Mean Girls @ the Gym
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Kill them with kindness! Seriously, nothing shuts people up or makes them realize they are being a d-bag quicker than laughing it off with them or just smiling genuinely at them. They want to see you be upset or rattled, when you don't give that to them they SHOULD move on. Hope it helps!
D' BAGS indeed!!! One of my favorite descriptions...Agree 100%, go to the gym look right at them with a great big smile and don't say anything, it will piss them off! Continue to stay motivated and work your tail off so you can power through your boot camp and come in looking better than they do...because you've focused and they've been distracted and spending their time chatting instead of working out
Unfortunately some of us girls are petty and aweful
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if they focus so much on judging and "giggling" like little *****es then they are not putting 100% into the workout. If you do keep ignoring them..you'll be blowing past them in the workouts since you're focused on getting stronger
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Stay positive, use it as motivation. Nothing would shut them up if you keep working hard and some day come in looking way better than them. Always use positive motivation even with negativity. Losing weight is mostly mental, conquered that and you will win.
Awesome advice. You can lose wieght but they will always be ugly people.0 -
I say confront them with kindness. Simply ask "is there something I can help you with" Or "did you want to address me?" And be sure to let your trainer know that you don't appreciate their behavior. Every gym has some a-holes.0
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When other people feel the need to ridicule, correct, make fun of, or put down others, it is often a result of their own self esteem issues. I would ignore it as best you can and focus on having fun and burning some cals. Enjoy your fitness and weight loss journey. xx0
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Don't put up with that crap, gym memberships are way too expensive to feel like you're back in highschool. Next time they start giggling when you need help turn around and say "Am I amusing you?" Odds are they will be so embarrased they'll cut the *kitten*.0
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Sad, they should be uplifting you instead of trying to drag you down emotionally. They are the ones that have a worse problem. Put it in the perspective of the Princess Diaries. I remember the Princess talking to a mean kid and saying something like she knew she was a dork but she could grow out of it, but that mean kid would always be a jerk. Ergo, you will lose weight and get stronger but they will always have a low self-esteem that is the root cause for them to step over people. Also, my profile is labeled "I'm On A Mission." I borrowed this phrase from an article I read years back about a woman that went to a swimming pool and caught a lot of stares because she was obese. She said something that has stuck with me for life and that is "Let them stare, I'm on a Mission!" You can do it! I have faith in you! :-)0
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It's probably all in your head. They have never said anything mean to you, they have laughed and "kind" of ignored your questions. You can't even be sure they were laughing at you.
This is a the problem with women. I honestly doubt they are all over there, singling you out, and making fun of you. They are probably just laughing and having a good time together.0 -
I'm probably a mean girl at the gym. *flips hair*
Seriously though just brush them off...you are there for you! Keep kickin' butt and show em what you are made of!0 -
It's probably all in your head. They have never said anything mean to you, they have laughed and "kind" of ignored your questions. You can't even be sure they were laughing at you.
This is a the problem with women. I honestly doubt they are all over there, singling you out, and making fun of you. They are probably just laughing and having a good time together.
Or, she could be right and they could be cliquey, snotty-*kitten* overgrown cheerleader types. Maybe it's all in THEIR head...why do some people always say that the one being singled out is the one with the problem? :grumble:0 -
become friends with them, then infiltrate the leader and expose her weaknesses to other friends, and then become the leader of the Plastics afterwards....that would be SOOO FETCH!!! \m/0
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I admire you so for getting in there and doing boot camp. Sometimes I have been surprised when I simply go up to the group and introduce myself and strike up a conversation. You smiling at them and talking to them changes the group dynamics and often the perceived conflict simply resolves itself. I find I often learn something interesting about the person, why they are there, etc.
I hope you have a wonderful day.0 -
It's probably all in your head. They have never said anything mean to you, they have laughed and "kind" of ignored your questions. You can't even be sure they were laughing at you.
This is a the problem with women. I honestly doubt they are all over there, singling you out, and making fun of you. They are probably just laughing and having a good time together.
Or, she could be right and they could be cliquey, snotty-*kitten* overgrown cheerleader types. Maybe it's all in THEIR head...why do some people always say that the one being singled out is the one with the problem? :grumble:
How did they single her out? All they did is laugh, and she doesn't even know at what.0 -
become friends with them, then infiltrate the leader and expose her weaknesses to other friends, and then become the leader of the Plastics afterwards....that would be SOOO FETCH!!! \m/
or this.0 -
It's probably all in your head. They have never said anything mean to you, they have laughed and "kind" of ignored your questions. You can't even be sure they were laughing at you.
This is a the problem with women. I honestly doubt they are all over there, singling you out, and making fun of you. They are probably just laughing and having a good time together.
I don't know, women can be Bit-ches. Have you ever met a female? I'd say 8 out of 10 got catty bit-chy she devilness in them. Esp towards other women. There is always at least one type of girl that irritates you. Or some girls are mean to others for the simple fact, as previously mentioned, they never matured completely. Still stuck in HS.0 -
What she said!!! :sad: people can act this way as an adult.You do nothing but feel sorry for them because they're obviously not past a high school-level mentality.0
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There's girls like that at my gym too... and I guarantee you that you are not the only one who notices how immature they are!
I always say, it's better you're at the gym no matter what size or age you are instead of sitting on the couch.
It's unfortunate that they feel they need to make fun of others at the gym.
Keep going to the boot camps, just try to avoid them and focus on your own workout.... 0 -
Don't pay attention to them and ask the instructor. Become close with the instructor and bring some of your own friends to the bootcamp!
Thats what id do! Take some of your friends with you.. O what would be better !!!! take someone who could really outshine the mean girls and let her walk by and be like "well, youll get better in time' LOL thatd be too fun.....0 -
I would say use them as motivation! Get angry and work out even harder! People suck!0
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Take your pants down, turn away from them, bend over and TURN THE OTHER CHEEK.
