Would it be a deal breaker..

well No because you should know this going into a relationship so if you have a problem with it, then you should never have gotten serious.

I would imagine as long as there weren't any extreme bad habits it wouldn't be a deal breaker. I would prefer to find someone looking to lead a healthy lifestyle overall.

Nope

That is a very tough question, because I was asking myself this for a while now. My former SO and I were long distance dating for about 2 years before I started working to lose my weight. He talks about it once in a while, but does nothing. It seemed to get harder with time, since It continued for several months before he felt the need to break off the seriousness of the relationship due to distance issues. We have considered getting back together in the future, perhaps if one or the other of us decides to move. I am just not sure if we could be all that compatible if this fitness gap continues, though. He smokes and is over weight by quite a bit. It is a good question that I think I may need to face sometime in the future.

well No because you should know this going into a relationship so if you have a problem with it, then you should never have gotten serious.

Well what about if you decide to live healthy and you have been with your SO other for several years or so??

I actually have this but we decided to get healthy together, it makes it much easier for both. Still you can not hold them accountable for your change in lifestyle

No.

I can only live my life, not hers.

I loved her when she was thin, I loved her when she was not. I loved her when she smoked and I loved her when she quit. I guess if you have questions like this, you have bigger problems than your or your SO's lifestyle. Maybe it would better if you just moved on and looked for someone else.

^ What loumaag said.

I have had enough life experience to know that sometimes life takes turns. We all change over time. If you're expecting the person you partner with/marry to move along your life at the same pace and in the same way else it's game over, you have more to think about before choosing a partner.

Maybe you're not a marriage or lifetime commitment person. But in my experience, that lifetime commitment can include things like caring for a spouse who is severely injured and can't move, walk, bathe etc. What if your partner ends up with a physical impairment or disability... is that a dealbreaker? Do you love them enough to care for them and support them no matter whether they share your exercise habits or not? What if they get cancer and go years in treatment. Will you stay the course?

Being in a relationship with someone - truly being a partner/spouse to someone - means being a good partner for them; it's not just about having them be good for you.

Yep! That doesn't mean that he has to be hyper vigilant about it but shared values in the beginning are critical to a successful relationship as we change and grow thru life. But I think the answer really depends on weather a healthier lifestyle choice came before or after the commitment to the relationship. I've been married almost 30 years. A few years back my hubby and his brother were diagnosed with a genetic heart defect that was previously undetected. My brother-in-law continued to go to McDonald's 3 or more days a week, would eat pounds of jelly belly candy a week, and the only exercise he gets is walking from the bed to the couch. My hubby eats right and has even gotten up before everyone else to get in his cardio in on Christmas morning. He has completely reversed the heart defect and is the poster child for the benefits of good diet and exercise. He inspires me to take care of myself so we can enjoy a long happy life together. I've often told him that I would have been very disappointed if he chose the path of his brother. I appreciate the fact that he wants to do what ever he can to stay healthy. The first day we met his cardiologist was one of my favorite memories. My hubby professed his deep love for me and our daughters in ways that I had never heard before. The cardiologist was so moved he hugged me and promised me that he would do everything in his power to ensure Joe lived a long and happy life surrounded by our future grandchildren, pets etc. Since Joe didn't have years of bad habits to overcome he only needed to tweak his good habits a bit. I often think of the other guys that crossed my path before him who were drinkers, smokers, etc. and can't imagine how different my life would be now that we are in our 50's. Healthy habits reap mega rewards as we age. So glad I made a great choice and passed up the other guys who were to busy having a good time that they neglected their health. Life has no guarantees and we are all just a serious illness or accident away from poor health. My hubby and I are committed to being together regardless of the twists and turns of life. Likewise we have a commitment to do everything within our power to stay, safe happy, and healthy. We even wear seatbelts because if one of us dies in a car accident the surviving spouse won't have to live with the knowledge that a seatbelt would have meant the difference between life and death. We all change and grow as we age. Some people are content with SO that come and go as we grow cherishing each relationship while it lasts. Others prefer a life long commitment that stands the test of time. One path is not necessarily better than the other. The secret to happiness is knowing your core values and those of your partner and determining if you are both rowing in the same ocean.