People telling me that I'm too thin..um I'm MAD!

working in a doctor's office is an ideal place to pin up a weight/height chart try putting one in the ladies toilet where people can look at in private who knows some of them might do something about their own weight but at least it should get them off your back

I LOVE this idea.

It would be a very subtle way of telling everyone what you think. Then on the way out of the bathroom hang up a sign up sheet for a "biggest loser" competition or something. haha

Some of them say it because they care. Others say it because they're nasty, and that's what bothers me. The one lady at work the other day was saying stuff to me and I told her how much I weigh and i was like "130 is at the upper half of the healthy weight range for my height" and she goes "for what, an emaciated person? yeah, okay..." Umm who do you think you are, lady!!

Actually, you are pretty close to the lowest healthy weight for your height on the BMI charts I'm looking at. I think you look beautiful though! Just ignore them, they are very likely just envious!

You're welcome! Actually, I just noticed your ticker though, and if you lose another 10 lbs you would be underweight. Maybe they really do just love you and are worried about you losing too much more. There are some health risks associated with being underweight too, such as losing bone mass and messing up your reproductive hormones. I know every body is different, but just something to keep in mind in case you might be one of those people who doesn't see herself accurately.

Wow, really?! I thought it was closer to the higher range. Thank you for letting me know! And thank you for the nice compliment

Annoying as it may be to be accused of being too thin by people who may be a bit on the heavy side themselves, I don't think that sarcastic put downs are the best way either to endear yourself to the rest of the office nor probably to get them to take a long hard look at themselves and take action.

If, as Heather points out, you are already at a healthy weight and planning to go lower, it is possible that some of the comments you have received reflect a genuine concern which (being tinged with just a shade of jealousy) are carelessly phrased and which you may perceive as being more hostile than you imagine.

Returning fire by telling people that they are going to die young because of their disgusting corpulence is hardly likely to endear yourself to them - and may not be entirely appropriate if, in light of Heather's comments, you decide to review your own goals.

Just remember, as annoying as comments about being the weight you aspire to be might seem to you, comments you make about the fact that some of your co-workers are at weights that they probably don't aspire to be will hurt more. You don't retain the moral high ground by hitting your opponent harder than they can hit you.

Stick to facts. This is my goal, this is why and this is how I'm going to go about it. You work in a medical environment; people there will presumably know a bit about what is and isn't a healthy weight. Your co-workers may have different views from yours - reasonable people can disagree on the matter after all and BMI isn't the be all and end all of health (or appearance for that matter). Cutting them dead might make you feel better but it will make them feel worse and probably make them think the worse of you rather than admiring your rapier wit.

If you can turn a catty comment from some lardy co-worker into a relaxed discussion about the matter without anyone getting their feelings hurt, you might be able to persuade other people of your point of view, that some of the things they perceive as privations aren't so bad after all and they might actually want to follow your example. At a minimum you might manage to get some healthy food delivered instead of the junk. But potentially, you might get several people in your office working together to be healthier.

I absolutely guarantee that being the skinny cow who snuck the BMI chart into the ladies toilets will not stop the comments and won't change anyone's behaviour.

hunneric...has a point.

This!

ive been there too and it is extremely frustrating. dont let it bring you down though; i had to learn to just become oblivious to it. now i could care less!

the fact of the matter is that you are hot and in shape and they are clearly jealous because you're doing this all while eating. theyre living in a different world than you and are simply ignorant. try to feel bad for these people instead; or maybe even explain to them a bit what you are doing and how you work out and such. maybe they will be inspired

take a yoga breath

I've have found my people!

I have had 3 different people come up to me yesterday to tell me that I need to stop losing weight. I'm 5'5" and currently 137. I have 7 more pounds to goal, I've increased my calorie intake to match my exercise, I'm never hungry and I'm a size 6 currently.

I think it is from people who lost weight and put it back on. AND here's the kicker--I learned to dress for my body type oh about 24 years ago. So I have always looked thinner than I actually was and now I wear under clothes that keep the "loose flab" in place. Truly people cannot tell what work I have to go, so they assume that they are right and I am wrong.

It's very irksome really! I know they mean well really I do, and I always start a conversation with "Ask me anything", and I have talked about my loose flab and tightening underclothes, and still these comments persist...especially on jeans Fridays--I just love my size 6 jeans!!!

I don't blame you for being annoyed about that. I know it's hard, but just ignore them, or better, tell them it's not any of their business (because it really isn't!) I have a coworker who does the same thing. She's just totally rude and has no filter about ANYTHING, but she eats nothing but fatty, starchy food all the time and is constantly grazing and has put on at least ten pounds since I started working there, but she has the nerve to tell me I don't eat enough and am too thin just because I made the mistake of letting her overhear me tell another coworker that I was on a diet. I LOVE food and am always hungry, and when I forget myself and make the mistake of saying so, or saying I'm hurt or sore from one of my workouts, she has the nerve to tell me I'm "crazy" for dieting and working out. I feel like being super bratty and quoting something my friend said once--"Right. And that is why *I* look like ME and YOU look like YOU."

Honestly, you are doing great and should be proud of yourself. People like your coworkers are simply ignorant, and it's worse for them than it is for you. Remember: your habits and discipline are why YOU look like YOU and THEY look like THEM!

I'm getting some of that too. I'm 5'8" Small frame, 150. I've gotten a lot thinner, but I'm still kinda pudgy in my stomach, thighs, and butt. One of my coworkers said "When are you gonna quit shrinking?" My dad and sister scrutinize my healthy food and eating schedule. Just because I share that I'm losing weight doesn't mean you get to scrutinize my food; it's just plain disrespectful.

I have to agree with you. It does get very annoying when people bug you about your weight. I had a woman go so far as to say that she thought I had an eating disorder. REALLY people just be supportive.

If you hit the gym every day and are eating 1200 calories a day, you ARE underfed.

Some of them say it because they care. Others say it because they're nasty, and that's what bothers me. The one lady at work the other day was saying stuff to me and I told her how much I weigh and i was like "130 is at the upper half of the healthy weight range for my height" and she goes "for what, an emaciated person? yeah, okay..." Umm who do you think you are, lady!!

She is just jealous, probably doesn't even realize that she is being so insulting....Just keep doing what you're doing for YOU and screw everyone else! :glasses:

Jealousy is a strong emotion. They just envy you for being able to eat a lot and still have a good figure.

She doesn't eat a lot though.

After her exercise she only nets 1000 calories on average from what I've seen her in diary... and thats nothing.

It only looks like she eats a lot because she snacks all day.

Jealousy is a strong emotion. They just envy you for being able to eat a lot and still have a good figure.

She doesn't eat a lot though.

After her exercise she only nets 1000 calories on average from what I've seen her in diary... and thats nothing.

It only looks like she eats a lot because she snacks all day.

I eat around six times a day to keep my metabolism going.

Which is a total myth.

You don't need to eat 6 times a day.

Metabolism is determined by lean muscle mass... so if you do weight training(be it body weight or actual weights) then your metabolism should be fine. If you do only cardio and no resistance training at all, then you could potentially be in trouble.