HOw to get out of the I'll start tomorrow mentality
brenbrenm
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Ugh....how do you guys get out and stay out of this mentality. I can do somewhat well for a few days, then have one slip up and go into the "I'll start again tomorrow....or worse yet, on Monday, or next month" thinking. Then, of course, before "tomorrow or Monday" I go crazy until then! How do you avoid this??
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I'm working through this myself, I find that each time I get a little mentally stronger, cuz I really do not want to be fat anymore! So now my times between each " I'll start tomorrow, is down to hours! Lol! I think it becomes about when you are really ready to make the commitment to yourself and not be lazy anymore! That's what it boils down to for me....I get lazy mentally.0
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When you start thinking "I will start tomorrow" you have to start a new dialog with yourself and say no forget that, Ill start right now. You have to just push those thoughts out of your mind. They are excuses and once you break that cycle for the first time you are more likely to keep going. Those days when I am super tired and don't want to work out, I just have to tell myself that I will feel better once I get to the gym and I do. I also have nothing to feel guilty about afterwards, because I did it and didnt let excuses stop me.0
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Good reasoning to NOT start a diet tomorrow is that you're only going to have MORE to lose if you keep putting it off. Then you'll be less and less likely to EVER start.
Think you need to look at what you're trying to say no to that's making you want to start later. If it's food, then you should know that a little bit of something isn't going to hurt you, but don't binge on it. Always know that there'll be more of it some other time. If it's exercise, then you may need to be doing something more simple. Doing Insanity or p90x isn't for everyone, so go with something simple and enjoyable like walking outside.
Set reasonable goals that work for YOU. You see people on tv that lose 100 pounds in 3 months, but what the don't tell you is that they put it almost all back on the next year. Realize that your body needs to gradually lose in order to keep it off for longer. Don't expect over night results.
Try to pick yourself back up whenver you fall. Go to a party and have too much chip and dip? SIgnificant other break up with you and you downed a full bag of fun sized reeeses? Cleaned out a buffet? BRUSH IT OFF, and realize that it set you back and you're learning from your mistakes.
Write down some things that make you want to start tomorrow, and see what you can do to fix them. Ex: 1. Really hungry right before bed-drink protein shake an hour before bed time and brush teeth. 2. Friends and family aren't supportive-plan your own meals and eat before any special events. 3. Afraid of the scale-set for sure weigh in dates, and weigh in no matter what!
Good luck
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What helped me is the idea that every day is a new day. I re-start every day, whether the previous day went well or not, with my daily calorie goal being re-set (in my case, at 1200). So, if my goal starts over every single day, so can my efforts. I'm not trying to "be good" every single day. But, every single day, I try to "be good" TODAY.
It is all a mind game. Eventually, it gets easier, and you don't even have to think about it. You just begin again.
I hope this helps.
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One slip up does not derail my entire day. For instance, I just had a reese's pumpkin... I loved it. Guess what, I'm gonna eat right the rest of the day. It did not destroy my diet and I'll continue on today
I start everything today. Make a commitment to yourself to do that. One step, one day at a time0 -
I am so glad to hear I am not the only one who suffers from this- I have been doing this for 2 years. I also gained more weight because of it. I am trying really hard to track all of my food now no matter what so I need to be accountable to myself. I put this weight on- I have to take it off. Good luck.0
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One month from now you'll wish you started today. Keep reminding yourself that and eventually, your new routine will become second nature. Starting "tomorrow" just means another entire day of zero progress.
I'd suggest setting goals (like losing 15 pounds by christmas) and KNOW that this won't be acheived by starting later. Push yourself and you'll be amazed by your willpower when you /know/ that you're capable of doing it.0 -
For me, I view it as breaking psychological conditioning. Exercise sucks, right? It's so hard and we don't want to do it.
I remind myself that I feel better after a long run than I feel any other time. Thirty minutes of strenuous activity makes me feel better than an hour of TV, or two or four, or overeating.
I feel good physically and mentally.0 -
I lived my whole life that way until I finally got the average mentality. Now, I think calories in, calories out. If 1500 calories is my goal today and I eat 2000, then I have 500 calories (roughly an hour) of exercise to do; or I have to eat 1000 calories tomorrow. I try to eat healthy most of the time and I do not deprive myself of chocolate, drinking, occasional carbs, etc. For me, the idea of completely restricting myself revs up my rebellious nature and I want to eat more, or eat something just because I know I can't have it or it isn't allowed.
