Being played by a guy?

Sorry for being a little old school but you need to do as little work as possible! you need to let him do most of the work. A guy loves a challenge and if he doesn't know what you're worth then BUH-BYE! Onto the next! If you think he's a great guy YOU'RE a great woman and another man will definitely see that!

I agree with the others. If you're important to him, he'll find time.

he sounds like a dingleberry.

Lmao... This. X

It looks like especially the guys are unanimous in saying that this guy should not be your focus. He may like you, but if he was really into you he would do anything to spend time with you. There are too many other options to torment yourself with this one.

It's called E-Maintenance... checking in just enough to keep you on the hook.

Is he married?

MOVE ON.

If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

^ This,

If the guy wants to see you he will make an effort and even go out of his way to do so. Hell I'd jump on a plane and fly to a half way around the world or across the country to see the person I want to be with if I had too. If this guy makes no effort to see you, he is not worth waiting for

Not only should you delete his number, you should go on-line and block his number. That way there is no chance he will catch you at a lonely moment when you are more inclined to see him because you have nothing better on the horizon. Good luck.

THIS ^^^^^^^^

Definitely sounds like you're being played. If you are the one having to initiate pretty much all of the conversations, etc. then that is not a good sign. If he's really that into you, he'd be trying to spend time with you more & talking to you more. You deserve better than that, so I'd just move along, as much as it may hurt you. There's someone out there who will treat you like a princess. Wait for that someone.

"He's just not that into you"

Babe.... DON'T CHASE.... REPLACE!

Live by this.

Always.

Well. This guy sounds like he may be not so great so yea, move on.

My husband was not the pursuing type. He was rather shy around women, and not sure how to act. He read signals all wrong, or just missed them entirely and it took me giving up, and just looking elsewhere for him to realize that this unforseen anger he was feeling was jealousy because he really did care.

He wasn't mean, by the way- he was just not as present as I was, I guess. Even after we started dating, he sort of got "cold feet" and I said that I wasn't really going to play the I want you, I don't want you - game. He stopped having doubts and things have been amazing. We've been together 5 years, married 3. He's still terrible at picking up signals sometimes and still awkward with some situations but I find it endearing now.

Just in the future- don't rule all men out because they just don't know how to act around a woman. Some men really aren't just after one thing- it can take a bit of time to make them comfortable

MOVE ON.

If a guy wants to see you, he will. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll make time. Unless he's running a small country or a member of the CIA, he has time. Chances are you're one of many in his pocket.

I agree, don't make him a priority in your life when you are only an option in his life.

There is this guy I met, who I really like. He says he feels the same way.
However, he goes from talking to me one day to acting like I don't exist the next. I initiate almost all of our conversations, and he will go from talking to me one day, to completely removing himself and not responding to any texts, calls, etc. Then he comes back and starts talking again, then disappears. He also says he wants to spend time with me, yet I am always the one making the effort. I told him I wanted to go to the fair that is in town, and he went (no problem), but didn't bother inviting me or even mentioning it at all. Yet he wants to spend time with me?
I'm trying to figure out whether or not I'm being played, or if this guy is just fickle.

I hate to say it, but I think that this is a classic "he's just not that into you" situation. He sounds immature as well, because a real guy who's not interested will be blunt and not play you along. Onto the next one girl!

I'm not even bothering to read everyone before me's posts. Sweety, I have been married a long time and even I know that you have one of two things:
1. An opportunity to move on and don't look back...
2. Friends with benefits....
Pick one and get on with it already. And stop being so naive...

"When it comes to a man, don't listen to a word he SAYS, instead pay attention to everything he DOES."

Best advice...ever.