Do you get along with your inlaws........

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  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    I LOVE my inlaws... way more than my biological family.
  • Sweet_Pandora
    Sweet_Pandora Posts: 459 Member
    I phoned to invite my in-laws for Thanksgiving here is how it went:

    Me Hi It's Karen

    FIL - Who

    Me - Karen

    FIL - even louder Who

    Me - the woman who has lived with your oldest son the past 6 years!

    MIL is even more of a treat!

    Nuff said!

    Karen
  • skmolove
    skmolove Posts: 191 Member
    OH HELL no, not my MIL - she is self absorbed and all she does is talk about herself & her job. dread the holidays :grumble:

    my hubby had me a suprise 40th bday party w/100+ guests. MIL was a no show and his sister says where's mom; our kids wanted to know why grandma wasn't there. MIL later replied that she was too busy. mind u she had 4 months notice. my response to MIL was "well you really should have come, you'd have been proud of all the effort and hard work your son put into it, he had me an awesome party. sorry you missed it."
    to make matters worse my in laws are divorced and my husband didn't want both of his parents there for fear of causing a scene so he didn't invite is dad, which he knew would have come and would have had a good time but is from out of town. Hubby thought his mom would come...
  • BL_Coleman
    BL_Coleman Posts: 324 Member
    "Every time I have to visit them, which is every second Sunday, I want to claw my eyes out. "



    I think its time you created a little more seperation. Maybe you can go once a month and let your spouse spend time with his family without you. Get errands done, clean or just spend alone time. If your spouse hates it too, then don't go as often.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Yes. They live in California and we live in Pennsylvania. Makes it very easy. That said, when we are together they are all really awesome, but I am sure it could be more difficult if we lived closer!
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    Every time I have to visit them, which is every second Sunday, I want to claw my eyes out.


    i so understand!


    no. they don't like me. there was a little bit of a war that started on FB that thankfully my hubs took my side and chewed them out. we just started talking to them again a few months ago. i feel my bp go up just being around them. thankfully only once a year mostly. they live a few hours away.
  • ktrauzzi
    ktrauzzi Posts: 71 Member
    I always get a hard time because I don't like them but everything they do seems so nice to the outside world. I feel suffocated by them at times. And I hate the fact we see them ALL THE TIME! If we have three weeks where we don't see each other, they (my husband, MIL) get all clingy and whiny that we don't see each other. What's worse is when we do get together, I'm pretty much ignored. And since having my son my MIL keeps referring to him as "her baby". Every time I'm like no he's not. Even if she said her grandbaby it would be better. UGH! I could go on and on and on
  • stephanieb72
    stephanieb72 Posts: 390 Member
    Just have a MIL and no, we do not get along. She lives several hours away so it makes it much easier. She said some not very nice things about me to my own daughter which really upset my daughter. When we see her I am not mean but I don't go out of my way to be nice either. She also doesn't really acknowledge my kids (from a previous marriage).
  • becs_91
    becs_91 Posts: 180 Member
    I absolutely adore mine. Granted, I've only been around them for 4 years, but so far I feel like I REALLY lucked out with his family. Loving, warm hearted people, with a badass sense of humor. And my MIL loves to bake just as much as I do! We have a lot of fun :smile:
  • becs_91
    becs_91 Posts: 180 Member
    Just have a MIL and no, we do not get along. She lives several hours away so it makes it much easier. She said some not very nice things about me to my own daughter which really upset my daughter. When we see her I am not mean but I don't go out of my way to be nice either. She also doesn't really acknowledge my kids (from a previous marriage).

    Aww, that is NOT okay (her saying things about you to your daughter).
  • dg730
    dg730 Posts: 62
    I love my in laws very much.
  • OnWisconsin84
    OnWisconsin84 Posts: 409 Member
    My in-laws were absolutely atrocious for many reasons. I think the main factor was that I look like this & they were strict Catholic small town MN farm folk & they couldn't quite wrap their heads around anything other than what they've lived their entire lives. One of the best parts of me divorcing my ex?? No more $hitty close-minded in-laws :drinker: :drinker:

    ETA: the guy I'm currently dating's fam is totally wonderful...night & day compared to my ex-husband's fam. They all love me to death & I love them all too :heart:
  • wow29
    wow29 Posts: 283 Member
    yes
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    My late husbands parents absolutely not! Horrible people! My new husbands parents Hell yes! Best people I have ever met!
  • Rogiefreida
    Rogiefreida Posts: 567 Member
    Love mine. We come from different worlds, but we get along great, they are some of the nicest, most appreciative and loving people I have met and they welcomed me into their family with open arms. I wish we could see them more since we live 200 miles from H's family, but we get to take a speed trip to see them on Friday, and watch my awesome nephews play some football. :bigsmile:
  • LoraF83
    LoraF83 Posts: 15,694 Member
    I do, actually. My husband and I have been together for fifteen years (married for eight) and I knew them when I was younger... so I've known them forever!

    There are things that drive me nuts about them, just like any set of parents, but frankly, they are often better parents to me than my own parents are! So I do love them like crazy and get along with them!

    I also know this is pretty rare and I am very lucky.

