Do you think that thin people hate fat people, and why?
Recently I have been wondering this, and the news anchor that got an email from a watcher that said she was 'too fat' and a bad role model really made me think it's true. I have seen people be passed over because of their weight, I have had people be downright rude to me because of my weight. I have talked to people who lost weight that say the attention they get after losing weight actually makes them uncomfortable because when they were overweight the same people who give them attention now were mean to them when they were overweight. I have been fit, and fat. And, no doubt fit is better. But, I can't really say I pay attention to other peoples weight and I'm pretty positive I don't treat people differently because of it.
I'm curious about what other people think about this, and what experiences have you had that makes you think one way or the other.
I'm curious about what other people think about this, and what experiences have you had that makes you think one way or the other.
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i surely hope not but,i know,there's some shallow,mean people out there.0
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There are some thin people who do not like me just because I am huge but there are also fat people who do not like me for the same reason. But there are many many people of all sizes who really don't give a damn, either way. I personally judge people on how they act. If you act rude and think the world revolves and you, then I probably won't hang out with you. But if you are cool and treat others with respect, well then, that is my kind of person, no matter what size you are. I also think confidence plays a huge role in how people are treated.0
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I think it's more fat people hate thin people, then thin people hate fat people(at least on this site).
If a girl is skinny on this site, all the bigger people pile on and say how real women are curvy and bones are for dogs.. which thus makes the thin person feel like crap. Then if a thin person stands up for them selves, it's called hating on the fat people and thus the cycle continues.
In real life though, yes fat people are looked down upon.. not just by skinny people, but by everyone. If you are fat, of course people are going to look you over because of the lazy/slob stigma that is attached to fat people. People may say they don't judge, but they really do.0 -
Anyone judging people by their weight is lacking in intellect and certainly in class.0
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we judge people for race, religion, the area they live in or car they drive, why do we think that we wont be judged for being fat or thin?0
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Anyone judging people by their weight is lacking in intellect and certainly in class.
Winner!
However, I do think people in general are judged not only by their weight by how they look and dress.0 -
They have the appearance of not caring about themselves. That gets into all kinds of weird issues when you are constantly, everyday, are working so hard on restricting what you eat, exercising, and making good food choices. I, personally, just have a very hard time with respecting that. I don't think they are bad people and that they don't deserve the best things in life, they do. But, inside, I feel like they just don't really care. And, therefore, it's just difficult for me to try to care.
Call me what ever name you want. I'm being honest about how I feel about the situation. This doesn't mean that I'm mean or derogatory, or anything at all. I just have a hard time when they might bring up a medical issue, or talk about how it's hard to walk up the stairs and have to take the elevator instead. Or they take pills for this problem and that problem. And I just keep thinking, all that can disappear fairly quickly.0 -
Honestly, I don't think it's weight in particular. It's unattractiveness. Everyone knows that attractive people have the advantage. If the news anchor was ugly, she/he would get the same reaction. Fat is not considered attractive by most people, therefore people hate on it.0
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Unfortunately people tend to judge people who are "different" then them; it has nothing to do with the other person, but more to do with the insecurities of that person (usually); even if they just seem like they are a-holes, they usually have an underlying insecurity.
Don't judge, lest you be judged. I try to see the good in everyone.0 -
There are all sorts of senseless prejudices in the world and I'm sure there are thin people who hate fat people. There are even fat people who hate fat people and plenty of fat people who hate thin people.
Speaking for myself, I was not overweight at all until I was nearly 30 and was even a bit underweight most of my life. I never had a problem with people who were not thin. And when I was at my heaviest, I did not have a problem with thin people (I had some envy and still do, but I didn't hate them).0 -
people hate people, sadly it is human nature....0
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I don't think so. I have some really large friends. I love them but I do wish they would take charge of themselves. (Just so they can be healthy, and enjoy more of life.)0
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I hate fat people who tell me I am skinny. I dont have any problem with the rest.0
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No I don't think you can say do 'thin people' hate.... because thin people aren't one breed of people that think alike.
There are some people that hate fat people who happen to be thin or fat themselves.
There are some people who love fat people who happen to be thin or fat themselves.
There are some people who do not focus on weight and do not care if someone is thin or fat.0 -
People can be very judgmental. There are thin people who judge overweight people, overweight people who judge thin people, thing people who judge other thin people, and overweight people or judge other overweight people. Too often people spend time worrying about the flaws of others, instead of looking at their own flaws.
It's not fair to say thin people hate fat people. That is too broad of a generalization. We just seem to live in a world where everyone is judged.0 -
we judge people for race, religion, the area they live in or car they drive, why do we think that we wont be judged for being fat or thin?
^ That's a good answer.0 -
I think, from my perspective, i don't care how much you weigh. I work in a place where there are all types of people of all sizes, shapes and colors. That being said...if you don't dress the part, then i have issues. There was a woman who used to work here who was....let say large to be polite. She would wear shirt that didn't meet her pants....her hairy belly would be hanging out anytime she stood up....yeah that i take issues with. On the flip side though the "skinny / fit" women who come try to come in to work in a tube top.....i don't care how attractive you are...that's got no place in the working environment.
Well now that everyone thinks this 27yr old is 55+ :laugh: I know, i'm an old soul...not hating on size, but atleast dress appropriately.
Thanks
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we judge people for race, religion, the area they live in or car they drive, why do we think that we wont be judged for being fat or thin?
I don't think that everyone is this judgemental. I have enough to worry about with my own issues, I don't need to focus on other peoples 'faults'. Is it possible that people who are so judgemental have their own insecurities and it makes them feel better to point out other peoples faults? Somehow that makes them feel like they are 'better than' the other person?0 -
I think it's more fat people hate thin people, then thin people hate fat people(at least on this site).