I base my calories on the week. If I do great all week long I may have 800 calories in the "bank" for the weekend. That could be a dessert, a splurge meal, or 8 rum and diet cokes. Or wine. Or I could choose to save that 800 calories because I want to take Sunday off from the gym. Stuff like that. I know I want to relax on the weekends so I try to eat clean and work out hard all week long so I can. If I mess up, it means I am working out on Saturday or doing an extra run on Sunday or maybe its a no drink, no dessert weekend.
You get the idea. Just figure out what your plan is calorie wise to lose and go from there.0 -
Read this article. Then check back in after your workout.
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2012/09/04/power-of-habit/ 0 -
In all honesty, you've got to yell at yourself...
Take a look in the mirror and jiggle your belly fat around... Or put on a pair of pants you COULD fit into last year... This is for YOU - this is YOUR decision. So don't make excuses for yourself - that's pathetic.
Quit bein' a ***** and go DO something - start making a difference TODAY.
That's exactly what I told myself back in April. 35 pounds later, I'm still struggling, but now it's a challenge - now I've SEEN progress (just put on a pair of pants I haven't worn in 4+ years...) and I'm MAD that I'm not losing weight faster.
Not bein' mean to ya - you gotta be mean to yourself. And quite frankly, don't look to US to tell you what to do or help you fix it. This is all you, (wo)man...
Good luck. Now drop down and gimme 20... 0 -
Quit bein' a ***** and go DO something - start making a difference TODAY.
Boo for MFP censoring pu$$y... This is tough love, folks. 0 -
Start again today.0
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I have a new quote that I came up with, "EXCUSES are just that, EXCUSES, Not REASONS! It is time to start focusing on my REASONS for getting Healthy and not blaming the EXCUSES!"
My husband still does once in a while and I used to think like that A LOT!!! "OK, i'll start on Monday Morning" or "OK, I totally screwed up. Might as well jsut re-start tomorrow!" OR...."I am too tired and my favorite show is on TV so, I'll jsut watch it and go out tomorrow for my walk!!"
The biggest thing is just GET UP and DO IT!!! That is what I had to do. I still have those mental issues once in a while, ESPECIALLY since I get up first thing and exercise at 5 am. SO MANY MORNINGS I get up and say, "UGH, I jstu want to stay in bed!" but, I DONT! I get up, get moving, do my workout, get my shower, and get everyone out the door, including myself, for the day. I have even gotten myself up on Sunday mornings (7am tho) and got moving! I just dont want to be heavy anymore and the progress I have been making in jsut these past 4 weeks by staying commited has given me enough to keep pushing. AND, with losing about 6 inches in the span of 4 weeks, I am anxious for the rest to melt away!!
AS THE AD SAYS, JUST DO IT!!!! Agreed, you have to break then mental cycle in your head! GOOD LUCK!!!0 -
You have to get fed up with yourself. I can never start losing weight until I hit rock bottom. 7 weeks ago I woke up on a Tuesday and just did it. Every night I exercise. After week 4 I started watching what I ate even more. At first I gained 6 lbs and now I am down 12 lbs.0
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I like the idea of having a free day per week or every other week or whatever where you take the day off from counting calories or rigorously following an exercise schedule. If you get any exercise in or eat well on that day, it is a bonus. If you see a food that is off limits during the week, have it on your off day....and REMIND yourself that you will have those foods on the off day. At least for me it lessened the impact of eating only healthy foods and prevented me from uncontrollable binge eating. I noticed that over time, I tended to enjoy many of the lower calorie foods on my free day and felt ill with foods that I previously couldn't live without.0
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Don't wait till tomorrow to start! So you may not get everything right on the first day, but at least start by making one change in your behavior. For example, eat breakfast if you don't normally, drink some water instead of soda, don't go back for seconds, add some exercise, take the stairs, just do something, anything different than you did yesterday. Do that everyday and you will be well on your way to success.!!.0
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What helped me is the idea that every day is a new day. I re-start every day, whether the previous day went well or not, with my daily calorie goal being re-set (in my case, at 1200). So, if my goal starts over every single day, so can my efforts. I'm not trying to "be good" every single day. But, every single day, I try to "be good" TODAY.
It is all a mind game. Eventually, it gets easier, and you don't even have to think about it. You just begin again.
I hope this helps.
