"you'd be pretty if you were skinny"
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"You'd be so pretty if you would just lose weight" Heard it many, many times. The older I get, the more I realize I just don't give a crap what people think.0
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I love this ... especially the "Zelduh" shirt. :laugh:0 -
That happened to me my entire childhood. I was overweight at about 6 years old and obese by the time I was 8 years old. (At 8, I was 4'9" tall and weighed 100 lbs.). I spent most of my life hearing how pretty my face was... and how id look so much better if i was smaller..... then people started asking me why i was angry and sad all the time. I didn't grow up with good role models on how to eat and my family's idea of love was food. That's something I never want to pass on to my children. I've battled my weight for nearly 30 years and it's still an uphill battle, but yes, heard that many many times.0
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I would have said "you'd be pretty if you didn't speak". Then I would have hissed at 'em.
haha! maybe i'll start adding a hiss at the end of my reply.0 -
I was sitting next to a guy that grabbed my upper thigh, jiggled it, and told me I need to work out more. OH my gosh what an *kitten*!0
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Yes and they usually get something equally as rude said back to them.
"Really? Well you'd sound intelligent if you kept your fcking mouth shut."
"Oh well too bad makeup isn't going to cure your ugly."
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I would rather have people judge me based on who I am. The outside is going to fade someday, and then you will know who really liked you!0
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WTF?!?! That is so freakin disrespectful. I will say, I have seen some absolutely beautiful overweight women, that would obviously look better if they lost some weight. But you don't go up to someone and say that! Just because you are overweight, doesn't mean you aren't beautiful.
And losing weight is for yourself, not everyone else! I'm glad you use it as motivation to keep shedding pounds, but it just blows! Screw them for ever saying anything like that!! Especially some random in the bathroom that you have never met in your life. I'd look them square in the face and say, "You'd be pretty, if you weren't such a *kitten*!!!"
I agree that we could all be more beautiful if we were at a healthy size. But to say you would be pretty if... that makes it sound like you won't be if you don't! Screw that jazz. You will be beautiful today, tomorrow and continue forth as you reach your goals. Then you shall be stunning
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I was sitting next to a guy that grabbed my upper thigh, jiggled it, and told me I need to work out more. OH my gosh what an *kitten*!
oh hellll no! i think at that point i'd put my hair up and throw a punch!0 -
I hate that phrase with a passion!!! That phrase is 75% why I started this journey in February. And now I am 60 lbs down. I took it as the final straw and motivation. So use it to fire yourself up and turn it into a positive and then watch their faces when you accomplish everything you set out to do!0
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I would have said "you'd be pretty if you didn't speak". Then I would have hissed at 'em.
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-true beauty lies within
thats what people who don't want to change say.
people that say things like that, they want a reaction. they want you to call them a "beeyotch" or say something like "i can lose the weight, you'll always be a horrible person."
the best thing you can do is ignore them. don't validate certain people.
i dropped a lot of weight, and my uncle said to me "keep losing." i said nothing. i started doing strength training and eating more and putting on some weight, and my uncle said "your face looks fatter." i still said nothing. he wants to make himself feel better. thats all.0 -
The last time someone said that to me it was an elderly lady that was new to our church. I decided to look her dead in the eye and say "Aww, thanks! But you know what? I'm already pretty-losing weight would just make me skinnier." Boy did I make that lady MAD! But the other ladies that were waiting were amused!
Why was she mad??? Because you didn't slink off and cry in a corner with a giant bag of M&Ms?? She couldn't get to you so she was mad ... people suck sometimes. :mad:0 -
You handled it better then me. I would say back, yeah its too bad that its not that case for you. I am sooo sorry.0
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What gives a stranger the right to say that to you?? People always amaze me...they can be wonderful, inspiring, sweet or just plain rude. Why would you say a negative thing to a person you don't even know?? What would be the motivator??
