Honest male answers and opinions wanted
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have you ever just walked up to him while he was watching tv, got on your knees in from of him, unzipped him and just went at it???? that usually does the trick...if he turns you away, it wont be for very long!!!
works for me every time!!
This would be worth a try.
Has worked for me.
There was a pop song about 10 years ago, "Come Closer" by Jem. Google it.0 -
Maybe once a year in our marriage. 25 years married.
Once a year ?!?!?!
if 364 days pass before I get some i'm tossing myself off a building on the 365th
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He has high blood pressure and low testosterone.
His cardiovascular system is succumbing to the injury caused by our western diet (high fat and high carbs).
What he's experiencing is a physiological response to poor health that unknowingly leads to diminished sexual desire.
Put him on a (mostly) plant based diet that's low in fat and carbohydrates, along with testosterone therapy in some form or another, and watch EVERYTHING about him change for the better in 60 days.
Trust me...
http://www.peaktestosterone.com/0 -
Try tossing his salad every once in a while0
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I would say that if I am in a relationship and dont get it a minimum of 3-4 times a week there is something wrong. Try maybe some kind of pics to send to him to get him worked up during the work day or maybe getting it on in the car at a public location (one of my favs
) but maybe it has gotten to be such a routine of the same thing on his or your part. Make him have a reason to ravage you. Just my $0.02 0 -
have you ever just walked up to him while he was watching tv, got on your knees in from of him, unzipped him and just went at it???? that usually does the trick...if he turns you away, it wont be for very long!!!
works for me every time!!
Me too! Works EVERY time! Once he starts complaining about being tired.. I step in and make sure he isn't for long..
now see....we know what to do to make him happy......and get what we want!!!
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lol...sorry but im not! but thank so for showing interest!!! but it is the truth!! its a great way to show ur guy ur interested w/o talking and yapping!!! you want to get the party started, then you gotta give him what he likes!!!have you ever just walked up to him while he was watching tv, got on your knees in from of him, unzipped him and just went at it???? that usually does the trick...if he turns you away, it wont be for very long!!!
works for me every time!!
hi im available
If you read my long novel post I pretty much say the same thing. Sometimes you have to take what you want and no guy is going to turn down a bj from a beautiful woman0 -
Sometimes you have to take what you want and no guy is going to turn down a bj from a beautiful woman
Or an ugly one for that matter!0 -
familiarity because a sex/relationship killer bothers me so bad. I hate to think that relationships wilt because of that nowadays...0
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Have you considered that you're not doing it right. Sex can be exhausting sometimes if you're partner is like a starfish, lying down with limbs spread apart. If this does apply to you, you could start doing some more work.
a starfish? Wtf.....
yes, a starfish. I gotten that in the past too. I know what he means. lol.
TMI Tuesday: Last GF got the axe bc of this. A shame too, most good looking woman I was ever with but damn...it was like trying to hump a cadaver.
OMG! Almost died laughing when I read this... Some of my guy friends have informed me of the "starfish" characteristics... AND even took me to a bar where one worked to point her out - LOL!!! PS - because you're hot, you can't just do NOTHING!!! :P0 -
have you ever just walked up to him while he was watching tv, got on your knees in from of him, unzipped him and just went at it???? that usually does the trick...if he turns you away, it wont be for very long!!!
works for me every time!!
Me too! Works EVERY time! Once he starts complaining about being tired.. I step in and make sure he isn't for long..
Do either of you ladies know anyone that has the same methods that live in california?0 -
With so little background info, hard to give some really helpful advice, but... a few things to consider:
Has sex become a "weapon" or bargaining chip in the past?
Is he having some medical issues you don't know about?
Does he have someone else?
( remember, don't ask questions, you aren't prepared to hear the answer)
My best advice is at a neutral site, away from the house, just have a candid conversation about how you feel, how it makes you feel when he rejects you, ask what it is....
Good luck, hope the outcome is what you desired. But asking this board when you should be asking him isn't in my opinion the best solution.
Seems to me this is good, honest advice, and nobody else on this thread is being very realistic or helpful.0 -
I am 39 and have been married for twenty years. I also have six children two of which are adults. First off, cheating or divorce is just shameful advice. My wife and I have been together since we were sixteen and having history together is awesome, even the hard times. Anyway, I love having sex with my wife but as I get older it matters more about relationship than just the act. Their is nothing more sexy than my wife being kind and attentive to me though out the day. (even though she is extremely attractive physically). Caring enough about your husband to really seek him out and help your marriage might be difficult but if you go to him humbly to talk and have a desire to change yourself, if nessecary, things will turn for the better.0
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quit feeding him
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He has high blood pressure and low testosterone.
His cardiovascular system is succumbing to the injury caused by our western diet (high fat and high carbs).
What he's experiencing is a physiological response to poor health that unknowingly leads to diminished sexual desire.
Put him on a (mostly) plant based diet that's low in fat and carbohydrates, along with testosterone therapy in some form or another, and watch EVERYTHING about him change for the better in 60 days.
Trust me...
http://www.peaktestosterone.com/
KCwebguy, you are consistently make claims that are unfounded.
How did you come to a diagnosis of hypertension and hormonal imbalance? I understand that a lifetime trying to convince yourself the 4.5 equals 6 can skew your perspective, but the clairvoyant assessment of a complete stranger is too much even for you.
FOOL:
1. a silly or stupid person; a person who lacks judgment or sense.
2. a person who has been tricked or deceived.0 -
Get 2 copies of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" and read the same chapter.
Inspire debate.
Get him talking about stuff.
Sexual libido is a very important aspect to a guy.
He may want it, but is bored. As you have changed, so might he.