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Omg. Do you WANT it? Go look at yourself naked in the mirror. DO YOU WANT IT? Think about all the crap you eat that makes you look like you do.... what do you want more? When you finally answer that with " I want to be healthy and look HOT!" THEN you'll know how to never put it off again. Get mad. Get determined and frickin DO IT.0
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LMAO. I have those days. I tell myself, "I don't want to do it, maybe another day. one day won't hurt." and then I get into my bedroom and I'm putting on workout clothes and I go, "I'm just trying it on, nothing special." then I put on my running shoes and I'm out the door to my car and I drive all the way thinking "Ok, I'll go but only for 20 minutes or so I guess. As long as I worked out." Once i get to the gym and I'm on the treadmill--20 minutes goes by, "Ok, maybe another five minutes." I go for another five minutes...."Ok only 5 minutes left of cardio run might as well finish it." LMAO! and I do finish it! lol.0
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LMAO. I have those days. I tell myself, "I don't want to do it, maybe another day. one day won't hurt." and then I get into my bedroom and I'm putting on workout clothes and I go, "I'm just trying it on, nothing special." then I put on my running shoes and I'm out the door to my car and I drive all the way thinking "Ok, I'll go but only for 20 minutes or so I guess. As long as I worked out." Once i get to the gym and I'm on the treadmill--20 minutes goes by, "Ok, maybe another five minutes." I go for another five minutes...."Ok only 5 minutes left of cardio run might as well finish it." LMAO! and I do finish it! lol.
:laugh: that's so awesome, I usually do something similar. Before going to the gym I'll change into my gym clothes 'just in case I decide to go later'. Once I get there and go on the treadmill I'm like "I'll allow myself to stop once I burn 200 calories" and by then I really want that number to hit at least 300 so I keep going and then proceed to use other equipment. :P0 -
Read this article. Then check back in after your workout.
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2012/09/04/power-of-habit/0 -
It's easy really - you just start today.
Log what you've already eaten - and if you don't like the way the numbers look, then spend a few minutes planning a better day tomorrow.
And if you don't eat as you planned tomorrow? Well, you can't change that once its done, but you can change what you eat for the next meal.
One meal at a time, one walk/run/workout at at time. It's the only way you can do it.0 -
What helped me is the idea that every day is a new day. I re-start every day, whether the previous day went well or not, with my daily calorie goal being re-set (in my case, at 1200). So, if my goal starts over every single day, so can my efforts. I'm not trying to "be good" every single day. But, every single day, I try to "be good" TODAY.
It is all a mind game. Eventually, it gets easier, and you don't even have to think about it. You just begin again.
I hope this helps.
Fantastic! Thank you, I've been feeling guilty for the last few days and just want to give up! What a good way of thinking.0 -
Honestly.. it's easy after a while of thinking about starting "tomorrow." For over a year I have wanted to lose this weight that I gained with the "there's always tomorrow" mentality. The thing is, I could have been at my goal weight for almost a year if I started instead of kept thinking about starting. That's how I see it anyways. After a while, you just get sick of thinking that way, or clothes not feeling right, or not feeling great about yourself. I don't remember a day in the last year in a half that I have been comfortable in anything I have worn.
There will be a time where everything just clicks. If not, then you're not ready to leave that mentality.0 -
Ugh....how do you guys get out and stay out of this mentality. I can do somewhat well for a few days, then have one slip up and go into the "I'll start again tomorrow....or worse yet, on Monday, or next month" thinking. Then, of course, before "tomorrow or Monday" I go crazy until then! How do you avoid this??
when this happens, whatever you are doing when you feel that "ill start tomorrow", go do something immediately! Mind Over Matter! If you start doing that, then you prove to yourself that you have the self control needed to succeed in this weight loss journey! I haven't heard of anyone saying "I'm so mad that i worked out today"! Remember, tomorrow is always a day away and will never be TODAY, so as Nike would say "JUST DO IT"!0 -
Today is your tomorrow! plain & simple.0
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What helped me is the idea that every day is a new day. I re-start every day, whether the previous day went well or not, with my daily calorie goal being re-set (in my case, at 1200). So, if my goal starts over every single day, so can my efforts. I'm not trying to "be good" every single day. But, every single day, I try to "be good" TODAY.
It is all a mind game. Eventually, it gets easier, and you don't even have to think about it. You just begin again.
I hope this helps.
Fantastic! Thank you, I've been feeling guilty for the last few days and just want to give up! What a good way of thinking.
So glad to know this helps someone (besides myself).
I just figure that at the end of each day, I should either congratulate myself on a job well done, or forgive myself for any missteps. Then, move forward from there. It really does work for me.
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well as for me I realized that I m not I do it later person so i realize once i start, there no stopping, no turning back. So i got all my treats and snacks out of the way before i started, and now I am on a mission to get this weight off and dont look back. I figure maybe every 10 or 15 pounds i treat myself to a small potion of something as a reward for having reach a goal,0
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