9 16 oz Beers

I am leaning towards major concern.

Al Anon ....try going....

Thank you all for your opinions. Let me clear a few things up that got lost along the way

*drinking is 5-6 nights a week, not just a weekend night, or while watching the game
*I do have a toddler
*its expensive
*he's never drank hard alcohol at home until recently. The bottle he drank was in addition to the six pack + a night

I am not teetotaler, I enjoy a good drink or few. As I mentioned I grew up differently. Before talking to him about my concerns I wanted to poll others to see if the issue was as big as I thought it was or if it was a me being naive thing. (as stated I grew up in a bubble) I have brought it up in the past and it got pretty ugly, him basically telling me I was weird and would just have to deal with it. I just thought I'd check to see if I was the weird one. So instead of bringing it up yet again should I be blowing it out of proportion. He's not belligerent, pass out, fall down silly. He gets argumentative, defensive and its easier for me to avoid him by that point and go to bed. So what if you can tolerate a lot of alcohol, its not great for your body that shouldn't be the argument to support the acceptance of that volume.

Its clearly not a black and white issue. I will take the time to look into the links and programs out there to help myself with this.

That's why I said 9 beers isn't a huge thing, so long as it isn't a regular every day occurance. 2-3 beers 5-6 nights a week, imo, isn't a huge thing.. so long as you can afford it. You mentioned he finished the 5th over a period of a 2 weeks.. which is about 1 shot/day. it seems his stress level has grown and this is his way of dealing with it.

I would think about how to talk to him with out him feeling like he's being accused of being an alcoholic, a bad husband or bad father. "You know, when you drink to excess, you become difficult to deal with..." That you worry that it *might* become an alcoholic. You do have every right to ask him not to drink when he is the sole caretaker of your guys' toddler. and I think he should respect that. When I was visiting my fam out in cali, we all watched a movie and popped open a bottle of wine. It was just natural with the family. for me... it's like drinking soda. I enjoy the taste of it. Maybe he just wants some quiet time to relax. I remember when my kids were that young and the stress level was much higher than I was used to. I enjoyed the quiet time I cut out for myself after they went to bed. Was it drinking? No... but time to relax is important.

**while 9 isn't easy on your body, some people process alcohol easier than others. For -me- waking up after a night of heavy drinking is the same as waking up after a few days of no drinking. Everybody is different, that's all I was saying, not :supporting:" regularly drinking heavy 9 large beers every single night"* just on occasion.

one of my roomies he a couple of times by himself (me and my other roomie werent drinking) had 15 cans of beer in one night and he did that a couple of times or he would play power hour by himself and thats like consuming 8 beers in an hour...other guy friends would do the same

I guess what bothers me more is how his wife is putting his/their business out over the internet for anybody to know. It really isn't anybodies business but his and yours. I would be sorely pissed if my spouse aired our laundry out for thousands to see.

She's not asking her pastor, neighbor, close friends they see on a regular basis or the mailman. She's asking a group of people who don't know her or her husband. I would think talking about it in al-anon with people who live in her area and might see her around town would be rougher for the husband.

Were they at least good quality beers? I mean, if they were Bud Light, Miller Lite or any of that other crap then yes, you should be pissed! If they were quality brews such as 'Anything not made by the ;arge breweries", then cut him some slack! :drinker: :drinker: :bigsmile:
But seriously, thats a LOT of beer in one night, especially just to 'wind down':glasses:

If it was MillerBudCoors swill, OP has reason to be concerned about his less than stellar taste. He's unlikely to be drunk (unless you subscribe to the State's measurement).

If he's drinking IPAs, just have him look up the calories on MFP. That changed my intake.