family doesnt support me is it worth it?

I feel ashamed when I work out to the point of not doing it if someone is in the house. I am 100+ over weight and I know I need to loose it but it's hard when I am the only one doing it. And I get looked at like there is a giant cow having a seizer in the house when im working out. So tired of going it alone. In only 15 days in and ready to quit.

If you quit I shall quit also. This is NOT about them it's about you and how YOU feel.
Would it help if you went to a local class run by women for women?
Support is sooooo important, please don't give up! It only take one to break the circle, be that one ok

Pete aka ummmmmmmmm <<<< Him

Do it for yourself, screw them! If they really cared they would be supporting you!

From personal experience I got the same reception when I worked out at home and all my family did was critise me. When I started at a gym and results started showing they actually started to support me- which I found to be odd.

For the first two weeks I was told I wouldn't last more than that.
My partner still asks me if I'm ok when I get on the stationary bike and do sets.
People ask me all the time 'what are you doing' as if they are going to hear a magic answer or I'm going to admit I'm taking something for it.

If you want this, you'll see through all that and know that every time you push through something negative you are further on the path the positive.

DON'T GIVE UP!YOU CAN DO THIS<DO IT FOR YOURSELF FIRST. In time,those who do not support you will see the change you made and be inspired.I struggled with getting out of the house and into a gym to workout,because I worried about what everyone else would think. The only way to get over that,is to JUST DO IT! Once you get into the gym and start exercising,you will feel more motivated,really helps you feel better.I put on my headphones,listen to positive music and block the rest out.As for eating right when others are not,I take time to prep meals and snacks ahead of time so I can continue to eat right,even if my family is not eating right.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND KEEP ON MOVING FORWARD!>I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO THIS!:):happy:

My mum thinks it's good that I am trying to lose weight but she doesn't help me at all, one of my brothers is ashamed that his little sister is fat and my other brother just takes for who I am because he was once over weight in his teens so he understands. They all know I have insulin problem but their still ignorant and think I brought this on all myself which is partly true because i would get depressed and over eat but it was sometimes out of their hands I did that.

I was like you when I started. Refused to workout when anyone was in the house. I hated being watched. I would even do a workout outside in the pouring rain I was that bad. Then it got to the point that I didn't care cause my workout was more important. Do it anyway, if you were outside doing one then more people would be watching. If people have a problem with it, then say "it's only an hour a day I want to myself.... is it that hard?" they soon learn that NOTHING is going to stop you so they may as well give up.

IF it's disturbing others, then either do it quiet (even Zumba can be done with NO noise) or in another part of your home where nobody will even know. I workout in the kitchen believe it or not.

Is It Really Worth It?

It will require commitment and dedication.

It will require you to say “no” sometimes.

It will require sacrifice.

It won’t be quick.

It won’t be easy.

It won’t be fun all of the time

Your friends will laugh at you for doing things differently.

Your coworkers will gawk and poke fun at your new eating habits.

Your loved ones will call you crazy and ask you to “be normal.”

You will have to change some habits.

You will want to give up.

You will want to go back to bed.

You will want to say “eh, good enough.”

And you will ask yourself: “is it really worth it?”

You’re damn right is is.

You will feel great when you set a new record for push ups.

You will let out a rebel yell when doing your first pull up.

You will feel awesome running faster this week than last week.

You will be amazed at how far you’ve come when looking at old pictures.

You will feel good when people ask “have you been working out?”

You will smile when your kids say “I want to be strong like you!”

You will be surprised when people come to you for fitness advice.

You will feel pride when you look at yourself in the mirror.

You will go to sleep knowing that you’re a better person today than you were yesterday.

It is worth it.

Sweet one, this is your life. Set aside how unsupportive the people surrounding you are for a moment. Does the extra weight hold you back, each and every day? Does it make you feel depressed, and powerless? Do you ever feel worthless and empty? Do you have moments where you are overwhelmed by the weight of the hunger you have inside of you to be the person you feel deep inside, rather than the person you see in the mirror? When stressful things happen, do they feel larger than they should?

I am not saying this to make you feel down. I am reminding you of some of the reasons you may have started to make changes to your life. You know exactly what those were. Write them down, love. Keep them somewhere that you can revisit them when you have times where you feel like quitting.

You are worth so much. Everyone here has taken time to reach out and try to touch you with words, hoping that it makes the difference to you. We have all been there, and still have moments where we are unsure of ourselves, and feel defeated. That's what makes the words that we are sharing now so powerful - they come from understanding and empathy.

I will try not to repeat what others have already said. But I will share a little of my story with you, in the hopes that it may help you to grit your teeth and keep your eyes focussed on your goal.

My daughter just turned 3 the other day. Just before she turned 2 (on Father's Day, actually) we were told she had Mitochondrial Disease - which is life limiting (politically correct way of saying terminal), and was unlikely to live for another 12 months. At the time she had been catatonic for 3 weeks, after a cluster of 14 seizures in 10 days. She is still here. Her prognosis is now possibly several more years (possibly she will even live to finish high school). We pray and we hope for the future, and try to enjoy and appreciate each day.

My husband has been amazing with her, but over the past year has found me to be a very convenient target to vent his hurt, frustration and a fair amount of breath-taking cruelty on. This has made for a very big challenge on top of the obvious ones.

