Question for the guys - What do men look for in a woman?

kimg68
kimg68 Posts: 64
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I'm curious to know from the guys point of view, what it is that you look for in a girl/woman? Not just how they look, dig deeper then just appearance :)
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  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Nobody approaches a girl at a bar because of her personality.


    Boobs help. Big ones.
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    Nobody approaches a girl at a bar because of her personality.


    Boobs help. Big ones.

    I'm sure that catches his attention, but what keeps it?
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Sense of humor, into cars, likes to rough-house as a means of foreplay... the usual.
  • taylor5877
    taylor5877 Posts: 1,792 Member
    Do you answer yes on the intial yes/no question that takes every man about a tenth of a millisecond to answer...

    if so, personality and all that other **** come into play...
  • hamiltonba
    hamiltonba Posts: 474 Member
    Although I am not a guy, it seems that being fun, sense of humor, easy going, smart, not clingy, and secure with yourself - and of course take pride in your appearance - isn't it the same for both sexes? And good/fun in the sack.....
  • Danielle_2013
    Danielle_2013 Posts: 806 Member
    SIGH.
    Despite their sometimes misguided attempts to convince us otherwise.. men as a group or "species" are just as individual, unique and multi-faceted as women.. and so then too are their preferences.
  • tennisbabe94
    tennisbabe94 Posts: 444 Member
    It varies from guy to guy!
  • ptjolsen
    ptjolsen Posts: 365 Member
    Although I am not a guy, it seems that being fun, sense of humor, easy going, smart, not clingy, and secure with yourself - and of course take pride in your appearance - isn't it the same for both sexes? And good/fun in the sack.....

    Almost exactly what I was gonna say...pride in yourself is huge IMO
  • nbhobbes
    nbhobbes Posts: 284
    SIGH.
    Despite their sometimes misguided attempts to convince us otherwise.. men as a group or "species" are just as individual, unique and multi-faceted as women.. and so then too are their preferences.

    LIES!!
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    Apart from physical attraction...

    Smart...intelligent, funny, career minded/goal driven.

    There is also the what I don't look for which trumps the above:

    Not clingy, not needy, not insecure, not JADED...it's hard to find someone who doesn't lug arround these kind of attributes.
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    Apart from physical attraction...

    Smart...intelligent, funny, career minded/goal driven.

    There is also the what I don't look for which trumps the above:

    Not clingy, not needy, not insecure, not JADED...it's hard to find someone who doesn't lug arround these kind of attributes.

    Thanks for adding the "what I don't look for" :)
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    Boobs, then a nice smile. After that, the personality. Physical attraction always comes first but almost all guys need her to have a good personality to want a LTR.
  • SHHitsKaty
    SHHitsKaty Posts: 301
    I actually read an article in Glamour magazine where they interviewed a bunch of men and a lot of them said that we judge ourselves too harshly on what our bodies look like, that the majority of them think we look just fine and aren't into big fake boobs and skinny as a rail. Found that interesting, you always hear a guy say, "you look fine.." but you just think they are being nice, maybe they're really telling the truth, haha
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Depends on the guy.
    Physically, I look for good hair,

    The way she's carrying herself. Not looking like with low-self esteem or over confident

    If she's smiling alot . Sorry but if you're with me i'll be telling alot of stupid jokes and while you shouldn't be faking the laugh, you should atleast tell me someway that you can be amused

    Once thats taken care of and I find her attractive, can I talk to her? Is she somebody I cannot relate to at all (valley girl types aren't my type).

    But above all, what I really REALLY look for in a girl

    is that she's not a b****
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    I actually read an article in Glamour magazine where they interviewed a bunch of men and a lot of them said that we judge ourselves too harshly on what our bodies look like, that the majority of them think we look just fine and aren't into big fake boobs and skinny as a rail. Found that interesting, you always hear a guy say, "you look fine.." but you just think they are being nice, maybe they're really telling the truth, haha
    this is true, we don't judge you as harsh as you judge yourself. Not even close.
  • 2muchsauce
    2muchsauce Posts: 1,078
    SIGH.
    Despite their sometimes misguided attempts to convince us otherwise.. men as a group or "species" are just as individual, unique and multi-faceted as women.. and so then too are their preferences.

