Question for the guys - What do men look for in a woman?

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  • capnwo85
    capnwo85 Posts: 1,103 Member
    A brain.....and I've got this one rule, I never date girls that say b**chin.
  • Nobody approaches a girl at a bar because of her personality.


    Boobs help. Big ones.


    Yes of course looks are the first thing. I prefer a behind, preferrably like my profile pic :)
  • dldnvr
    dldnvr Posts: 22 Member
    money and maybe a cough? When I'm trolling the old folks home that is.
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    Men aren't made with the same cookie cutter. They like all different types of personalities and character traits. Any man one would want to attract though, wants a confident woman. Confidence is sexy on anyone.
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
    I don't actually laugh at a lot of things.

    If she can make me laugh being silly or goofy , I really like that.

    Damn you grow that beard quickly! Love seeing you happy and smiling with your girl!
  • LesliePierceRN
    LesliePierceRN Posts: 860 Member
    My husband was immediately smitten with me upon first laying eyes on me.. What attracted him? My big ol' butt. He loves a big round butt. But then, it was my attitude that knocked him out. I was unselfconscious, I said what I thought, I ate what I wanted, I'm smart and bold and loyal. I was not the least bit interested in tying him down, I was the only girl he'd ever been with that didn't try to trap him into getting married. As a matter of fact, he had to do the chasing in that department. I wanted to get out and live, I was unafraid, and there was no way I was ever the type to 'settle'. In other words, I knew what I wanted, and wasn't going to be satisfied with less than that. And I was only 19. He was 30. He had himself and everyone else convinced he was never getting married. But then again, until that day, he'd never met anyone like me. He proposed after knowing me a week. We've been together over 20 years now.
  • Probably close to the same thing we look for in a guy friend.

    My guy friends are loyal, competitive, team players, help without me asking since they know I won't ask for help, keep things simple, fart/burp competitvely, tell stupid dirty jokes, just do goofy things that make no sense and have a good time doing it, basically just have fun. When a girl stops being fun and get complicated, guys are ready to run. Life is hard enough and we all need to keep the things we like light and fun.
    One other thing about many girls (especially younger ones), they seem more concerned about impressing their girlfriends than anything else. That's why many stress over how they look, date douce bags, and needlessly complicate things just to impress their friends. Women are just brutal to each other. Guys are much more simple.
  • alarae
    alarae Posts: 263 Member
    Nice women or Trampy women?
  • pg3ibew
    pg3ibew Posts: 1,026 Member
    Nice women or Trampy women?

    Either one, as long as they put out.
  • sixrings
    sixrings Posts: 96 Member
    I would go with a trampy woman...a woman with an adventurous perverted mind :-)
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Men aren't made with the same cookie cutter. They like all different types of personalities and character traits. Any man one would want to attract though, wants a confident woman. Confidence is sexy on anyone.

    I realize this is weird and random. But you have really great teeth.
  • chu604
    chu604 Posts: 353 Member
    Someone I can trust
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    Someone I can trust

    huh, good one...and where do I apply, lol. Actually, this one is high on my list for guys.
  • christineyarwood
    christineyarwood Posts: 10 Member
    Someone I can trust

    This is interesting... do men or women know how to build it? I just dated a guy who told me he would call me the next night and then he didn't. But a couple of days later he texted and we ended up chatting. Next night he texted and said he would call when his son was down for the night, but then I never got a call. Again, he called a few days later and we ended up hanging out and had a nice time. He said he would call me the next night, and I heard from him 3 days later. We had a nice time talking so I thought I'd still give it a chance, but then he texted me one night and asked if he could call me on the phone in 5 minutes? I said yes, and then never heard from him that night! I really don't think I'm being too picky here! If you say you are going to call within a certain time limit - then follow through! If you really don't know what your schedule is like then just say you'll call "sometime". I'm fine either way, but will I ever trust that this guy will do something when he says he will??? Na-uh! And that is HUGE!
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Just reading. Don't mind me. Lol
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  • mavrick7
    mavrick7 Posts: 1,607 Member
    I'm curious to know from the guys point of view, what it is that you look for in a girl/woman? Not just how they look, dig deeper then just appearance :)

    You are really talking about personality types. This is something that you can't change, so the answer is completely different from person to person, but the most important thing... THE NUMBER RULE - BE YOURSELF.

    As soon as I find out that the girl is pretending to be someone else, we are done. Those who stay with them, will eventually break up or get divorced. Why bother?

