Ladies, How do I show my wife I love her?

Women posting that you expect your husband to open doors, tell you that you are pretty, help you with housework that YOU typically do..What do YOU do for your husbands to show THEM that you love them?

As a woman, I see this double standard. Women expecting lots of love and favors from their husband but apart from daily living, do nothing special for their man.

Mmmmmmmmhhh, let's see. I'm not saying there are no cases like you point out where women expect an awful lot for basically nothing in return BUT usually we are a little more in touch with our emotional side and more ready to express our feelings.

I would love for my boyfriend to have asked this question and read some of the answers here - especially since I would NOT appreciate if he asked me directly. I know it's a slightly screwed way of thinking, he is NOT psychic, but somehow when I tell him how to make me feel special it doesn't work anymore.
When I tell him it would be helpful to know if he even thinks I'm pretty and he did say it (not that there's much chance of that happening), then that would make me wonder if he's honestly thinking it or just saying it because I want/need to hear it, if that makes sense.
So I'd be thrilled if a random stranger on the internet told him to do it and I got the impression he saw it so acutely in a given moment that he actuall said it. Dpo you know what I mean?

In return for relying on my figuring out that there is probably a reason he's still around, he gets:

- An advent calendar every year with always something different (like 24 things I love about you / my favourite 24 times with you / 24 things we could do together in the coming year / a 72-piece-puzzle of a photo of me in lacy underwear and suspenders)

- a custom made board game including photos and all our favourite spots in the world for our five year anniversary (reaction: "umm, cool, can we go out now?")

- being told between 1 and 10 times a week something along the lines of he's hotter'n'hell (depending on how often I think it when there's no one else around to hear

- surprise him every once in a while with sexy new underwear / no underwear at all

- get him into bed (or wherever else is convenient) for a little fun during the day when we have a few minutes to spare

- lots of cuddles during the day and when watching TV

- "I love you" approximately 1-2 a year

- lots of attention

- winter clothes and shoes shopping (which he hates) for his daughter

- homework ad studying for class test with his daughter in a variety of subjects

- proofreading of his letters to parents etc. (he's a teacher)

...

Now, he does a lot of things for me, too. He used to give me very sweet, creative self-made gifts for Christmas. But attention-wise it's been a bit tough.

So, pj: Good job asking! Before you go ask your wife, as some have told you to, try a few of the other suggestions. Pay attention and you'll realize which ones she likes most! Good luck!