    Don't fall for it ! We are simple with basic needs;)
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    pulse and 2 holes
    only 2? You must date prudes....
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    I actually read an article in Glamour magazine where they interviewed a bunch of men and a lot of them said that we judge ourselves too harshly on what our bodies look like, that the majority of them think we look just fine and aren't into big fake boobs and skinny as a rail. Found that interesting, you always hear a guy say, "you look fine.." but you just think they are being nice, maybe they're really telling the truth, haha

    I think this is 100% of the average male. There are some men who are into the superficially created woman (big boobs, perfect *kitten*, skinny body, etc etc) but I don't think they're that common.

    All the men I've known just love women. Period. No matter the shape!
  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    sammiches! :laugh:
  • urfitnesspal2
    urfitnesspal2 Posts: 62 Member
    good heart- honesty is a must, compassion, gentleness, handles herself with dignity... more?
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    I actually read an article in Glamour magazine where they interviewed a bunch of men and a lot of them said that we judge ourselves too harshly on what our bodies look like, that the majority of them think we look just fine and aren't into big fake boobs and skinny as a rail. Found that interesting, you always hear a guy say, "you look fine.." but you just think they are being nice, maybe they're really telling the truth, haha

    I have guy friends that have told me this....
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    sammiches! :laugh:

    Now that's funny! And probably true for some guys!
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Apart from physical attraction...

    Smart...intelligent, funny, career minded/goal driven.

    There is also the what I don't look for which trumps the above:

    Not clingy, not needy, not insecure, not JADED...it's hard to find someone who doesn't lug arround these kind of attributes.

    I've always wondered what constitutes as needy or clingy or insecure? Are we talking extreme cases or is any level of these equally unattractive?

    I think everyone feels insecure or needy at times (like when one is sick! HAHA!) but I don't think these things are inherently unattractive unless they are over the top and constant.

    Just sayin'. Haha.
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    Seems like a lot of men should just say "a female version of myself" :tongue:
  • drewbird911
    drewbird911 Posts: 117 Member
    pulse and 2 holes
    this I am sorry to say was what I was expecting most of the replys to be...
  • BrazenHarpy
    BrazenHarpy Posts: 81 Member
    SIGH.
    Despite their sometimes misguided attempts to convince us otherwise.. men as a group or "species" are just as individual, unique and multi-faceted as women.. and so then too are their preferences.

    This. This. THIS.
  • BrazenHarpy
    BrazenHarpy Posts: 81 Member
    pulse and 2 holes
    only 2? You must date prudes....

    No holes barred FTW!
  • Iceman1800
    Iceman1800 Posts: 476
    We really aren't as deep as women think we are.
  • Hodar
    Hodar Posts: 338 Member
    I think the better question is "What drives men away?".

    Ever notice that unattractive girls have boyfriends too? Sure, cuties will get our attention - but then it's a quick list of traits that 'remove' them from the list. Among them are the "Princess" entitlement. I do not exist for her pleasure - I am not a slave. If I'm given the impression that I have to do ANYTHING in order to be blessed with a smile - see ya. If I am not important enough to her to do the little things for - without some massive repayment plan, see ya. If I'm expected to take her out to a fancy and expensive resturant so that I may enjoy the pleasure of her company - see ya.

    I want an equal - not a superior, nor an inferior. If she can't treat me in the same way as I treat her - see ya.

    I've seen many women freely and of their own accord treat others, in a way you could not pay me to do. To them, they are being "choosey" - to me they made my decision for me ... see ya.
  • kimg68
    kimg68 Posts: 64
    We really aren't as deep as women think we are.

    That's good news :)

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