Maybe they are just DUMB....0 -
A guy said that to me in a pub once - actually took me aside and gave me a lecture on how I could be so attractive to men if I'd only stop eating cake.
I don't eat cake
It was all I could do not to pour a drink over his head.
Once had an older gentleman (a complete stranger) tell me, "You should lose that weight while you're young. If I were a young man, I wouldn't court no big girls." :noway: 0 -
What a horrible thing to say to someone.
All I can say is that I'm thankful for my husband who loved me even when I was obese. He said I was always his pretty wife. He is glad I lost weight because it makes ME happy, but he gets mad if I disparage myself in any way about when I was fat. He always reminds me that I was always his lovely wife. I think I'm lucky to have him.
THIS is a real man! Those people who make insulting comments to others are just trying to make themselves feel better or care so little about the feelings of others that they aren't worth listening to anyways.0 -
You should have said, "Well you might be nice person if you werent such a b#tch".0
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I was sitting next to a guy that grabbed my upper thigh, jiggled it, and told me I need to work out more. OH my gosh what an *kitten*!
oh hellll no! i think at that point i'd put my hair up and throw a punch!
Yeah, a punch right where it counts!!0 -
part of what kept me so fat for so long was friends who didn't want to hurt my feelings telling me that I wasn't fat, that I was solid, big boned and "still beautiful". It wasn't till I heard the truth from a guy I really liked that I finally got smacked in the face with it.....and was able to get motivated to lose the weight....
and now I AM beautiful, inside and out....
truth is truth.....don't cover it with chocolate to make it taste better.....if you are morbidly obese you WILL be more attractive when you lose the extra weight
don't be a hater 0 -
That is an insult....
I threw a party for my parents' 30th wedding anniversary last year in July. I invited a bunch of people, one of them being a Catholic priest - a very close friend of theirs. I know he was checking me out as I set up the food and stuff. Eventually, he told me in front of a few people" You are beautiful but too fat, if you lost weight you'd be damn sexy." THOSE EXACT WORDS.. I will never forget them as I was never insulted like that not only in front of others, but by a priest. I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. I haven't seen him since. *kitten**ole!0 -
I have heard since I was 6 years old, " You are so pretty, BUT you would be so much prettier IF you would just lose weight." Nothing like killing a child's self esteem at 6 years old and people wonder why I spent the better half of my 39 years beating myself up and devaluing myself!!!
Weight only equals beauty in Hollywood!!! You are beautiful!!!0 -
There are some truly beautiful larger ladies, I myself think Dawn French (UK Comedienne) is stunning, and she is what you may call portly. I understand what these people were trying to say, however, the way they have chosen to say what they did represents some sort of ignorance.0
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the only appropriate reply: "You'd be smart if you knew how to shut the *kitten* up"
Follow up kicks and/or punches optional.0 -
Response should be "You'd be smart if you weren't so stupid."
Yes! Say this!!0 -
People can be true a$$hats. NO one has the right to tell a complete stranger such a thing.
Yes, i have heard it. Heard it from family members, that's pretty hurtful.
Kinda like asking a total stranger "When is your baby due?" A$$hats.
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Its a backhanded compliment. I have no idea why people feel it is okay to say things like that. aarrrgghhhhhh0
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-true beauty lies within
thats what people who don't want to change say.
people that say things like that, they want a reaction. they want you to call them a "beeyotch" or say something like "i can lose the weight, you'll always be a horrible person."
the best thing you can do is ignore them. don't validate certain people.
i dropped a lot of weight, and my uncle said to me "keep losing." i said nothing. i started doing strength training and eating more and putting on some weight, and my uncle said "your face looks fatter." i still said nothing. he wants to make himself feel better. thats all.
^^^THIS0 -
You should have said, "Well you might be nice person if you werent such a b#tch".
^^^^exactly what you should have done....and threw in a b!tch slap just for ****s and giggles0 -
I dont care what people say to me,they could tell me im pretty or butt ugly,either way it hasnt mattered to me in a very long time0
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