what NOT to say to your wife/gf when she's crying....

"You're ugly when you cry."




"Dude! I know I'm ugly when I cry - now I can't fkn stop!"

That gif......whoa.

Hey baby, hows bout a lil lovin'?

well, since you're already crying, lets try the back way...

Step 1: Stop thinking that men are emotionally the same as women.
Step 2: Try Step 1 again.

You're fired!

Men are ****s, we just don't know what to say, period (no pun intended). Unless we have clear instructions on a chart that has a Yes and a No side, we're screwed...

I feel bad for men. They usually dont know what to say, stumble around their words and end up saying the wrong thing no matter what they say. I say dont be so sensitive. Men are men. We love them for who they are, not their ability to try to read our minds!

Thank you

Sorry to hear you're struggling.

May I ask what you've done to support your husband/boyfriend? Having been there and done that, I'm willing to bet your hubby feels this way: no matter what he said, he was going to be wrong as you've set him up for failure. Before the raging men-haters start roaring, take a moment and read...

In a perfect world, what does "support" look like to you? In other words, what would you like to have your husband do or say to support you? Have you ever relayed that information to your husband in terms that he can understand? If not, how is he supposed to know? If you cannot clearly articulate what "support" looks like to you, how is your SO supposed to know? Telepathy??

By what you've written here, you were emotional due to a series of upsetting situations. In all likelihood, he was not aware of those circumstances, nor did he have any input or control over them. He likely has his own stuff going on, the same as the rest of us, but you start dumping out your raw emotional energy and try explaining why you are upset and crying. Emotions aren't logical and, in most cases, talking about emotional situations comes across as rambling and often irrational.

Men tend to be analytical and we look for solutions. Unfortunately, those skills don't transfer easily to emotional situations. He ends up getting a ton of emotion in his lap. He is left feeling raw and confused, has no idea what you want from him and doesn't have the vocabulary to articulate how he feels so he ends up saying something insensitive.

Going forward, if you want a particular kind of support from your SO, tell him about it!

I always help out my man friend. I'll go to him "Okay. I just need you to sit there, smile and nod and pad my back." Or I'll tell him "Just tell me I'm the prettiest girl in the world."....


It's not their fault they have a Y chromosome and can't compute womanese.

I always help out my man friend. I'll go to him "Okay. I just need you to sit there, smile and nod and pad my back." Or I'll tell him "Just tell me I'm the prettiest girl in the world."....


It's not their fault they have a Y chromosome and can't compute womanese.

You ladies are giving me hope!

"Stop crying."

Makes me angry, and makes me cry harder.

I had a REALLY bad day on Wednesday and I got upset and started crying and instead of, "It's going to be OK," I got, "Calm down." And not in a comforting tone.

.....I'm almost finished....

Made me LOL!

A bit of advice ladies. If you want support call a girlfriend. Men are in the business of fixing things. So if you go to your partner and say... 'I had such a bad day at work and I'm stressed' the hubby/partner will immediately go into fix it mode. The mind will race to try and figure out how he can 'fix' your issue. Totally ignoring you and your immediate need of say a hug. Better scenerio. Pick up the phone and call your bff and vent to her. You will get far better results. Then once you've talked it out with her and you feel better. THEN talk to the hubby. Your emotions are not at a fervered pitch and his lack of sympathy won't matter so much. Just sayin'

This. I still have to remind myself of this when I've had a bad day and all I want to do it b1tch about it but the husband starts trying to offer me solutions. Now I just say "give me a damn hug".

Welp, I guess that's it. You better leave him and find someone who can read your mind.

"Man up" never ends well. Same with "grow a pair" and "suck it up".

"Is something wrong?" again never works.