so, what was the REAL motivation?

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  • Falling_star
    Falling_star Posts: 204 Member
    mine was getting married i did not want to look at pictures of me been over weight in my dress i wanted to look amazing on my wedding day and been over weight didn't make me feel that way.
  • lilacsun
    lilacsun Posts: 204 Member
    Revenge.
    I have all the pretty reasons too..for my health, for my kids, so I can be prettier. Blah, blah, blah. But when it comes down to it, I am losing weight and getting fit for revenge. It is a great big screw you to all those men who cheated on me and all those women who love beating me down every day with their stupid comments. I don't care what anyone says, anger is a great motivator and it has pushed me to lose 22 lbs already and I am still going strong.


    Haha I LOVE this one!
  • gabriellejayde
    gabriellejayde Posts: 607 Member
    I want to be that stereotypical thin, fashionable, rude, little-dress-and-high-heel-wearing, Sex and the City-esque New Yorker.

    Fashionable and rude? Check.

    Now I just need to get thin, learn to walk in heels, and move to New York.

    lol... me too (I'm from NY/NJ). Its harder to be fashionable in plus sizes (I'm doing it now, but it will be a lot easier shortly when I won't be in plus sizes).

    This time losing weight is happening for a few reasons - I started a new job and might have to travel. I want the airplane seats to be roomy (ha), and I want my coworkers to see a good looking, thin (hot) manager.
    THe other reason is I have a sister in law, who I love, who recently had lapband surgery. My insurance doesn't cover it and I was jealous. I watched her lose 30 or 40lbs and suddenly I was the only fat one left at the holidays. The last time I saw her, it looked like she gained it all back (she said gained back most of it). I want my family to be surprised when they see me at christmas because this time i'll be the thinner one.
  • For me it was acne, weirdly. At least I think there had to be SOME kind of correlation between the weight I suddenly gained after graduation and the way my skin broke out. I thought it was hormonal at first but my doctors assured me that there was nothing wrong, so I realized that it was the way I'd been eating over that 8 or so weeks. The thought of gaining weight so suddenly after being at a stable (yet still unhealthy, tbh) size freaked me out!
  • alexp74
    alexp74 Posts: 125
    Reading what everyone had to say almost made me cry. I have been the fat girl my whole life. The funny thing is it never bothered me or anyone else. I was one of the most popular girls in school. I always had the cute boyfriends. I was a cheerleader. Life seemed perfect. Even as an adult my weight never bothered me much. I had my daughters and my weight went up a little. But when my husband started saying things like do you need two cheese burgers. I started hiding food which I had never done before. One day I even ate a whole box of girl scout cookie in the bathroom. At that point I knew my weight had become an issue.

    I was always the big guy in HS, had a number of friends of both genders and while I never dated much it was ok, I was fairly happy. I invited a female friend to the prom as she didn't have a date and 20 years later her response still gets me. "I'd love to but we can't take any pictures, that's not how I want to remember the night" Yeah, so I didn't go. A few years later I saw her again and she apologized for that remark, didn't matter, I gained another 30 pounds since then.

    That motivated me for a while but most recently it was the pictures of me on FB, where my stomach is so far over my belt I can't see anything.

    Not ok anymore!
  • gabriellejayde
    gabriellejayde Posts: 607 Member
    Revenge.
    I have all the pretty reasons too..for my health, for my kids, so I can be prettier. Blah, blah, blah. But when it comes down to it, I am losing weight and getting fit for revenge. It is a great big screw you to all those men who cheated on me and all those women who love beating me down every day with their stupid comments. I don't care what anyone says, anger is a great motivator and it has pushed me to lose 22 lbs already and I am still going strong.

    i love this. :)

    Its funny, but everyone's answers are so motivating because i can relate to so many of them!
  • Oh I have many a real reason other than the usual "I want to be healthy" etc. So here are a few of the main ones:

    1.) My ex called always used to resort to calling me a fat cow during an argument
    2.) My Nanny constantly asks me to join some kind of slimming group with her ie. weight watchers or slimming world
    3.) Looking through a different ex's Facebook (we've all done it!!) I see he with a girl who is A LOT thinner than me
    4.) My Mum and Sister have recently lost loads of weight.. and I am jealous
    5.) A few years back Men would eye me up and although I am with somebody now I miss being lusted after
    6.) I feel paranoid going out on the town with the girls in case somebody calls me fat
    7.) I won't book a holiday as I will have to wear a bikini and again I am worried people will stare for the wrong reasons

    I could go on and get really deep but I wont. Being overweight is deressing... how on earth did I let it get this bad?!
  • i was getting weighed at the doctors office and at first the doc went to move the tab to 200 pounds (i thought ok i guess thats probly right) NOPE! then he moved the tab to 250 pounds (i thought i was gonna die and be sick at the same time) luckily though it stopped at 251..that was it i was (and still doing something about it!) 64 pounds down!
    Great job and love your ticker! AWESOME!
  • txdahl
    txdahl Posts: 107 Member
    I'm a single gal and find that it's almost impossible to find a man who wants to date a big girl. I plan on being able to show these losers that they missed a great woman. I am an amazing person but they will never know that because they jugded on size first. Just because I will look like what they think I should does not mean they deserve the time of day from me....EVER.
  • SanjiSun
    SanjiSun Posts: 69 Member
    Hmm, so, mine might be a bit boring in that regard, because for me it is health. I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, and I immediately knew that this was it. Enjoyed 3 more days of my favorite unhealthy food, and haven't looked back since.

    All the other things are just a bonus motivation, but there is only this one real driver for me.
  • The passion in my relationship started dwindling. Not so much because of me gaining 60 pounds (before pregnancy), but because of how I gained it. My husband fell in love with an active, healthy person, and I wasn't that person anymore. I wasn't taking care of my own health, I totally let myself go. When I reached over 200 pounds, it got to the point where I hated looking in the mirror, and in pictures my face looked chubby where there was once a very pretty face, I also knew if I continued to gain weight, I believe it would have slowly made my husband drift away from me, not necessarily because of how I looked, but like I said, because of how I wasn't taking care of myself. That was almost 40 pounds ago. I lost that 40 pounds before our honeymoon last month. My first goal is to be the same weight I was when I started dating my husband (I can't remember exactly, I know it was between 150-160) So I picked 150 as my goal. And then from there I'm going to reassess how much weight I want to lose. I want to be a knockout for my husband.

    I hated that I couldn't wear a thong because my butt had started to look nasty, but now I wear thongs all the time, hell I'm wearing one right now :)

    I hated that I never went shopping anymore because I didn't like to look at myself in the full size mirrors in such big clothes. I used to love shopping so much, now I'm falling back in love with it again, but I still have a lot of work to do.

    My son of course was another reason, I wanted to set a good example for him.
  • kidcole11
    kidcole11 Posts: 98 Member
    I was at a funeral. Everyone seemed to have lost weight and were all congratulating each other and comparing biceps etc. I decided I wasn't going to be the fat one anymore. I would lose weight and fit in to feel accepted. Also, I would stop looking pregnant when iwas not so.
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  • 1. Vanity
    2. I want to get checked out often.
    3. My parents are over weight and sooo unhealthy. They have a hard time and aren't even 60 yet.
    4. I want to stay long and active as long as possible. If I am going to get old I don't want to feel old.
    5. My brother has always been the healthy one and I want to be more fit then him....lol
    6. Because they said I couldn't!
    7. To be able to still have energy when my kids are tired:)
    and more and more and more. I want to be HOT!

    Also I had gestational diabetes, both my parents are diabetic and I do not want to end up that way!
  • alexp74
    alexp74 Posts: 125
    I was in NJ last month, while fashionable may be hard, there were a lot of women in athletic wear that probably shouldn't have been. :) I'm guessing from the high heels and sweats they weren't heading to the gym!

    But if you can pull it off, go for it!

    lol... me too (I'm from NY/NJ). Its harder to be fashionable in plus sizes (I'm doing it now, but it will be a lot easier shortly when I won't be in plus sizes).

