crap like Ramen all the time. So I told him yesterday, if he wants to slowly kill himself, fine. I'm done trying to help him if he won't let me. I told him to think of his kids.

I'm kind of envious right now reading all of these "happy stories". My old man is 57 this year. I give him credit for still working a swing shift factory job and we just bought our first "house" last year. I came up with the down payment and he makes the payments. HOWEVER supportive I am for what he does I will NOT continue to eat crap because that's what he wants. He has his own little "shelf" in the pantry .I stock it once a week with some "not so crappy crap"..when it's gone he's done..then he has to go for apples and bananas and stuff like that. That's when he starts pissing and moaning that I'm not "feeding" him.
It does make it harder and there have been times I've said screw it and go back to eating crap...but I am turning 50 this year and I'm done playing the game. But we just keep getting up and moving on ..that's all we can do!

My Fiance'..GOD bless the lil ****ens......he cooks for me.........he measures and weighs all my foods..he does all the shopping so I dont have the chance to go freaky in a grocery store and buy junk. He's very good about portioning out each food item on my plate making sure that NONE OF IT TOUCHES each other. EEEEEEEEEEEEEK

THEN he even packs me a pretty healthy lunch making sure I have plenty of cold water, few carbs, lots of proteins etc.

He even signed up here .........but Im not sure how well that went being as I noticed a small pan of brownies on the kitchen counter the other day. LOL

If he ever leaves me...........Killer and I will surely starve to death............we cant find the kitchen on our own