Also, pharmaceutical preparations work ... I have Viagra eyedrops. They make me look hard! 0 -
With so little background info, hard to give some really helpful advice, but... a few things to consider:
Has sex become a "weapon" or bargaining chip in the past?
Is he having some medical issues you don't know about?
Does he have someone else?
( remember, don't ask questions, you aren't prepared to hear the answer)
My best advice is at a neutral site, away from the house, just have a candid conversation about how you feel, how it makes you feel when he rejects you, ask what it is....
Good luck, hope the outcome is what you desired. But asking this board when you should be asking him isn't in my opinion the best solution.
Seems to me this is good, honest advice, and nobody else on this thread is being very realistic or helpful.
good advice indeed.0 -
He has high blood pressure and low testosterone.
His cardiovascular system is succumbing to the injury caused by our western diet (high fat and high carbs).
What he's experiencing is a physiological response to poor health that unknowingly leads to diminished sexual desire.
Put him on a (mostly) plant based diet that's low in fat and carbohydrates, along with testosterone therapy in some form or another, and watch EVERYTHING about him change for the better in 60 days.
Trust me...
http://www.peaktestosterone.com/
Actually, he does have high blood pressure. Takes medication for it. And Metformin for diabetes. The diabetes is under control though.
Will have to set down and talk about the testosterone. Good ole country boys-MEN really don't like to have open and frank discussions in my experience.0 -
I want honest male answeres and opinions and if you want to be confidential to protect your manhood then great, but I need answers.
Been married a long time and my man is 49 - I am 40.... so yes, I may just be in my prime and with a dud. I get a lot of "I'm tired's" and "It's too soon's". Really? So sex is only when convenient for him, and it's like planning a calendar. Usually Friday nights but sometimes Saturday instead - never ever two nights in a row and not more than once a week. His choice, not mine.
Yes, we have kids; teens. AND while I may look forward to action because we will have the house to ourselves.... he would rather watch tv. We have the house to ourselves.... um, HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Is this really how it is when you men reach this age?
How do you approach the use of drugs? toys? or is this just a crush to your manhood? Seriously
I'm 5-7, brunette, curvy but not fat, and I think I am pretty - I really don't think it is the scenery that is turning him off. When I get his attention, I can keep it.
ALSO, I'm 40 - I've changed over the years. How can I tell him that he is doing it wrong and not hurt him?
OK, now that I am about to post... mock away with witty sarcasm but some real insight into your male psyches would be great.
Toys don't worry me in the slightest. Drugs... I could see smoking a joint together or something and going at it once in a while, but other than that... no thanks.
Get hubby off his butt and working out/ consider testosterone gel. Both will improve libido.0 -
Sometimes I just want to be held.
Lulz
Well I am ONLY 38, but I'm down most of the time, and so is she. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night to pee and guess what happens?0 -
Just do this:
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Just do this:
I'd be down. ;-)0 -
Sometimes I just want to be held.
That's okay. Sometimes I just wanna roll over and eat a sandwich.
Both of these made my day. lol0 -
Communication after communication. tell him all the freaky **** you want to get into and go from there. He probally is into the same stuff. To many times couples just go through live thinking the same thing and never expressing it. At what point will you let down your pride and just tell him what ya want. My wife and I took down those blinders and the next thing we knew it was like we met new people. Took trips to toy stores together, watched some videos, looked for new and interesting place to do it and the list goes on. Break down the walls and finally meet your adult partner.0
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Actually, he does have high blood pressure. Takes medication for it. And Metformin for diabetes. The diabetes is under control though.
Will have to set down and talk about the testosterone. Good ole country boys-MEN really don't like to have open and frank discussions in my experience.
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If he is diabetic, there is a very good chance his testosterone is low, even if he does have his diabetes under control. The two often go hand-in-hand. Low testosterone increases the risk of developing diabetes, and diabetics tend to have lower testosterone levels. Definitely worth testing to find out. If it's a matter of wants to but can't, it could very well be testosterone related. If it's a matter of can but doesn't want to, that's an entirely different issue.0 -
Not sure why the quote box disappeared on the first two paragraphs.0
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Is there any chance he's getting what he needs somewhere else?0
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Also...high blood pressure meds can cause erectile dysfunction.
He may be aware that the parts aren't working well and wants to avoid the situation.0 -
A lot of these suggestions are well intended but pointless… Toys? Sending the kids away? It won't work. Compare sex with food and someone who's just not hungry. You don't want eating to become a chore. No matter in what shape you cut the potato, it's still not appetizing. A binge-weekend? Forget it. At times I just don't want to think about food. I don't want to be confronted with it and I certainly don't want to talk about it!
This is going to sound harsh, but I will say it anyway since you wanted an honest opinion. The point is not to find out what he DOES NOT like about sex, the point is to find out what he does not like about having sex with YOU. How to find out? Just ask him. The problem with sex is that for sensitive men it's hard to answer that they DON'T like something… maybe it's something that you THINK he likes but in fact he finds a chore and is too afraid to tell you in order to not hurt your feelings. Sex is not the same as food, but there is some comparison. For me, even when I'm not hungry, there're always ONE or two foods that I can't resist. Ice cream for example, or chocolate.
Someone here said that sometimes he just wants to be held, and that's also true. If passion shrinks, intimacy often takes over. If you want passionate sex, you must be asking yourself whether you are willing to sacrifice your own desire in order to let your husband be the beast. Let him be selfish. Do not start complaining, or tell him he's wrong. You are! (from a man's standpoint). LET HIM BE IN CONTROL. If you establish that, things might get back to normal.0 -
I agree with Roger^^^. Men like to be in control. Having said that - have you suggested giving him more control - like literally speaking -- submissive type stuff - bondage etc? Maybe gently broach the subject of you wanting him to drag you by the hair for a while. It might help him get his frustrations out in a more intimate way & open up communication as well.0
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