Is 25 too old to be single?
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I was divorced by 22. Don't rush
If you can't be happy by yourself, you'll never be happy in a relationship.0 -
30 here... I was in the same situation, actually earlier than that.. like 21 or so, and everyone was married or popping out kids and there I was single, and bored...
fast forward: married at 30. I got to live my life, watch those friends get divorced and screwed over by their exes... and I got to keep all my money! wahoo!
when you're ready, you're ready.0 -
um. no.0
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I sure hope not :brokenheart:
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If you haven't already cranked out 4 babies, you failed your gender.
If you want to fend off the pending apocalypse, you best start tossing down mad quantities of baby growing pills and try to kick out 5 in one shot.
If you don't want to, well, then you hate bunnies.0 -
definitely not. i thought i'd be single and alone but turning 25 made me want to be single forever lol this is when the fun really starts!!!0
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Not at all, and if I could go back and live my life again, I would never ever get married anyway. I got married in my early twenties, before I even really knew who I was and formed my own views and had my own experiences in life, I like being my own person, I have a great relationship with a wonderful guy, but we have our own lives too and we are our own people. I wish I had waited until I had discovered my own sense of self before I got married, it would have saved a lot of heart ache all round.0
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43 and never been married. And I'm actually happy about that.0
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Awesomeness!
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I don't believe that there's anything wrong with it. I'll be 26 in a week and I am single, never been married but I do have kids. I do feel like I am behind compared to my friends who are married or in relationships that have lasted for years but I do not feel like everyone has to have that. I'm not lonely either and not really looking for a relationship because it's easier to be single and meet the weight loss goals first and then maybe date you know?
It's like you took the words straight from my mouth.
But while there are sometimes I do get lonely, overall, I'm much happier on my own. Who cares if by society standards I'm supposedto be working my way towards getting a spouse and then 2.4 children. I'm going to stay single until that random day when someone completely sweeps me off my feet, and changes my mind about being alone. Until then, I'm happy.0 -
I'm 26 and just got out of a long relationship. I can say that while I miss the company, there's nothing wrong with being single around this age if you're happy with the situation and comfortable with your life. It's fun to be yourself, and not part of a unit.0
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I didn't get married until I was 39........ I kissed A LOT of frogs before I found my prince!!
Same here, and I had my daughter when I was almost 46. I wouldn't change a thing, considering I have everything I ever dreamed of now.0 -
That's not too old at all! Especially in this day and age. If you're worried about how sterile you will be when you do find that perfect one, you may want to look into getting your eggs frozen so you could have children at a later age without age being a factor (though, this isn't always needed, since women are having children at all ages nowadays! I'm 23 (almost 24) and have been single for more than a year. I love it and I don't think I want to settle down anytime soon, so I will likely be in the same boat as you when I do turn 25. Don't worry though. I know sometimes I think, OMG if I don't meet a good man now, they'll all be taken by the time I do.... but I hope that's not true. And if it is, well I'd rather be single and happy than with a man that I only kind of love
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Focus on you right now :]0 -
I'm 30. Been single since I was 23. I'll start my drive to the Golden Gate Bridge now.0
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First off, why are you under the impression that marriage is expected of you, and best?
We've got 7 billion+ minds out there....it matters not if we get married and have kids.
Secondly, are you planning on having kids??
If so, there are biological limits to this. If I'm recalling correctly, ~97% of a females eggs are gone by the age of 40.
The prime time to reproduce is actually below the legal limit!! (16.7 years). The longer you wait, the more of a chance your eggs will be damaged, and especially so for a males sperm being less fit.
If you can get passed the biological urge to procreate, meh...it doesn't much matter.
There are always older guys out there who are willing to date someone in the 25-45 range.
I'm male, and about to hit 30 in a few days (Vegas, here I cum!!)...and am not even thinking about getting married any damned time soon.
I want to be in a financial position which is conducive to best parenting and providing for my children, if ever I have any.
Right now I'm just starting to develop the networking needed to find adequate investors to realize my ideas.
It will be 2 years minimum before I try to secure a female worthy of my standards.
Just be happy to be alive and well in the (near) prime of your youth. The years start to fly.
Do the dirty dirty, and live it up. The advice I've heard from wise people is to not look for love, but be open to it.
It either will or will not happen anytime soon. There is no "too old" regarding marriage, until you're 6 ft under. 0 -
You should get married when you meet someone worthy of marrying. There's no right age for it. I didn't even want to think about getting married until I was 30. I actually met my husband when I was 35...we got married a year later. In my experience, people who get married very young have a greater chance of divorce. Don't rush things.
Statistically, people who get married young have a higher chance of divorce.0 -
Yeah my mom got married in her 30's. Sometimes one of the pushes for me to consider it is because her health isn't that great, and she's 62 now. She's not big or anything but has lived with diabetes all her life and it's taken a toll. She just had open heart surgery recently and events like these scare me into thinking I need to hurry up.. cause I would be crushed if she never got to.. you know, be at my wedding or hold my kid. I would want my kids to know the awesome woman that's their grandmother. .__.
