Question for the guys - What do men look for in a woman?

What men don't want:
Someone who is critical and controlling
Someone who expects them to have no other friends or interests outside of the relationship
Someone who needs constant reassurance to make up for their own low self-image.

What men DO want:

They want the pretty and down-to-earth girl next door, who they could be proud to have by their side.
and someone who will love them without restraint in the bedroom and never need to look at another man.

Am I wrong??

Pretty much spot on!

What I look for in a woman is how they Carry themselves....If a woman carries themselves with confidence and approaches life with a smile and enthusiasm....It certainly floats my boat!

My personal list of "must-have":
- Ability to juggle. Not that fake crap where you take two balls and toss one in the air while passing the other one from hand to hand. I'm talking full on, bowling pins in the air, unicycle type juggling.
- Hair that tastes like chemicals, with slightly singed tips. Must occur naturally, I'll know if she pulled out a Bic on it.
- Deaf in one ear. What can I say, I enjoy repeating myself.
- Legs of uneven length. This forces that "gangsta lean" and will scare away would-be attackers.

Absolute deal breakers:
- An uneven number of teeth. Symmetry is necessary in all things. Oops, except for legs.
- Having ever worked as an extra on a movie. I don't want to sift through IMBD results while Google-stalking.
- Having had access to the Internet for more than 59 minutes cumulatively over her entire life span. All it takes is 1 hour to completely ruin a person.
- A name that in any way shape or form rhymes or melds with my own. I don't want anyone coming up with a cutesey couple name.


That's all, I'm pretty easy to please.

This exact same thread reappears about 3 times a month, from different people. Women, I mean. It's always women asking what men want and not the reverse. What men want in a relationship, in our bodies, blah blah blah. It's like the women plan their lives around what men want on this site.


Ladies, how about we:

1. stop worrying what the freaking guys want all the time
2. figure out what we want
3. do that
4. and be open and friendly, so that when a guy comes along that shares that interest you can scoop him up. (Because with ~7 billion people in the world, you're bound to find at least one person who sincerely likes you just as you are, no calculation and strategies necessary. If he doesn't, why would you want HIM?)

We can all go home now.

Because a lot of women have low self esteem and need a man to make them feel good so we try to make ourselves appeal to as many men as possible so it's a higher chance of us bagging one, not realizing that those efforts can drive men away, making them miserable in the process. I've been through this every time I'm single. Hopefully I'm never single again in my life because I really don't want to go through that again. :laugh:

shy, sweet genuine smiles....hearts and stars in eyes.

To be completely honest, if we are dating you, we like you, we think you're sexy and we could possibly be happy forever. It's your job not to screw that up. Don't try to change us, don't get too crazy when PMS'ing, and make sure the sex stays good.

Of course there are those of us out there that are jerks who will screw this up...but for the most part, what I wrote above applies to the majority.

Guys ae all different, but what I look for is:

1. Attractiveness. Not just a hot body and big boobs (although that is a plus). I also look for nice eyes, nice smile, and general "how do they take care of themselves". I have dated plenty of heavy women, and size inst really a factor for me (my current wife was very heavy, and has since had a gastric bypass). That leads to number 2...

2. How is their attitude? Do they smile, are they confident but not bossy. DO they know themselves, and know what they want. Are they capable? Independent but still "need me"?

3. As much as it will be castigated in here, Sex. Do they like it, are compatible sexually? Do they like to touch, hold hands, kiss? Do they initiate physical contact, even just a small touch or hands on the thigh in the car. Are they willing to do PDAs?

As you can see, its just as complex as any other human being. Bottom line is "am I attracted to you"? and then "do I like to hang with you"? and finally "Do we get along enough to be together"?

I like a woman that can hold my attention with her intelligence and wit , And having lots of things in common aswell as feeling comfortable and relaxed from the get go ... Meeting my wife was truly finding the other half of me !!!