If you're fat, don't call someone else fat!!!!!!!!!

virichi08
virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
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SO every time I post a new picture of myself on Facebook my cousin feels the need to say I'm fat. MIND YOU, I have lost 14 lbs and I really LIKE the way I look. Everyone else is like, nice pic, or hits the like button, but she feels the need to say "you're fat" Really dude, NO ONE ASKED, and thank you for calling me fat while YOU my cousin, are clearly 100lb+ over weight. (and normally I don't care about how much someone is over weight, but don't comment on my pictures about my weight when NO ONE ASKED)


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  • rabbit__food
    rabbit__food Posts: 163 Member
    You should definitely block her from seeing your photos. She's clearly jealous. Don't let her bring you down.
  • fatgirlslove
    fatgirlslove Posts: 614 Member
    lol hypocrites!
  • cindyhoney2
    cindyhoney2 Posts: 603 Member
    ditto, most of my family is blocked becuse of that same kinda stuff. You are doing great and doing it for you not her, stay positive! :)
  • TexasTroy
    TexasTroy Posts: 477 Member
    14 pounds is great. I know it isnt fun to have someone to say your fat-especially your cousin:) But keep that chin up and keep doing what you do. You will win in the end.
  • HurricaneElaine
    HurricaneElaine Posts: 984 Member
    You don't need that kind of negativity - especially from a relative. 'Unfriend' her and don't feel bad about it - I did it myself with my youngest brother. He's gotta be the most miserable person on the planet, and he makes sure everyone on FB knows it....
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    Who better to call someone fat than one who is fat?.........Don't take things people say so personal.
  • amylovescupcakes
    amylovescupcakes Posts: 146 Member
    I'd tell her off. :) But that's just me, and I clearly have no patience or tact when it comes to dealing with meanies.
  • lifeinpink09
    lifeinpink09 Posts: 87 Member
    Clearly, she is sipping on haterade.
  • GretchenReine
    GretchenReine Posts: 1,374 Member
    I would just go with the ignore and move on motto! She's clearly an idiot. You're absolutely gorgeous...fat is NOT a word I would use to describe you.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    How about don't call people "fat" "skinny" or "ugly" no matter what you are shaped like.
    It's called tact people. Learn it, love it, live it.
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    I dnt think it's a jealousy thing, my family is from the Islands and they're the type who even if they haven't see you in a year they'll tell you you are either too thin how fat you got. like jees, you don't look like a swim suit model yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! example: I was about 160 before my weight gain and they told me i was TOO small. now im 180 and I'm fat. let me get down to 175 and i'll be too skinny again. LIKE THANKS, NO ONE FRICKN ASKED. i don't lose weight for you.
  • MorganLeighRN
    MorganLeighRN Posts: 411 Member
    It sounds like she is jealous. Have you called her out and asked her why? You are stunning-I'm a MFP creeper and looked at your photos. Don't let her bring you down. Keep doing what you are doing because you are looking amazing!
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Who better to call someone fat than one who is fat?.........Don't take things people say so personal.
    How about having some manners?
  • mbajrami
    mbajrami Posts: 636 Member
    I totally agree with your title.

    I wouldn't care if she's my cousin or not...DELETE her. If you think she's jealous now, wait until she can't comment at all about what you're posting. It'll drive her jealous *kitten* crazy.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Who better to call someone fat than one who is fat?.........Don't take things people say so personal.

    This is nothing against you, but I agree. I have accepted my fatness and calling me fat is like calling Ben Franklin white.
  • redneckcaseysgirl88
    redneckcaseysgirl88 Posts: 35
    I dislike people like this! Or ones that say your fat! Duh like I didn't already know this??
  • Robin_Bin
    Robin_Bin Posts: 1,046 Member
    Some people will say you're fat even when you're underweight. Some people will say you shouldn't lose weight even when you are overweight.
    I agree with the others who said to block her. And keep this in mind when she gives her opinion on other things. She doesn't sound nice or credible.
    I understand the rant, but some people's opinions don't deserve your attention or energy.
  • californiagirl2012
    californiagirl2012 Posts: 2,625 Member
    SO every time I post a new picture of myself on Facebook my cousin feels the need to say I'm fat. MIND YOU, I have lost 14 lbs and I really LIKE the way I look. Everyone else is like, nice pic, or hits the like button, but she feels the need to say "you're fat" Really dude, NO ONE ASKED, and thank you for calling me fat while YOU my cousin, are clearly 100lb+ over weight. (and normally I don't care about how much someone is over weight, but don't comment on my pictures about my weight when NO ONE ASKED)


    End of rant....

    I say NEVER call anyone fat even when your not fat. It's not nice. I would rather be nice to people and treat them with respect. Some people are still working on it. I've been there and done that and even though I've achieved my goal I remember all to well what it was like to be obese.
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    How about don't call people "fat" "skinny" or "ugly" no matter what you are shaped like.
    It's called tact people. Learn it, love it, live it.

    It's not my habit to go around calling ppl fat. but I was too pissed to think of anything else to say. I don't appreciate ppl feeling the need to call me whatever they feel like when I keep my personal opinion about them to MYself, because they didn't ask for it.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    if you're at an unhealthy weight, you shouldn't comment on other people's weight at all!

