What was your moment of "enough is enough"?

My moment was recently. My 4yo asked why my belly was so fat. At this age they tell it like it is quite innocently.

There was no good answer for that really, I decided to be a better role model.

A few days after my 30th birthday in May.

Had split up with my ex 3 days after Xmas (her choice) and been on a downward spiral since, during which time I had been diagnosed with severe depression and severe anxiety. Had initially managed to lose some weight but was taking caffeine thermobol pills which messed with my head as do not drink tea or coffee and heightened all the issues I had going on in my head, so stopped taking these and piled weight back on.

Spent the intervening months struggling to cope with depression and other events and struggling with break up, as my ex is part of the same social group and my sports team physio, and I am the clubhouse manager and live in the flat above! so would see her a number of times a week, and had a lot of unanswered questions. During this time I was drinking to a far heavier extent than I had before and losing control of emotions.

Anyway, on the night of my 30th party I found out for definite what I already suspected, that my ex was dating one of my friends, which devastated me completely. Spent a few days thinking about moving away, and darker thoughts, and then decided that I had no real choice but to stay at least in the short term and that had to get myself sorted mentally and physically as I had let things slide for too land and to stand any chance of rebuilding anything with my ex.

Anyway further down the line I am now the lightest and fittest I have been in years, am calmer as taking anti depressant tablets to control mood, having counselling and have only drunk alcohol on one weekend in the last 4 1/2 months. I am also slowly building a friendship with my ex, which although not my ideal result, is something that I am happy about as we nearly became close friends instead before we got together so if this is what we can be in the future then I can settle for that.

I still have along way to go, both mentally and physically, as I have been carrying the mental issues for years without dealing with them and am sure this had detrimental effect on relationship, but am slowly working towards a healthier me along the lines of "healthy body, healthy mind". It almost certainly won't change things for me and ex on relationship level but hope we can be good friends going forward, and I can find a happy point for me both mentally and physically, so can be the person I want to be.

Bit long winded but there we go.

My enough is enough moment was after installing security cameras on my house. Shortly after doing so I was reviewing video footage to see what was activating the cameras and saw myself on camera doing yard work. OMG... I had no idea that was what the rest of the world saw when they looked at me. I actually could not identify with what I saw on camera verses what I saw in the mirror every morning getting dressed for work. When you look at yourself up close you dont see the whole picture. If you want to really see what you look like, do a small video of yourself from a distance. The carmera doesn't lie folks. I was wobbling and lumbering like fat Albert and didn't even reaize it. I looked like the stereo-tyipcal fat guy. I knew then something drastic had to be done. All those years of lifting weights and haveing musles wasn't enough. I was a fat guy with mucsle. So I said screw the wieght and the muscles, I have to loose wieght now. Also, I had been on meds for 8-10 years and knew if I didn' tdo something fast at 43, life would not last much longer.