I'm being sabotaged.

You're a grown up right? She can't make you eat or do anything. You have to chose not to let your emotions & guilt take over your common sense when it comes to food.

No one can sabotage your weight loss except you. You have the power, she doesn't. Say "no" and walk away.

People aren't going to lose the weight for you. You have to just realize that you are the boss. Tell her "I appreicate that you were thinking of me, but I am committed to losing weight and this just won't fit into my plan". Or some variation of that.

Or make her go get you something and while she's gone, throw out the food, all except a bite, and as she's returning pop that last bite in your mouth :laugh:

Wow...like you said, her paycheck depends upon you...so she is in panic mode right now as to HOW to market you WHEN you lose all of this weight. Just sit her down calmly, and tell her that you're doing this for your health and well being. I'm sure there will be roles that you can take no matter what your size and she'll have to deal with it as it comes. You are in charge! Maybe she doesn't even realize what she's doing. Just get it all out in the open and if she STILL keeps sabotaging you, just start looking around for another agent. If you have experience and are a working actress, I'm sure there will be other agents to gladly take you on. Good luck.

My agent (and best friend) doesn't want me to lose weight. She told me as much before I started MFP, but yesterday and today she really went all out to ruin my calorie count. A celebration where she ordered endless shrimp for everyone. An "apology" Big Mac today - ignoring the fact that I had packed a healthy lunch to finally FINALLY stop using the catering cart for my meals. She stood there to watch me eat it. That's when I knew she is really out to sabotage me.

I think she's afraid if I lose weight, that I'll either lose my appeal as "the fat actress" or I'll find another agent. (We've been together since I was a kid, and we're also distantly related. Her paycheck depends on me.)

Has anyone else had problems with close friends sabotaging your diet/exercise efforts? How did you deal? I really need help here, I don't know what to say to her.

Are you that chick from precious?

Tell her get behind you --- or out of your way. Simple.

It may make your road more difficult when you don't have the support, but that doesn't mean it is impossible! You still hold the power to say no. My family and friends have not been very supportive and there are days when I cave. What I do is focus on the long-term. I log on to MFP everyday and log my food. I own up to the choices that -I- made. (No one shoved them down my throat.) So if someone made a batch of cookies or cake and I eat it, I still log to see what that damage does. Over the long-term if you take ownership of your actions, you may start to realize that you still have control.

Also, my family and friends were not really supportive of me trying to make healthy changes to my life, but now that they see my success they have become much more supportive. If your agent is truly your friend, they will start to be supportive of you because YOU are happy.

In addition to what Minnie said as far as the actor situation, maybe you should remind your friend/agent of all of the actors that also died because of health problems related to being overweight. I think you should worry about your health. You can't be a successful actor if you're not around.

If you are looking for any support on MFP, feel free to add me. :flowerforyou:

Best of luck!

I can't stand it, I know you planned it, I'm gonna set it straight, this watergate...

Kirstie Alley, is that you?

Don't eat the food. If she buys you a Big Mac and you want something else for lunch, throw it in the trash. She'll get the hint.

Now this I like. It is people like this "friend" that cause so many problems and deserve to have their money thrown away!

Are you kidding me? Your friend does not have a gun to your head. You're an adult, you're the only one who controls what food you put into your face. At the end of the day, it's your body and your health. You need to put your foot down.

I'd have thrown the Big Mac in the trash, right in front of her. No REAL friend would act like this. YOU are the only one responsible for what you eat. If she doesn't like it, she can piss off.

I think some of the other posts miss the point slightly by just saying that you have to stand up for yourself and so on. It is very difficult to do this to someone you like very much or even love. My husband sabotage me a lot especially when it comes to exercise, so I know what you're going through. I think the person who says that you have to talk to her and find out what's going on and why she is doing it comes closest to being helpful. However, it is possible that she - like my husband - is completely unaware of what she is doing and why. The moment I sat down and analysed the problem and figured out that he felt extremely bad about not being able to exercise and getting himself into shape due to permanent back problems and that he was jealous of my being able to go out and work for a new figure - a jealousy he did not want to admit even to himself - was the moment I realised that I simply had to ignore the sabotage and get on with my plan. About once a week I allow myself a treat day with him; either going out for a meal or cooking something special at home. You have to decide how YOU tackle this issue and go ahead and do it yourself because quite possibly your friend is not going to realise what she is doing - whatever you say to her and it might kill your friendship.

I can't stand it, I know you planned it, I'm gonna set it straight, this watergate...

:laugh: brilliance at its finest...

So dealing with the emotions of yourself and food is one thing, having those close to you in real life not help you is a fact we all have to deal with. To make it worse, we all receive gifts and appreciation tokens in the form of food. Thank you, nice of you to do, I appreciate the offer, but have to decline right now. Words to practice and mean them when people are generous to you and you can't accept. Like being offered free tickets to a pro football game on a Sunday when you are scheduled to be in church as an usher. You have prior commitments. Like your health needs some serious attention (well, in my case it did).

Sweetalker, best of luck. I enjoy TV and Movies and I am really glad you do what you do.