    That said... there are settings where you don't unfriend someone, but they also can't see everything on your facebook... time to check 'em out!
  • KeriW626
    KeriW626 Posts: 430
    I agree put her on ignore. My MIL loves to give me cloths, used and holey. But they dont fit her any more... (she isnt losing weight) But if they dont fit her they must fit me. Please feel free to look at my ticker (sans 49lbs) I keep mum and drop everything she gives me to the good will on my way out of town. Just so you know.... she did it before I got sick, my last journey I got down to 167, you wouldnt believe the comments from her... oh wait yes you would.. lol
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    SO every time I post a new picture of myself on Facebook my cousin feels the need to say I'm fat. MIND YOU, I have lost 14 lbs and I really LIKE the way I look. Everyone else is like, nice pic, or hits the like button, but she feels the need to say "you're fat" Really dude, NO ONE ASKED, and thank you for calling me fat while YOU my cousin, are clearly 100lb+ over weight. (and normally I don't care about how much someone is over weight, but don't comment on my pictures about my weight when NO ONE ASKED)


    End of rant....

    I say NEVER call anyone fat even when your not fat. It's not nice. I would rather be nice to people and treat them with respect. Some people are still working on it. I've been there and done that and even though I've achieved my goal I remember all to well what it was like to be obese.

    I'm not attacking her. Honestly I don't even care about her weight. Heck she's lost 30lbs and I was the first one to tell her she looks nice (and meant it) I dnt sit around all day and think about her weight, but why does she feel the need to call ME fat.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    How about don't call people "fat" "skinny" or "ugly" no matter what you are shaped like.
    It's called tact people. Learn it, love it, live it.

    It's not my habit to go around calling ppl fat. but I was too pissed to think of anything else to say. I don't appreciate ppl feeling the need to call me whatever they feel like when I keep my personal opinion about them to MYself, because they didn't ask for it.
    I didn't mean to insinuate that you did. I just meant in general people should keep those things to themselves.

    You do look great.
  • KeriW626
    KeriW626 Posts: 430
    SO every time I post a new picture of myself on Facebook my cousin feels the need to say I'm fat. MIND YOU, I have lost 14 lbs and I really LIKE the way I look. Everyone else is like, nice pic, or hits the like button, but she feels the need to say "you're fat" Really dude, NO ONE ASKED, and thank you for calling me fat while YOU my cousin, are clearly 100lb+ over weight. (and normally I don't care about how much someone is over weight, but don't comment on my pictures about my weight when NO ONE ASKED)


    End of rant....

    I say NEVER call anyone fat even when your not fat. It's not nice. I would rather be nice to people and treat them with respect. Some people are still working on it. I've been there and done that and even though I've achieved my goal I remember all to well what it was like to be obese.

    Not only is it not nice... ITS DOWN RIGHT RUDE. if you cant say something nice, keep your mouth shut. Just smile and nod.
  • sh4690
    sh4690 Posts: 169 Member
    Sorry, cousin or not cousin BUT if she was mines, I would be giving her a slap..

    across the face....

    with a sledgehammer :)

    Either that or just comment on the fact that she clearly has that low self esteem and body hatred issues that she has to make cruel comments on your facebook picture just to make herself feel better which in actual fact it won't make her feel better. Tell her she needs to look at herself in the mirror, like really look and concentrate on herself rather than you. Oh and also calling you fat won't make her any skinnier, but being on a diet might help :wink:

    I would make her cry and wallow in her own self pity with your words!! Do not call her fat back... just psychoanalyse her and pick on her weak points! (low self esteem/ external lotus of evaluation/ maybe throw a few Freud references at her)

    She has made you feel bad, let her know that you understand that she feels this way but directing it at you is not nice, and you have to make an impact on her like this or it won't sink in...

    If she refuses to listen to you and is that stubborn, just ask her what she weighs and then retaliate with "well technically you are clinically obese, I am only over weight, go on a diet before your heart gives out and you acquire type 2 diabetes good bye"

    God I sound cruel, gotta be cruel to be kind with *****es though!
  • TheRealJigsaw
    TheRealJigsaw Posts: 295 Member
    You should return the favor..
  • Antlady69
    Antlady69 Posts: 204 Member
    If your cousin is important to you, then ask her (PM her) WHY she is calling you fat when she herself is overweight. Don't let it escalate into an argument, just listen to her reasons and respond sensibly.

    If you don't really care for your cousin, block her.
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    How about don't call people "fat" "skinny" or "ugly" no matter what you are shaped like.
    It's called tact people. Learn it, love it, live it.

    It's not my habit to go around calling ppl fat. but I was too pissed to think of anything else to say. I don't appreciate ppl feeling the need to call me whatever they feel like when I keep my personal opinion about them to MYself, because they didn't ask for it.
    I didn't mean to insinuate that you did. I just meant in general people should keep those things to themselves.

    You do look great.


    oooh, ok, lol. Thanks, I was just heated, and i'm like, you know other people can see those comments right. Her husband felt the need to tell me one of my pictures was ugly. THAT IS FINE, YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIKE IT, but there really isn't a need to tell me that on the site. so I deleted his comment. (about to do the same with hers)
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    If your cousin is important to you, then ask her (PM her) WHY she is calling you fat when she herself is overweight. Don't let it escalate into an argument, just listen to her reasons and respond sensibly.

    If you don't really care for your cousin, block her.

    I care for her A LOT, the problem is, I've noticed that my family tends to feel the need to comment on everyone else weight
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    Sorry, cousin or not cousin BUT if she was mines, I would be giving her a slap..

    across the face....

    with a sledgehammer :)

    Either that or just comment on the fact that she clearly has that low self esteem and body hatred issues that she has to make cruel comments on your facebook picture just to make herself feel better which in actual fact it won't make her feel better. Tell her she needs to look at herself in the mirror, like really look and concentrate on herself rather than you. Oh and also calling you fat won't make her any skinnier, but being on a diet might help :wink:

    AHAHA... LOL. TOO FUNNY. I love my cousin, we are closer than just cousins, but this is really ANNYOING. I sent her a picture last week because we swap pictures of each other and her kids, and she tells me I look fat. -_- again, i didn't ask her what she thought about my weight!!!! ARRRGHH

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