If a girl is skinny on this site, all the bigger people pile on and say how real women are curvy and bones are for dogs.. which thus makes the thin person feel like crap. Then if a thin person stands up for them selves, it's called hating on the fat people and thus the cycle continues.
In real life though, yes fat people are looked down upon.. not just by skinny people, but by everyone. If you are fat, of course people are going to look you over because of the lazy/slob stigma that is attached to fat people. People may say they don't judge, but they really do.
you could go either way on that one...what came first the curvy women "attacking" skinny women or the skinny women attacking curves? It's a big cycle and neither side is right. Kate Upton was attacked for being too "fat" or "lazy and lardy". Celebrity women are attacked on both sides - for being too thin AND for putting on a few lbs. I think there's hate on both sides, I think personally I'm more offended by the ones targeting larger women because I AM one. When you are overweight, you are associated with just that, "lazy and lardy". When you are too thin...it seems to be associated with trying TOO hard or going to the extreme. Which is better? Typically you are damned if you do, damned if you don't - if you start losing weight people tell you "stop losing weight! You need to eat something!" and if you stay where you are, they make comments about that...so honestly, it doesn't matter what you do, people are going to hate.0 -
I think it's more fat people hate thin people, then thin people hate fat people(at least on this site).
If a girl is skinny on this site, all the bigger people pile on and say how real women are curvy and bones are for dogs.. which thus makes the thin person feel like crap. Then if a thin person stands up for them selves, it's called hating on the fat people and thus the cycle continues.
In real life though, yes fat people are looked down upon.. not just by skinny people, but by everyone. If you are fat, of course people are going to look you over because of the lazy/slob stigma that is attached to fat people. People may say they don't judge, but they really do.
i agree... i think sometimes when a thinner person seems to keep their weight down effortlessly that it is really hard for some people to deal with. i know i have trouble with this. when i see someone eating whatever, not exercising, and they stay thin, it bothers me a lot more than someone who lost weight but is thin now who shared the same struggles.0 -
Anyone judging people by their weight is lacking in intellect and certainly in class.
This guys has it right. And really who cares what others think. If being fluffy (I do not like to use derogatory words like fat and skinny) makes you happy then be fluffy. If being thin makes you happy then be thin. The problem with society is that we try so hard to please others, we forget about ourselves. Who cares how you look, as long as you are healthy. Be who you want to be .0 -
Bump - I will read this later when I'm "working" haha!0
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I believe it works both ways and I'll tell you why. Up until recently I managed to stay slim and I always got comments from people that were not slim and they would also say I was 'lucky' when I was working hard to stay slim. Now, I'm at my heaviest EVER at 148 and people like that I gained weight cause then they don't feel so bad about themselves. Sucky, huh? But my daughters are fit and they work hard by the eating right and working out and they too get treated badly cause they aren't overweight. They are 35 and soon to be 37 and I am 57. I do tire of hearing people complain about the weight they have to lose but yet refuse to do anything about it. There have been the excuses made but nothing will change unless you make a decision to change yourself! I have been able to steer some to MFP after numerous attempts and now they are losing and I keep encouraging them! That is my two cents.0
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I'm thin and have been all my life.
I can say personally, that I don't hate fat people. In general I don't hate people I do not know; but I am aware that sometimes, I pass judgement on them. Sometimes I ask myself why people allow themselves to become obese. But I would never make a rude comment to anyone on how they look or choose to live their lives. I've called two people fat in my lifetime, when I was in elementary school, and I did that after they chose to belittle me. Obviously not a mature reaction, but I wouldn't expect anything else.
I have some friends who are overweight, and one of my best friends is actually obese. Will I give her positive attention if she decides to lose weight? - yes, I would encourage her because I love her and I want her to be around for many more years, and also I think she would be happier if she were in better physical shape. However I don't dare say that to her; I'm sure she knows she's obese and she knows it's not good for her. Nothing I say would cause her to realize something she doesn't know already.
Would I avoid someone because they're fat? The answer is no, because I really don't care about that.0 -
we judge people for race, religion, the area they live in or car they drive, why do we think that we wont be judged for being fat or thin?
I am afraid I jusdge people on their ears. I don't trust people with no lobes :P
If people judge me for being fat then thats up to them. I'm working on it, and in all other respects I'm happy with who I am. I consider these idiots to have the probem, not me. ALthough I'd love my body to stop moving when I do
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As the saying goes... Haters gonna hate.
People who are mean and spiteful are just looking for reasons to be mean and spiteful.0 -
On the other side of that is this....My best friend from years ago was an overweight girl. But she was the nicest sweetest funniest do anything for you kind of person! Everyone loved her. In fact the guy she dated was smokin hot and he didn't care what she looked like on the outside. She was a beautiful person. THEN...she lost a ton of weight. She looked good. But she changed. She turned into super ***** and acted like everyone owed her something. She became materialistic and super cranky. I know she went about the weight loss wrong and I tried to believe that her behavior stemmed from that. But thn I gave up. Her boyfriend eventually dumped her and his last words were "the best part of her left with the crisco" it was a mean comment but she became a monster. So sad.0
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Sometimes when I see someone really obese, I get sad for them. But if there are overweight children following closely behind I get upset.0
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As a woman who used to weigh 335 lbs I can say yes I was treated differently in all areas of life....Now after saying that I have to admit as I hang my head in shame I "agreed" with a comment on another thread yesterday that offended some people. So I guess the inner fat person inside of me still holds some form of jealousy of thinner people.0
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yes because thin people are inherently better than fat people, therefore they have a right to look down on fat people.0
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