    Some guys like shy, dependent girls, others want a bosy (Momma type). To each their own, but if you are not nice, don't pretend to be nice. Some guys think that behavior is sexy.
  • beernpizza
    beernpizza Posts: 431 Member
    To quote The Bloodhound Gang "you know what I really want in a girl? ME"

    This.
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    This exact same thread reappears about 3 times a month, from different people. Women, I mean. It's always women asking what men want and not the reverse. What men want in a relationship, in our bodies, blah blah blah. It's like the women plan their lives around what men want on this site.


    Ladies, how about we:

    1. stop worrying what the freaking guys want all the time
    2. figure out what we want
    3. do that
    4. and be open and friendly, so that when a guy comes along that shares that interest you can scoop him up. (Because with ~7 billion people in the world, you're bound to find at least one person who sincerely likes you just as you are, no calculation and strategies necessary. If he doesn't, why would you want HIM?)

    We can all go home now.
  • I'm drawn to women who can share a thoughtful opinion, a genuine laugh, a genuine want for laughter, a compassionate heart, a cute smile, pretty eyes, capacity to love and a fearless ability to love deeply even if they have been hurt in the past.
  • Thank you for all the great responses :)
  • gkwatra
    gkwatra Posts: 431 Member
    Self absorbed, controlling, manipulative, woman wanted. Eating disorders, drug addictions, mental problems a definite plus. Must be possessive and extremely jealous of me but unfaithful... She must be emotionally distant and have little to no sex drive.

    I need a woman who will call me any time, 24/7, no matter what, or how small the problem might be. It doesn't matter to me if I am busy...her problems are so much more important...

    Or, how about that chick (Stu's GF) from "THE HANGOVER"? Lawdy, she was a b***h and a half!! Can't believe there are actually women like that in real life ...? :huh:
  • gkwatra
    gkwatra Posts: 431 Member
    Probably close to the same thing we look for in a guy friend.

    My guy friends are loyal, competitive, team players, help without me asking since they know I won't ask for help, keep things simple, fart/burp competitvely, tell stupid dirty jokes, just do goofy things that make no sense and have a good time doing it, basically just have fun. When a girl stops being fun and get complicated, guys are ready to run. Life is hard enough and we all need to keep the things we like light and fun.
    One other thing about many girls (especially younger ones), they seem more concerned about impressing their girlfriends than anything else. That's why many stress over how they look, date douce bags, and needlessly complicate things just to impress their friends. Women are just brutal to each other. Guys are much more simple.

    Yes, women are brutal to eachother. The catty, b***hy games we play are worse than any kind of abuse sometimes. I always had more guy friends (platonic) - they were easier to be around because they never complicated things.
  • Sarge516
    Sarge516 Posts: 256 Member
    I actually read an article in Glamour magazine where they interviewed a bunch of men and a lot of them said that we judge ourselves too harshly on what our bodies look like, that the majority of them think we look just fine and aren't into big fake boobs and skinny as a rail. Found that interesting, you always hear a guy say, "you look fine.." but you just think they are being nice, maybe they're really telling the truth, haha
    I agree with this ^^

    I'll add that lackluster hygiene is a major no-no in my mind. Good oral hygiene (bad breath is such a turn off), non-cucumber like legs (ouch!), no hairy armpits please (sorry Europeans :p)....etc.

    Physical fitness and body shape are important to me too. You don't have to be built like a Barbie doll though. Curves are OK - and desirable to me.
  • HazelCaz
    HazelCaz Posts: 48 Member
    What men don't want:
    Someone who is critical and controlling
    Someone who expects them to have no other friends or interests outside of the relationship
    Someone who needs constant reassurance to make up for their own low self-image.

    What men DO want:

    They want the pretty and down-to-earth girl next door, who they could be proud to have by their side.
    and someone who will love them without restraint in the bedroom and never need to look at another man.

    Am I wrong??
  • To quote The Bloodhound Gang "you know what I really want in a girl? ME"

    This.

    LOVE IT!!
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Nobody approaches a girl at a bar because of her personality.


    Boobs help. Big ones.

    I'm sure that catches his attention, but what keeps it?

    Again, boobs.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    I think they are looking for as close to sane as you can get with a woman.
  • Stability. Men are weak.
  • fatboypup
    fatboypup Posts: 1,873 Member
    you had me at boobs, sammiches would be great too ......