What is considered 'cheating' (mature relationships)

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  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
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    Cheating is what you know will hurt your loved one and break her/his trust in you.
  • k900
    k900 Posts: 140 Member
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    I consider cheating to be kissing or anything more. I consider sexting to be cheating. I would also consider it to be cheating if my boyfriend formed a strong emotional relationship with a woman he wasn't related to.
  • Summerful
    Summerful Posts: 46 Member
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    Q: What is considered cheating?

    My answer: If I am in a committed relationship like I am currently, we both agree we should only express our interest in each other (attractiveness). We got jealous easily in the past, over small things, and learned to make changes to suit us both. Nobody should have to feel not special during a relationship (in my opinion). If the relationship needs some "spicing up", then talk about it and make it happen! :) Just aslong as your in agreement about the situation it sounds good to me.
  • carriempls
    carriempls Posts: 326 Member
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    Cheating is whatever the couple involved decides is cheating. My rule of thumb is if you don't want to tell your partner about it, it's probably cheating. If you wouldn't want your partner to do it, it's probably cheating.
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
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    when someone is penetrating or getting penetrated, or else when someone falls in love with someone else.

    So it's okay to sneak around giving hand jobs in secret, as long as there's no penetration?

    That's hand penetration silly.
  • heytherestephy
    heytherestephy Posts: 356 Member
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    LOL you said sexytime, i love it.
    that's what i refer to intimacy with when i'm with my partner hahaha.

    sorry, that was immature, anyway i agree. i do feel the same way. i don't think it's unreasonable for you to want to be involved if your SO is going to be seeing someone else sexually (and if they're emotionally involved, yeah.. uh.. it's time to move on and split up).
  • marthathebear
    marthathebear Posts: 498
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    Cheating is doing anything you wouldn't want him or her to know about. Period.
  • sbilyeu75
    sbilyeu75 Posts: 567 Member
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    Cheating is doing something sexual or intimate with someone else that you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about.

    All relationships are you unique and have different rules. But ^^^^^ seems to be the constant.
  • enewsome2
    enewsome2 Posts: 355 Member
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    If you do something with the opposite sex that you wouldn't want your spouse to see or know about, it's cheating.
  • enewsome2
    enewsome2 Posts: 355 Member
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    Cheating is doing something sexual or intimate with someone else that you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about.

    All relationships are you unique and have different rules. But ^^^^^ seems to be the constant.

    Didn't realise someone just posted this. Lol.
    At least we're on the same page, here :)
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,141 Member
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    If you look at anyone and think they are attractive you are cheating. If I ever catch my wife looking in a calvin klein catalog, its divorce time.

    :laugh: I didn't even realise, thanks for informing me!
  • paintlisapurple
    paintlisapurple Posts: 982 Member
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    In my eyes cheating is anytime you turn to someone other than your spouse/SO for something you would normally get from them. Theres both physical and emotional cheating...both are hard to recover from.

    Definitely this.

    Anything that you wouldn't do with your s.o. present can be considered cheating. (IMO)
  • butterflyqueen1984
    butterflyqueen1984 Posts: 141 Member
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    I don't understand why this topic needs to be justified?? Surely cheating is cheating! Everyone knows inside when they have done something wrong.
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
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    getting nasty, but mostly intamcy of any kind with somone other than SO
  • cindyhoney2
    cindyhoney2 Posts: 603 Member
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    What do you consider cheating? For me, I have what I call 'the golden rule'. That is, I go where she goes, period. That pretty much rules out swapping / borrowing / lending and includes any expression of sexuality/emotional attachment between people regardless of gender. Maybe that sounds restrictive to some, but not necessarily, if you're creative about avoiding golden rule violations. What do you guys think?

    For clarification: the golden rule refers to sexy time practices, not like going to the mall or hanging with friends and whatnot.

    What you said fits us perfect. I believe cheating is wrong under any circumstances and you get what you deserve. There is always a way out of a relationship if you're not getting any or just not happy. Cheating is wrong and to me cheating is when you do something you don't want your SO to know about. Nothing wrong w/a little harmless flirting tho. And don't get me started on 'open' relationships, what a f*cking joke! Grow up!
  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
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    I don't understand why some people get upset when their partner admires a pretty woman (or a hot guy). I honestly feel that's a security issue. It doesn't mean they don't find you hot. It doesn't mean they're going to cheat. We are human, and we can appreciate something beautiful. Just because you are the most beautiful person in the world to them doesn't mean they can't find other people beautiful too. Remember, you are the MOST beautiful.

    Heck, sometimes I point out really cute girls to my boyfriend. It doesn't mean I want to sleep with a girl. It just means, "Hey, that lady is really pretty. I love her hair/eyes/outfit."
  • penelepurr
    penelepurr Posts: 204 Member
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    I don't understand why some people get upset when their partner admires a pretty woman (or a hot guy). I honestly feel that's a security issue. It doesn't mean they don't find you hot. It doesn't mean they're going to cheat. We are human, and we can appreciate something beautiful. Just because you are the most beautiful person in the world to them doesn't mean they can't find other people beautiful too. Remember, you are the MOST beautiful.

    Heck, sometimes I point out really cute girls to my boyfriend. It doesn't mean I want to sleep with a girl. It just means, "Hey, that lady is really pretty. I love her hair/eyes/outfit."

    Agree. Looking is quite healthy, and my fiance and I have pointed out attractive people to each other. No big deal. I don't think porn is cheating either. I figure, we have the internet now- guys are going to use it lol.
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
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    In my eyes cheating is anytime you turn to someone other than your spouse/SO for something you would normally get from them. Theres both physical and emotional cheating...both are hard to recover from.

    This.
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
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    I don't understand why this topic needs to be justified?? Surely cheating is cheating! Everyone knows inside when they have done something wrong.
    Nobody is justifying anything. Read + Think, then post....
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
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    If you have to ask... it is cheating.

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