  • gabriellejayde
    gabriellejayde Posts: 607 Member
    lol... i'm from NORTH NJ. cow country. But before this, we lived on Long Island, NY. quite a difference....
    :)
    I can wear anything i want to work, but I try to look "cute". I get a lot of compliments on my clothes and style, but I want to be "HOT".
    I was in NJ last month, while fashionable may be hard, there were a lot of women in athletic wear that probably shouldn't have been. :) I'm guessing from the high heels and sweats they weren't heading to the gym!

    But if you can pull it off, go for it!

    lol... me too (I'm from NY/NJ). Its harder to be fashionable in plus sizes (I'm doing it now, but it will be a lot easier shortly when I won't be in plus sizes).

  • wuoreb
    wuoreb Posts: 5 Member
    Truthfully for me it was vanitiy and the bridesmaid dress my sister picked for her wedding. When I tried it on I hated how I looked. Nearly 25 lbs later I liked the dress a heck of a lot more.
  • traceyb68
    traceyb68 Posts: 32 Member
    Seeing a photo of myself and going arrrggh - Id like to like the photos with my family which I take for my kids memories and not feel like deleting them.
  • Mrs_Winfrey
    Mrs_Winfrey Posts: 61 Member
    My "AH HA" moment sadly was when I saw my wedding pictures in April. I had lost a few pounds of water weight trying to get ready for the big day and felt pretty good....but when I saw the pictures a month later I was disgusted :(
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
    For me, it wasn't really any one incident that did it, but rather an accumulation of such moments/incidents over the course of several years:

    1. Had trouble fitting on the rides at Six Flags.
    2. I felt horrible...achy back and joints, trouble breathing, sleep apnea, high blood pressure, etc...
    3. I noticed the list of things I couldn't do because of my weight was getting longer by the day.
    4. Not having any photos of myself with my family. I'm very sentimental and it made me sad that I haven't felt comfortable enough in front of a camera in so long that I don't have any photos of myself with my nieces and nephews or my kid sister (my sister is fifteen).
    5. I stepped on the scale shortly before Thanksgiving of 2010 and realized I was only three pounds under 300...even then, it took a few months to get my butt in gear.
  • That is powerful motivation! Some of the most irritating, negative, *****y people can be your most powerful motivation. You go girl!

    My real motivation was I stepped on the scale at my dr.'s office and saw the scary realization that I was moving in the direction of 400 pounds. I couldn't believe that I had allowed that to happen. I take ownership of every calorie consumed and all the time spent watching TV and doing nothing. I am so glad something woke me up in that moment at my dr.'s office and moved me to take massive action to save my life, because it was that serious!
  • At first my motivation was to lose weight and look good. As I started losing weight that was a motivation, but now I look forward to the things I can now do. When I first got under 200 lbs. I was doing my happy dance. I was sitting in the car one day and had to tie my shoe and i just pulled my leg up and tied my shoe. I wasn't able to do that before because of my stomach being in the way. Then as more weight came off I was able to ride roller coasters again without being self conscious about whether i would be able to fit. Now I have finished a 5k and a 10K and am looking forward to beating my time on the 10K in April. That is what keeps me going. Finding new goals is very important and can keep you in the gym and eating right.

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  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    I'm doing it for a few reasons.

    A) I hate my ex wife, and I'm doing it to spite her
    B) I'm actually incredibly vain and like buying clothes but I'm fat so I look terrible. I want to look not terrible. Maybe even hot.
    C) I want to get laid a lot more than I am. Fat guys have a really hard time getting some. I think being skinner and in shape would make that easier for me.
    D) I want to get some tattoos. But I want to finish losing weight before I get them. So they are a reward for me when I reach my goal.
    E) I'd like to go skydiving, but I'm too fat.

    Your fifth reason is actually the reason that I began losing weight. I WENT skydiving and realized afterwards that I was way too fat for that (had issues landing properly due to my weight/not being flexible). I'm planning on losing the weight and going again.
  • rotill
    rotill Posts: 244 Member
    My feet were constantly swollen and hurting, and I retained water very easily. It was uncomfortable and a bit scary. I changed the diet to try to get rid of all that water, and then the weight started to just come off! Now, almost 7 kilos later and 1 kilo away from the original (but not serious) goal I am still losing weight. I fit back into my good clothes, the love-handles are greatly reduced, and my Pilates-trainer is telling me I look good! The women running the studio are really stunning, elegant, healthy-slim - them telling me I look good is a victory!

