Hubby spying on me...
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Do you have anything to hide?
Blind trust is an interesting concept but rarely works.
While he likely trusts you, he needs to confirm his trust in you by checking in on you from time to time.
The degree of privacy within a relationship is something you both need to talk about.0 -
lol this!0 -
People can't spy on you if they dont have your username and password.0
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Perhaps your husband has questions he would like to ask, but is too chicken (or too smart) to ask in person.
About Mister Anonymous: I am not an actual person, but an anonymous MFP user profile created to give guys a truly anonymous forum for asking tasteful, yet sensitive questions. For more information about how I work, see my profile.0 -
I'm used to my husband spying on me through Facebook, I've had that forever, but ever since I lost 30 lbs and then joined MFP for that last pesky 10, he's been spying on me here too. I can't get him to join (he could stand to eat healthier too) but for the life of me I can't understand why would MFP be worthy of spying on? Does your hubby do that too, wives do you spy on your hubby's MFP page/friends/posts/diary?
I do occosionally, but i dont go on their account... im not to sure thats normal? He probably just thinks your looking hot, and like i saw in another comment, "thinks your going to find some ripped guy and run off with him." and it scares him. Just reasure him
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We need more details. Have you given him a reason to monitor what you do? Do you have a track record of cheating or engaging in inappropriate behavior on or offline? If not, then I don't think his behavior makes sense. Either way, you need to talk to him about if it makes you uncomfortable.
BUMP! ^^^^^^ this0 -
Nobody has asked if you have given your husband a reason to be spying on you.
I love how everyone just assumes he is insecure.
^^ this...it's been my experience that if I actually thought to "spy" on someone, I already had my answer so I never bothered "spying"...but I was always right! And I see more rif-raff on here than I ever do on FB...0 -
Nope.0
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I'm used to my husband spying on me through Facebook, I've had that forever, but ever since I lost 30 lbs and then joined MFP for that last pesky 10, he's been spying on me here too. I can't get him to join (he could stand to eat healthier too) but for the life of me I can't understand why would MFP be worthy of spying on? Does your hubby do that too, wives do you spy on your hubby's MFP page/friends/posts/diary?
Try opening up both, giving him your passwords, and say have at it I have nothing to hide. Unless of course, you have something to hide.0 -
He probably saw you eating too much at a buffet and felt the need to dig deeper. I know I would.0
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sounds like he has some trust issues with you.0
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I'm used to my husband spying on me through Facebook, I've had that forever, but ever since I lost 30 lbs and then joined MFP for that last pesky 10, he's been spying on me here too. I can't get him to join (he could stand to eat healthier too) but for the life of me I can't understand why would MFP be worthy of spying on? Does your hubby do that too, wives do you spy on your hubby's MFP page/friends/posts/diary?
How is he spying without joining/opening an account? And no, we don't spy on each other, online or otherwise.0 -
In an odd, twisted way, you should take that as a compliment. You're hot and he knows it, and now that you're losing weight he has to step up his game to keep you around (that's probably not an accurate statement, but it could be in his mind). It's unfortunate that he's snooping because I could imagine it makes you feel like he doesn't trust you, but I somehow think it's because of your weight loss! My boyfriend never snoops around my stuff, just like I don't snoop his. I'll be curious to see if that changes once I get to my goal weight, though. You should confront him about it, and let him know that it bothers you. If you don't, you will both likely become very passive aggressive towards each other and that's no way to resolve conflict. Best of luck to you!0
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I'm used to my husband spying on me through Facebook, I've had that forever, but ever since I lost 30 lbs and then joined MFP for that last pesky 10, he's been spying on me here too. I can't get him to join (he could stand to eat healthier too) but for the life of me I can't understand why would MFP be worthy of spying on? Does your hubby do that too, wives do you spy on your hubby's MFP page/friends/posts/diary?
So he's pretty much going to see this post, then? :laugh:
That's what I was thinking! lol0 -
My husband and I share Facebook, but, to my knowledge, he does not come on MFP. I've asked him not to. Not because I'm hiding anything more than my weight. I don't want him to see my logging and numbers.0
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gosh he sounds like a psycho (no offense or anything)! wonder what he'll think if he sees this
men can be so silly sometimes
have you given him reason to doubt you? is he insecure because really he's the one doing things he shouldn't? maybe he's just worried that you'll run off with some other guy because you're getting sexier heh heh.
has he always been like this or is it since you've been losing weight. if it's only recent, then you just need to reassure him. if he's always been like it, i'd be a bit worried...
passwords are harder to hack if you use a mix of characters and numbers. come up with a phrase to help you remember, like:
I love my fitness pal = ilmfp stick a capital letter somewhere in there and a couple of numbers and tell him to try hack that! :laugh:0 -
Maybe you two should hed back over to the Chinese buffet. I'm sure all your judgemental whispering about the fat people in the next booth would distract him from his spying.0
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lol this!
Yup, once again :noway:0 -
Why is it called spying? Just wondering if you are married and nothing is a secret, Which it should not be then why use that term?
My husband and I both look at each others text messaes, we share a FB but when we had seperate ones we looked and logged onto each others \, I am the only one on MFP but it is open and he can look whenever and it would not even phase me.....& I would not use that term.
Ithink you have more of a relationship problem when you feel the need to "hide" or keep things seperate from your spouse. Then their is an underlying problem or it certainly can go that way. Personally no room for secrets in marriage. If you have nothing to hide then it should not bother you and if yu do well then there is your problem lol0 -
Why was this thread bumped?
It was created almost a month ago..0 -
I've threatened to do that a billion times. Buts he tech genius and I'm not. So usually my threats are just met with more of his threats to hack my stuff and lock ME out.Have you considered changing your passwords and logging out of your websites when you're done so he can't spy on you anymore? A short-term solution, but it could push things in the right direction.
Is it bad that i'm hoping he does this?0 -
sounds like he may have a bit of insecurity...just how some people are I suppose...you are a 10 though...this is the rating thread right lol0
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sounds like he may have a bit of insecurity...just how some people are I suppose...you are a 10 though...this is the rating thread right lol
no, dude...no.0 -
He probably saw you eating too much at a buffet and felt the need to dig deeper. I know I would.
Bahahahaha0 -
My husband has all my passwords. We have nothing to hide in our marriage.
We don't share passwords, because we have nothing to hide in our marriage.0 -
Why was this thread bumped?
It was created almost a month ago..
It was a hiccup and a burp from Chinese food indigestion.0 -
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Why was this thread bumped?
It was created almost a month ago..
It was a hiccup and a burp from Chinese food indigestion.
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Try going to a buffet and see who else is spying on people!0
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He probably saw you eating too much at a buffet and felt the need to dig deeper. I know I would.
You win the internet!0
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