    I DO have a little trouble with my sister-in-law from time-to-time... she's awesome and great, but some of her choices in life make me a little irritated. :)

    Gosh this could be my story. Have been married for 7 years, together for 12. Like any family, we've had our rough spots and there are things about them that drive me crazy.....but I'm sure that I drive them crazy too. For the most part we get along and if there is an issue, I try to pick my battles. Family is not worth nitpicking over petty differences.

    My sister-in-law though.....oh boy. Mostly I just worry about her kids. I could care less what she does to herself, but those poor kids don't have a say in the matter :angry: And no one ever wants to say/do anything because she & her husband might be hurt or offended. GRrrrrrrr......
  • AlbaAngel25
    AlbaAngel25 Posts: 484 Member
    My Husbands mom has passed, so its just his dad....he is nice, quiet and likes his beer lol. I have 4 sister-inlaws though, and they are very nice, its just that sometimes too-opinionated when i haven't asked them for an opinion ! I live in Toronto and there in NY, so far enough...


    My husband lovess my dad. They worked together and traveled for work a lot and they actually miss each other now that we've moved far away lol. My husband always says"Nick is like a friend, not a FIL".
    He gets along with my mom very well tooo!
  • superpapa16
    superpapa16 Posts: 244 Member
    I like my in-laws, but my wife doesn't like her in-laws...

    ETA: Booze helps get through the tough moments!
  • bahacca
    bahacca Posts: 878 Member
    My mom gave me the best advice EVER when I was about 12. "When you get married, you don't just marry the man, you marry their family."
    My DHs mom and his step dad are AWESOME. Like couldn't ask for better in laws. Hell, they are paying for all of us to go on a CRUISE together! My DHs dad and step mom are really great people. We have our differences, but it isn't like they really get in the way during our visits.
  • SheilaN1976
    SheilaN1976 Posts: 266 Member
    nope...we used to...my mother in law lived with us...up until she told me i was an unfit mother because i was working full time and my job hours were from 8am to 8pm then i had to take the city bus so i didnt get home until 9pm....and that i put my son, at the time being 1 yr old down for bed for the night an hour after i got home.....i lost it and told her to get the F%^ out....and not come back....told my husband it was either her go or i go........well she left and we havent heard from her since......things have been so much better since then..and no i dont feel bad one bit! this coming from someone who, herself worked full time while raising 4 kids...and leaving majority of the responsibility of the other kids on my husband at the time.
  • Maddalen101
    Maddalen101 Posts: 307 Member
    I love my FIL - he has been wonderful to us, there for us every time we needed. Wish my hubby had more love for his dad.
    Loved my late stepMIL too - she was very loving to me until the day she died.
    ON the other hand, my hubby gets along with my own family better than I do! So, I guess it evens out ..
  • pinkgungal
    pinkgungal Posts: 1
    My in-laws suck. I genuinely do not care how they treat me, but they treat my husband like crap. Visits were far and few when we lived in Michigan about 1.5 hours away from them, but now that we live in DC...visits are non-existant.
  • My1985Freckles
    My1985Freckles Posts: 1,039 Member
    I have two sets of IL's. East Coast and West Coast. We live on the East Coast. The East Coast IL's are atrocious. I knew I'd never get along with my MIL when she invited herself along on our honeymoon and we had to cancel it.

    My West Coast IL's? ADORE! I miss them so much and can't wait to go back for another visit.
  • DylansMom312
    DylansMom312 Posts: 10 Member
    I adore my MIL. She's an awesome lady, we've gone on girls weekends together, and she seems to really adore me. I used to really love my FIL but things have changed since a camping trip we took this summer. He accused us of being freeloaders and a load of other nasty things. It kills me because they really do nothing for us except an occasional meal out and that one camping trip. Since then, he's acted like it never happened, and so I've done the same. I'm getting back into being okay with him, but it's been hard. Besides that though, they've actually been pretty excellent.
  • AnnaMC1977
    AnnaMC1977 Posts: 241
    Fabulously! I've never had issues.
  • elainecroft
    elainecroft Posts: 595 Member
    I get along with them politely, and they are very nice to me, but they do love teh drama, which makes me sympathetic for husband b/c he gets the worst of it :(
  • katy84o
    katy84o Posts: 744 Member
    I work with my in-laws. I get along with them just fine. The father-in-law and I fight a lot, but just during work because we butt heads about everything. But at the same time, I'm the only one who he will listen to when it comes to disagreements with everyone. Mother-in-law is a great person in and out of work. I mean she gets on my nerves sometimes just as any other person could get on your nerves. But overall they are great. I guess I got lucky.
  • brittvee
    brittvee Posts: 123
    I never met mine until after i divorced their son lol
  • kristamarie91
    kristamarie91 Posts: 21 Member
    My In laws are awesome! When we lived like 3 minutes down the street (now we live about 3300 miles away) we were always over for dinner parties and cookouts and bon fires. It was awesome! My first Christmas with them was so welcoming and I really felt like I was a part of their family. I'm closer to them then my real parents! And I especially love my mother in law, she's hilarious!

    Edit: And of course I love my two Brother in laws, and two sister in laws. They are all really great people!
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Every time I have to visit them, which is every second Sunday, I want to claw my eyes out.

    Are they ragging on your choice in shoes, too?

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