Anyone with a significant other who is sabotaging them??

I love my DH to pieces but I'm in the same situation as you'all. I never really ate much fast food until my DH and I started dating and now I am having trouble kicking the habit. He just loves fast food, steak, and pretty much anything processed within an inch of its life. It's been a real struggle to stay focused and on track. Once I started eating healthier it started rubbing off on him and now he's talking about kicking his soda habit. Good luck staying motivated!

yep mine is the same way. he makes me feel like he wants me to be fat. telling me im getting too skinny (im not). buying me doughnuts (which is one of my addictions). and lots of times wants to eat stuff that just isnt the healthiest. it makes it so hard.

I don't have the best eating habits, but my husband eats like CRAP. The good thing, is when we eat together, he will eat whatever I put in front of him, so that helps. Last night I used my juicer to make apple-spinach-kale-grape juice, asked if he wanted a glass, and he said "No thanks, I'm not really in the mood" But I thought 'whateverrrrrr' and made three glasses (one for our toddler) I told him to drink it anyways so he gets in some vitamins, and he did. So it helps to be able to do that!

Yes. I'm the only one keeping a food diary and busting my *kitten* working out. No one else eats veggies. If it was up to me,, I'd be happy with just eating vegetables. My daughter is naturally thin so she can eat whatever and not gain an ounce. My son is very active but we set limits for him. My hubs, doesn't eat very much, nor the way that he should. For example he won't eat all day, except for dinner. His job, he says, doesn't give in a chance to eat. He does have lunch break but doesn't take it. So when I'm at home they're all eating stuff that I can't eat because I stay under or close to my daily cal allowance. It's hard, but I'm doing it. I wish I had a workout buddy, it would be so much easier & that much more fun

just break up.

I felt like this before.. Merv knew I was unhappy with my weight, and yet he'd bring home my favorite spinach dip with the most unhealthy (yet best tasting) nachos to dip in it, or grab chips to watch a movie- always grabbing my fav kind as well as his.. When I'd say how much I wished I was smaller and sexier he'd reply with- 'ur just fine hun. besides, than I'd have to worry about every other guy chasing you'

UNTIL

I made it obvious. Not only did I start logging my day on here, but I verbally expressed the support I was receiving 'elsewhere than from him' ONLY by saying how great the support is on here, and how much it's truly helping. I expressed my calorie goals for the day as well as how I did. I honestly didn't even really mean to do this 'to him', it was for me and I was so happy bout it I just shared it all.

Now? Now that he's SEEN and HEARD how important this is to me and that I am doing it with or without his support- he's awesome. Not to mention I'm sure my overall happy feeling on life has helped as well. He's told he me's proud I'm sticking to it. He's said my 4lb weight loss is 'awesome babe'. Sure, he tells me i'm sexy now- but he ALSO tells me how he knows I'll be even sexier with the confidence I'll have in my old (prior surgery/ms) body and just from doing this FOR MYSELF. He's picking me up a heart rate monitor and books now as surprises instead of junk food. And dare I say that he even walked 3km with me the other day.. I just started putting my shoes on and grabbed the dog leashes- thus saying non-verbally- I'm goin.. with or without your wonderful company.. An low an behold- he even kept up! And appreciates what I do walk everyday that much more now too.

Bottom line- do it for yourself. Make it obvious. And hope like hell he doesn't want to get left in the dark.
Best of luck

..and to give my wonderful man and most men out there the benefit of the doubt- I honestly don't think he knew how to help before until I showed him, and just tried to comfort in the ways he knew.

I'm sorry, I'm new to this site. What does DH mean? **** head?

I believe it's "Dear Hubby" or "Dear Husband", at least that's what it meant on another forum I belong to.

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I'm blown away by the husbands and BFs out there who _actively_ sabotage your efforts. That makes no sense to me. I could see if THEY don't want to change - they continue to eat what they want... but to bring home food that you have specifically told them you don't want in the house, to 'taunt' you? Man, I don't get that at all.

Sorry for those situations - guess it'll make your willpower that much stronger that much quicker!

Good luck!

Mac

My husband says some of those same things!

Last year, I lost 25 pounds using MFP and taking my kids on long walks in the double stroller, and doing any random workout videos I could get my hands on.

This year, my company started a wellness program and pays for a group fitness class at a local Fitness Together studio. I've been going twice a week and so many times my husband has criticized my working out, saying I'm not eating enough (when he will skip breakfast and lunch and only eat a big dinner), saying I'm working out on my lunch break when I should be spending time with him; accusing me of getting in shape to please somebody other than him; ridiculous, insecure, stuff.

Plus, he is a pizza/fried chicken/can'tstandanygreenvegetablesontheplate kind of eater. The GOOD news is that he will encourage the kids to eat their veggies, even if he doesnt eat his own, haha. Occasionally he will get on a "I want to get in shape again" kick and tell me to buy and cook "healthy" food again (He LOVES quesadillas; eating healthy for him means i use whole wheat instead of white flour tortillas and lower fat cheese, lol!)

Over time, he has had to get used to the fact that working out and fitness will be a part of my (and our) lifestyle. I'm not doing it because I intend to leave him; I'm doing it because I intend to live a long and happy and healthy life with him. I stopped going to the Fitness Together classes, and instead have joined the local YMCA. Monday I took my kids and dropped them off at the Child Watch rooms and worked out for a half hour in the gym. Last night, my husband went with me while my mom watched our kids. It was an excellent workout, and we agreed to establish a routine of Mon, Wed, & Sat mornings working out together.

Talk to your SO. Don't accuse him of not supporting you because maybe he doesn't realize it. But DO tell him how he makes you feel, let him know you are willing to find a compromise that works well for him, and talk it out! good luck!

I did.....until the divorce.

just break up.

Yes and stop living in sin!

LOL wow \m/

Unless he's holding you down and shoving food into your face, you are the master of your own piehole.

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My husband does this.. not on purpose or anything, but he brings sweets home and chips and things like that. I've told him I don't want it in the house, it's too tempting for me. He thinks I should just be able to stay out of it. But it's not that easy!!

No significant other but my aunt is always buying crap that i dont need! And what I dont understand is that she wants to lose weight and even has a gym membership and doesnt go. Instead she buys cakes, cookies, oreos, snack cakes, chips, cheetos, etc.

She is in her early 50's and has limited mobility due to several knee surgeries. But if she would only start to eat healthier, thats half the battle. Ive resorted to buying my own groceries lately and keeping them at my desk at work or in my room. I dont say anything to her because its her money but at the same time im frustrated because its wasted money and i want so much more for her than what she is putting in her body.

my gf is very supporting of my weight and lifestyle change...she eats what she wants when im not around but when i come home for dinner its normally a healthy meal..or atleast my portion is healthy..she used to cook everything in butter and use cheese but knows i cant have alot of it so she changed some of her eating habits for me...

My wife does not intentionally sabotage me, but she is in the military, so has physical training every morning, gym as part of her workday, and then goes to the gym with me in the evenings. With all of that calorie burn not to mention her much larger muscle mass, she snacks all day, and can be a horrible influence when it comes to meal choices, too. It is hard to eat smaller portions, not snack, etc. when your spouse needs both of those things. We're still working on a sense of balance about it!