Sick and tired of defending goal weight!

calm yourself. maybe you shouldn't be DEFENSIVE at all and take it as a compliment.

Almost everyone is overweight. You are trying to get to healthy weight for your height they have no idea what "healthy" weight looks like. Several women I work with have commented that they are "skinny" or "small" and they are not!!! I'm getting "healthy" not skinny. They do not understand! We all do!! Good luck!!

This. People I know used to compliment me on how small I am.
I was 10 pounds overweight. Tiny in stature, but not weight.

Luckily, people don't really comment much on my weight (at least where I can hear them).
And I certainly don't bring it up, unless I offhandedly mention it on my way to work out.

Preaching to the choir sister. My goal is to lose 100 total. People now are getting seriously verbal about "if you lose any more weight..." and they're saying they'll be angry. Like seriously? Who asked you? My goal is to be 140. That's in the middle of the range for my height too. I have plenty more to lose, isn't it my decision?

No need to defend! jUST DO.:flowerforyou:

My advice to you:
People will hate you
Berate you
Rate you
Lie to you
But how strong you stand will make you !!!
Just do YOU !!!!!:flowerforyou:

That's smart, why tell people, better to keep it to yourself.

Don't tell people, keep it to yourself. It's nobodies business.

I have told 2 friends in total that I am tracking my food. That's it. Only 2. The reason is that I'm not trying to lose an awful lot but EVERYONE I know would start looking at me like I have a problem if I said I needed to lose a couple of kilos. But I DO need to lose some. I set my goal weight to one that I have been most of my adult life (except the last 18 months). I am comfortable in my clothes at that weight and it suits me. I am lightly boned and at my current weight and without clothes on I look 'skinny fat'. I am hoping to get a little more weight off so I can ease up my exercise again without flaring up past injuries.

I definitely don't advertise the fact to anyone, but when someone notices I just say I've started exercising a bit again (I stopped exercising 18 months ago due to severe plantar fasciitis in my feet that left me hobbling like an old woman...only I kept eating like a weight lifting man LOL)

OMG! This is how I feel exactly. I was just telling my husband tonight that I'm so sick of people calling me skinny and saying, "Don't get anorexic." Please! Are the blind? I am 5'7" and I weigh 231 pounds. I'm hardly anorexic. I didn't talk to anyone at first about my lifestyle change. They started noticing about a month after I started losing the weight. I was getting discouraged at first because nobody was noticing but now that's all they do is comment on it. Be careful what you wish for...I was talking to my mother the other day and she said, "You really wear a size 12- huh?" I had told her a couple of weeks earlier because it's my mother and I figured I could tell her and she'd be excited for me. Well- she then said, "Your sister said you must be on a starvation diet if you're losing that much weight." It made me kind of mad because I mean do they think I couldn't possibly cut calories and exercise for hours a week when I used to live a completely sedentary life? Seriously...I wanted to say it but it's my mother and I have respect for her, so I bit my tongue. I'm not close with my sister and this means they were discussing me, which annoys me too. Now every time I talk to her she will ask if I am still working out and dieting. My mother is tiny and she has always made comments about her getting fat and how much weight she's going to gain while at my house eating holiday dinners that I cooked from scratch. She weighs like 120 pounds and is like 5'6" tall. Come on...I've always felt like she looked at me as fat just because I was big boned and a bit heavier than I should be, even when I wasn't this overweight at a younger age. I had a step-father that was verbally abusive about my weight, a grandfather that would criticize my weight and I once caught my cousin and uncle making fun of me at Christmas time. These are people that are supposed to love me and accept me. Next time my mom brings the diet up, I will just say yes and change the subject.

I am half way to my goal. I want to lose another 30 pounds or so. I bust my butt doing the treadmill three to five days a week for 45- 60 minutes each time and I have cut out most junk food. I have an occasional oreo binge and I eat Mexican food, pizza or any other meal that I crave but within moderation now. It's almost like people don't want to see others succeed. They only want to see you fail. I am genuinely happy to see people improve or when good things happen for others, I get excited for them. At my job, it's the same way. I am in sales and you have to be careful what you say because people get envious and you end up with a target on your back. Honestly, people always say- don't worry about what others say or think but the fact is that we all want to be accepted and we all care to a degree what people say or think about us. Anyway, enough of my rant. I just got home from the gym, read this and literally this whole situation sounds exactly like mine. My main goal was to add some exercise in my life and stop the blood pressure medicine. I have been off the medicine now for about a month so I'm excited. I want to be healthy...

Nobody can say anything about your body. It's your body and your happiness. So don't let them get to you; just think about the result.