    Most important though: I hold much less water, and my skin has cleared up to the point that my hairdresser told me my scalp is free of the red, flaky dry skin. I am obviously much healthier.

    So - sorry to say, but it was really the pretty, politically correct reason. But if I manage to go beyond the original goal and down to my new goal (normal BMI), it will be because I am vain enough to want to fit into a more fashionable line of jeans, without the "muffin-top" effect. ;-)
  • alexp74
    alexp74 Posts: 125
    I'm a single gal and find that it's almost impossible to find a man who wants to date a big girl. I plan on being able to show these losers that they missed a great woman. I am an amazing person but they will never know that because they jugded on size first. Just because I will look like what they think I should does not mean they deserve the time of day from me....EVER.

    When I was single I was shot down more for my size more often than I care to remember so it's just the men who would do it. Any woman I ever dated more than once was over 140 pounds so don't say never!

    However you're right, if a person is judging you on your size, they don't deserve you.
  • When my boyfriend would poke and squeeze me as playful teasing to get me to pin him down or start a tickle fight or something. Always great fun but some days if I wasn't in a good mood it reminded me of my fat and how much I hated carrying around the extra weight. I'm glad he loves me for me but I just want to feel comfortable in my own skin so I can be the sexy woman on the outside that I am on the inside.

    Then there's the fact that he's ultra-athletic and I'm ultra-competitive and I would love to be on the same level or surpass him :P I also have many goals in my mind that will require me to lose weight and become athletic...running longer and longer distances, maybe do some ski racing, mountain biking, triathlon...the list goes on and on.
  • EmilyOfTheSun
    EmilyOfTheSun Posts: 1,548 Member
    I want to rock a belly button ring. and look hotter than snobby, rude b*tches. and show people that hot chicks can be cool and down to earth too :D
  • jonisteenhoek
    jonisteenhoek Posts: 92 Member
    A few things:

    I needed new pants, my husband, daughter, and I went to the store. The pants I had on were the fake size that Lane Bryant makes to make us feel better (you know, 1 is a 14, 2 is a 16...) I think they were a size 3 (so 18). I tried on a pair of 18s, didn't fit, 20, didn't fit....yep, 22 finally fit. I broke down into tears. We went home that night and ordered a treadmill and Jillian Michael's Ifit program for an incline trainer. (June 2010)
    We were also trying to get pregnant with our second baby. With our first, it was two weeks and pregnant. This time, it took over eight months.....(Born May 2011)
    I was eating more than my very hungry husband....at every meal.
  • Wife left me. Gained 100 lbs during the marriage. Time to fix that.
  • Betty_Canada
    Betty_Canada Posts: 85 Member
    Oh it was a few things.

    1) Went to see a doctor for the first time in six years because I needed a physical. With no blood work yet, and no knowledge of me other than what she sees on the scale, she starts harping on my weight. I'm tired of that. (See item two.)

    2) I have an endocrine disorder. I have it now, I had it when I was 135 lbs and walked five to six miles a day and was eating <1,000 calories a day on average in college. So it's NOT weight related. But all any doctor ever tells me to do is lose weight.

    3) Having a conversation with my partner where I realized that he'd put on 30 pounds since he started dating me because he wants to do things with me, but my bum knee means it hurts me too much to walk as much as he used to, so his activity level was dropping too, to match mine, even if it wasn't intentional. I feel a little bad about this.

    4) I'm flying for the first time in 10+ years in November. In Canada, we don't make you buy a second ticket, but I'm terrified the belt may not fit, and I don't want to drop the money on my own extender. *sheepish look*

    5) A very pretty friend of mine, who weighs less than I do, had the band surgery. This was something of a wake-up call, and partly, I didn't want anyone to ever suggest to me that I should do the same, as the idea of the surgery is not something I'm comfortable with, although I know it does work for some people.

    6) My mother, who seems to think she has some sort of moral authority over my weight, constantly rags on me about it. She hit menopause and easily lost a boatload of weight and seems to be of the opinion that I'm just not trying hard enough. :P

    =Betty=