I had two 3-year relationships, the second one beginning a year after the first one. And then my most recent was a 6-month that I ended. I went into it being pressed by her, always saying things like "I don't know I think I need more time.." But eventually she gave me an ultimatum, so I gave in and tried it out. Since then I realized how tired I was and that my heart wasn't in it. My priorities lied elsewhere, and still do even today. That one ended in April of this year. It gets a tad lonely but I'm actually pretty happy, so yeah. ^_^
OH AND LOL IM A BOY. LOOOOL I GOT THAT EFFEMINATE ASIAN GUY LOOK GOING ON. The "former Bieber-cut" doesn't help either lmao! (just wanted to put that out there xD)0 -
If it's old, then I'm definitely in trouble! I've never been married, but I was engaged. I am sooooooooooo happy I didn't marry the guy I was engaged to. I definitely dodged a bullet! Better single and unhappy (although it sounds like you're happy and plenty of single people are happy) than unhappily married. My friend who has been married three times told me that a bad marriage is a hell that I would not be able to fathom.0
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Yeah my mom got married in her 30's. Sometimes one of the pushes for me to consider it is because her health isn't that great, and she's 62 now. She's not big or anything but has lived with diabetes all her life and it's taken a toll. She just had open heart surgery recently and events like these scare me into thinking I need to hurry up.. cause I would be crushed if she never got to.. you know, be at my wedding or hold my kid. I would want my kids to know the awesome woman that's their grandmother. .__.
I had two 3-year relationships, the second one beginning a year after the first one. And then my most recent was a 6-month that I ended. I went into it being pressed by her, always saying things like "I don't know I think I need more time.." But eventually she gave me an ultimatum, so I gave in and tried it out. Since then I realized how tired I was and that my heart wasn't in it. My priorities lied elsewhere, and still do even today. That one ended in April of this year. It gets a tad lonely but I'm actually pretty happy, so yeah. ^_^
OH AND LOL IM A BOY. LOOOOL I GOT THAT EFFEMINATE ASIAN GUY LOOK GOING ON. The "former Bieber-cut" doesn't help either lmao! (just wanted to put that out there xD)
Oops. I only assumed you were a female because I know women worry over marriage far more than men (at least in my experience)... MY BAD!0 -
The only thing to worry about with marriage and age is if you want to have kids. Sure you can have kids when you are 50, but studies are showing men and women past a certain age shouldn't because of birth defects due to the body changing sperm and eggs. When a man turns 40 the sperm starts to mutate. Not sure of the age of a woman but I'm guessing around the same.0
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You dont need to be married to have kids if you want kids.0
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You should not get married:
*because you are lonely.
*because you feel incomplete
* because everyone else around you has a partner
*because you want to start a family
*because you want to feel 'normal'
*because you need help
*because you want to be taken care of
*because you want to be needed
*because you don't know what you are doing and are hoping marriage will give you purpose, or save you. (not saying any/all thse apply to you, just in general....)
Ideally, you should already feel like a complete person (albeit one whose life is made richer by your relationship). You should be comfortable with yourself. You should be able, and willing and okay with standing on your own. You should be emotionally strong enough to contribute to any relationship (which is true for both platonic, or romantic) as well as, yes, receive from same relationship (don't be only a taker or only a giver). You should be willing to share emotional intimacy, and build trust in your relationship (build with open eyes -- which means the relationship must be built by both sides). And if you don't know what that looks like, you should seek out examples of strong, healthy relationships and think about what a strong healthy relationship would look like for you. There is no time limit or finish line -- it's not a race you want to win based on speed.0 -
I'll be 33 this month, and I have not married. All of my besties who did btw the ages of 19-24 are all divorced except one. She is still in the process of getting divorced. Wait for the right guy.0
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Thank you everyone! I clearly have a lot to learn, but a lot of time as well. >:D
I remember feeling miserable after my breakups, and my friend told me this once:
"I'd rather be miserable and not in a relationship than being miserable and in a relationship. At least when I'm alone, I only have to worry about myself instead of two people."
I really liked that perspective, and it always made me feel better if I ever felt lonely or down. Now I'm stronger, but will definitely take a piece of all of your guys' wisdom. Thanks!!
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Oops. I only assumed you were a female because I know women worry over marriage far more than men (at least in my experience)... MY BAD!
LOL np!! Happens in public to me too I swear. I usually grunt or put on a deeper voice when I reply. Makes for an epic, awkward moment for them LMAO. But yeah don't worry you weren't the only one here who did that! XD0 -
hell no. 25 is too young to be committed to any person.0
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HELL NO, YOU AREN'T TO OLD!! I am 46 years old, never been married. I have been seriously engaged twice. I do have an 18 year old daughter. I am happy with my life. Sometimes I wish I had someone special in my life. But, hasn't been in the cards yet. I have a very busy and fulfilling life.
I just refuse to be in a relationship just to be in one.0 -
oh Man .. I'm 46 years old and hope it's not too late for me! Been divorced for 14 years.. and not much luck with anyone since. So -- I raised my son by myself ... he's 18 now and I'm darn ready to meet someone! LOL I'm not giving up hope that it's too late for me.. I think I still look decent for my age :-) That profile pic of me here was taken last November with my son :happy:0
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you have lots of time. dont rush it. work on you 0
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does it matter? i mean, when you meet someone you meet them. im afraid that if you want to speed things up, all you can do is get out there and meet more people. or you could try a dating site, but i cant say i'd do that one myself.0
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