I had my thyroid removed in February this year, which resulted in a weight gain for me. I stopped valuing myself entirely, and pretty much did everything for my kids and nothing for myself and my health. When I woke up (that's how it felt), I realised that I couldn't wait for everyone else to make room for me or support me in the way I would like. I found MFP, and my friends here have been incredibly supportive.

I am very isolated physically, as my whole world revolves around my daughter. I can't ever leave her with anyone, due to her condition, and her father is only home 4 days out of every 16, and those days are often very difficult. A lot of my friends have withdrawn because they don't know how to talk to me, support me or just simply be there. I understand that, but it does hurt.

My mantra is that I refuse to come through all of this without gaining something. I have found an incredible support group here, this is a wonderful tool, and my family do not have to encourage me or make it easy for me, I have all that I need right here, and within myself. We are all fascinating, complex and strong individuals, and certainly this day and age makes it much easier to remove isolation from the equation.

My family are now starting to sit up and take notice, and be a little more positive, but I had to weather some very intense criticism and cruelty before this happened. What I have found is that now that I have a few months behind me of putting my wellbeing and personal goals first, I am a better mum. I cope with stress better. I don't feel like crying nearly as often. I am much more positive. And I'm PROUD of myself. I pushed through, no matter what, and my kids are benefitting each and every day. I run with my little girl in her jogging pram, taking my older daughter to school each day, and am now up to between 30 - 40km every week. Don't know how that happened. I don't feel uncomfortable any more when I work out. I feel strong and empowered.

This is what you have ahead of you. The hurt that you feel when your loved ones are critical about your choices and choose not to support you in the way that they should, that hurt is real. But please don't let it stop you in your tracks and leave you frozen by the pain. Use it to push harder. Each week that goes by will see you a little bit stronger. Look at the last few weeks - gone quickly, haven't they? Or, just look at it each day at a time. Whatever you need.

Keep pouring your heart out here. You will be touched and amazed at the encouragement you will receive. Read other people's stories. Be inspired. You will grow in ways that you will only appreciate in hindsight.

Bless you, dear one, and please don't be disheartened. You're not alone.

Wil

PS - so sorry for the length of my reply! Hope it helps

This is about you not them. Do not give up and let them "win". It is a long hard journey but well worth it. Best of luck to you.

You should be a positive image for others to get on the horse like you. Find some friends with similar goals/ interests and develop a support system. What matters to you isn't always going to be what everyone else cares so much about but you can always gain their support in helping you achieve what matters to you. And when they notice your accomplishments it will be that much more satisfying.

As a shorthand and less refined version: *kitten* everyone else and do work.

All the more reason to prove yourself and better your self and your health

Show them what you can accomplish. Be the one that's in better health. Be the one that they are envious of. In fact, they may be already- envious that you've gotten that motivation and they haven't.

This needs to be for YOU and YOU only, once you figure that out then everything will click. I tried many years to do this for others, but one day I woke up and just felt so horrible, I knew I needed to change and I knew it was me and me only who I needed to change for. My kids are my inspiration, and yes I wanted to be healthy for them, but this was something I ad to do for myself.

You can do it, don't quit...it's hard, but if I can do it, anyone can!!

Who cares what anyone thinks. You're doing this for you not them.
I had over 100 lbs to lose and started at the gym and I am positive that I looked horrible on the eliptical or treadmill but I just put in my head phones and did my thing. I am the only one doing it in my household as well but I just do my thing and that's how it is. No one is going to discourage me and keep me from being happy with myself.
You can do it, just ignore everyone else.

O my gosh, it is SO worth it. I am down 65 pounds so far...about half way to my first goal, and I feel SO much better now. I checked your profile, and your kids are 6 and 8? They don't know what to think yet. This will sound odd, but it made me think of when I started exercising in 2003 after a long time of no regular exercise. We had two 1-year old cats in our apartment...they looked at me like I was a crazy woman...almost like they were scared I'd lost my mind. Eventually, they got used to it. My son also acted strangely when I tried to exercise in the house when he was 3 or 4. He always got so excited that he wanted to do it too, but got in the way to the point that I couldn't do it at all. He is now 5 and, while I still have to remind him to stay out of mommy's way while I exercise, he sees it as pretty normal.

That being said, sometimes it is easier to exercise outside of the house. My sister also has a weight problem and had been living with my parents until this summer. She found it impossible to exercise while Mom was home because Mom is very critical and she felt that she was being belittled every time she tried. Personally, Mom didn't bother me so much when I lived there because I was that bull-headed to get healthy in spite of her. If you are in a rural area, get outside and walk. If you are in the city, there are probably gyms around too. Talk to the hubby and let him know why this is so important to you and that you need his support and that you both need to present a united front to the kids. Eventually, when they see how you are changing, they will probably want to get moving too.

When it comes to food, I struggle to find foods that are healthy for me and my husband and son will eat. So, our range of foods are currently limited. I also find that I make some different foods for them than what I eat...sometimes.

I also saw that you are a nurse...so you KNOW that it is worth it...every bit of worth it!

Keep up the good work...in a year, you will wonder how you could even have doubted yourself!