If that doesn't work, kick their *kitten*.0 -
I don't know, women can be Bit-ches. Have you ever met a female? I'd say 8 out of 10 got catty bit-chy she devilness in them. Esp towards other women. There is always at least one type of girl that irritates you. Or some girls are mean to others for the simple fact, as previously mentioned, they never matured completely. Still stuck in HS.
What a great attitude to have.
8 out of 10 are b!tches? Women like you are the reason why I said it's probably all in the OP's head. Rather than assume they were laughing at a joke (as I would assume), she assumed they were laughing at her. Just because SHE thinks they are better than her, doesn't mean they think it.0 -
So i go by this saying, "First thought wrong". My first thought: Confront the girls and tell them ****. My second thought: use their looks and giggles as motivation. For me, the emotion that fuels my work out even more is going to be anger. The best way for me to release it is to take every single piece of anger that I feel and apply it to my workout. It makes me work harder, push through the pain, and get my mind off what I am angry about.
I know that just ignoring someone is a lot harder than it seems. If you are like me, outspoken, you are most definitely struggling to not say anything... which is why i said confront them, lol... but kill them with kindness when you do. I have learned from work that the easiest way for me to make someone shut up is to be nice. (:
I wish you the best of luck and I know that my reply may not be helpful, but I think ALL gyms need to be judgement free zones. I love going to my gym and not being bothered.
Just remember, you are there for you and for no one else. You do what you need to to make sure that you are comfortable. and please please please don't leave the gym and go anywhere else because who is to say that the next gym won't have a mean girl like that! (:0 -
I don't usually say this sort of thing............................. I will smack those smiles off their faces if you like? ...no?...........Seriously tho i can't stand women that are like that its very immature and sounds to me that they lack self-esteem. Plus i guarantee when they are on their own they will be quiet as a mouse.0
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You're not there to socialize, are you? Who gives a crap what they do? Why are you even trying to talk to them?
And yes, it's hard to ignore them. That doesn't mean you shouldn't. If you say something to them, they'll gang up on you, mock you even more, and make life worse for you. You won't feel better for it.
If I was being bullied like that at a gym I'd take my business elsewhere
Lobster, I'm sure she's not "there to socialize" , but she doesn't deserve to be treated like that a GYM. I believe she said she was trying NOT to say something to them. That they were one strike away from her saying something not so nice. I think she should put those "adults" in their place. If I was the owner of the gym, I would NOT stand for that. That would be grounds for termination in membership.
On a side note, we DO socialize at our gym. We work out together, and cheer each other on. Most of us aren't athletic triathletes who really have no desire to be in the gym except to train for their next event.
Bullying should not be tolerated by anyone at any age.0 -
I don't know, women can be Bit-ches. Have you ever met a female? I'd say 8 out of 10 got catty bit-chy she devilness in them. Esp towards other women. There is always at least one type of girl that irritates you. Or some girls are mean to others for the simple fact, as previously mentioned, they never matured completely. Still stuck in HS.
What a great attitude to have.
8 out of 10 are b!tches? Women like you are the reason why I said it's probably all in the OP's head. Rather than assume they were laughing at a joke (as I would assume), she assumed they were laughing at her. Just because SHE thinks they are better than her, doesn't mean they think it.
wow you sure proved me wrong. That response was not the least bit bit-chy at all.
either way around it dear (op), i say either the kill them with kindness was the best advice.
and agree with AnnaMC above ^^^0 -
I don't know, women can be Bit-ches. Have you ever met a female? I'd say 8 out of 10 got catty bit-chy she devilness in them. Esp towards other women. There is always at least one type of girl that irritates you. Or some girls are mean to others for the simple fact, as previously mentioned, they never matured completely. Still stuck in HS.
What a great attitude to have.
8 out of 10 are b!tches? Women like you are the reason why I said it's probably all in the OP's head. Rather than assume they were laughing at a joke (as I would assume), she assumed they were laughing at her. Just because SHE thinks they are better than her, doesn't mean they think it.
wow you sure proved me wrong. That response was not the least bit bit-chy at all.
either way around it dear (op), i say either the kill them with kindness was the best advice.
and agree with AnnaMC above ^^^
No it was not, you're just assuming it was, as you couldn't hear my tone. Asking the condescending question "Have you ever met a female" could probably be taken as being b!tchy (without hearing your tone).0 -
Actually I want to change my response. Just murder them.
Bahahaha! I would want to, as well, but I bet prison is full of mean girls, so best save murdering for people it's worth doing 20 to life for.0 -
I would see about having a one on one training session....high school days are over, you don't have to put up with this treatment as you may have to in school..if you find you start working out less I'd look into something else...exercise should be a positive, non high school experience...0
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I would see about having a one on one training session....high school days are over, you don't have to put up with this treatment as you may have to in school..if you find you start working out less I'd look into something else...exercise should be a positive, non high school experience...
i agree that you should not let this affect your working out. it should be a positive thing.0 -
Let me make this very clear..I wouldnt have posted this if I thought it was in my head. There are 6 girls in this boot camp and I'm the 6th person. When I come in the room they giggle and roll their eyes. So I know for sure its directed at me, so believe me when I say its not in my head. I know bullsh!t when I see it. At first I thought it was because they make it very clear they have a crush or something on the trainer and he was now helping me...but that doesnt matter. These "women" are in their 30's and there is NO reason to be mean and rude.It's probably all in your head. They have never said anything mean to you, they have laughed and "kind" of ignored your questions. You can't even be sure they were laughing at you.
This is a the problem with women. I honestly doubt they are all over there, singling you out, and making fun of you. They are probably just laughing and having a good time together.0
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