Are you one of "Those" ex fatties!?

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  • deadbeatsummer
    deadbeatsummer Posts: 537 Member
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    I think saying 'i don't really eat those' does sound a little bit like you are sticking your nose up at the doughnuts (and there's nothing wrong with that!) but in a situation where you have bought a load of doughnuts for others, I might have just said 'I'm so full', or 'i can't handle that much sugar at this time in the morning..it's a treat just for you guys' etc

    it sounds like his response was defensive.
  • EuSaNaD
    EuSaNaD Posts: 33
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    Sounds like the guy was rude. You didn't do anything wrong. People who are defensive like that are usually projecting their own feelings. He probably felt guilty about eating a donut when someone else wasn't.

    I completely agree with what you said!
  • pkw58
    pkw58 Posts: 2,038 Member
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    So my stock response if my "No, thank you" is not accepted - "I have already had my fair share of x"... which honestly, is an honest answer.. I have had my fair share of donuts, bread, etc. I just used up my share earlier in life so now I need to leave it for others.

    It works for me.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
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    I was never fat so I'm not any kind of ex-fatty but I am DEFINITELY preachy now when it comes to exercise, I sometimes have to stop myself because it even annoys me ;) My three sisters give me hell about it....
  • Yunnieh
    Yunnieh Posts: 89 Member
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    I'm a FFP - Former Fat Person.
  • kylejh
    kylejh Posts: 221 Member
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    I was fat for a lot of years, and LOVED sweet things. When I made my lifestyle change, weight loss was #1 in my mind, so I avoided sweets for the most part, and no one really gave me a hard time about it. I'm at a different stage now... I'm at the point where I can enjoy dessert occasionally, and now people give me a hard time about it. I'll go to an all day meeting for work, grab dessert after lunch, and a few people like to put their 2 cents in about it. "Oh, are you sure you should be having that?" or "Is that allowed on your diet?" At first I responded with "I'm not on a diet," but now I respond with "Yup." It's weird how people feel like they need to comment on food choices, and that it is always negative. I have lost just shy of 80 lbs, look the best I have in my adult life, and have done it by making the right food choices while still enjoying eating, and don't really need people's uninformed opinions. It's life they think a piece of pie is going to make me fall off the wagon!
  • jenjen0214
    jenjen0214 Posts: 29
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    I am in a crazy position that I am accused of being one of "those" frequently. We have lots of outside meetings at our office, for which I have to provide lunches and snacks routinely. At a "generalized" request, I provided more healthy alternatives to the usual fare. At the same time I was in my process of losing a large amount of weight. Let's just say the healthier choice was not liked and I was accused of pushing my lifestyle choice on others....it was their suggestion. I apologized and took the high road. These days I order a little of each and when they ask me (sarcastically usually) if I am joining them on the unhealthy items, I simply decline and go for a short walk.

    Others will try and make you feel bad, just keep smiling and going and make them look like the jerk for overreacting.
  • Dayquasar
    Dayquasar Posts: 182 Member
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    I am a loud mouthed smart *kitten*, so I doubt the way I would respond would be at all helpful. :bigsmile:

    However, I probably wouldn't have brought doughnuts in the first place. I'd have opted for a fruit bowl or something.

    I agree, maybe share something healthy next time?
  • SamanthaH10
    SamanthaH10 Posts: 72 Member
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    I was fat for a lot of years, and LOVED sweet things. When I made my lifestyle change, weight loss was #1 in my mind, so I avoided sweets for the most part, and no one really gave me a hard time about it. I'm at a different stage now... I'm at the point where I can enjoy dessert occasionally, and now people give me a hard time about it. I'll go to an all day meeting for work, grab dessert after lunch, and a few people like to put their 2 cents in about it. "Oh, are you sure you should be having that?" or "Is that allowed on your diet?" At first I responded with "I'm not on a diet," but now I respond with "Yup." It's weird how people feel like they need to comment on food choices, and that it is always negative. I have lost just shy of 80 lbs, look the best I have in my life, and have done it by making the right food choices while still enjoying eating, and don't really need people's uninformed opinions. It's life they thing a piece of pie is going to make me fall off the wagon!

    Oh, how I understand THAT! The food police drives me absolutely crazy! Hubby has picked up on it recently, telling me just last night, "that's a big chicken breast; are you sure you should eat all of it?" Seriously?! *sigh*

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