Which one is the most attractive to you?

Attractiveness goes alot deeper then how much water you can displace in the bath.

Regardless, most people don't approach strangers to try to get to know them unless they find that person physically attractive. Lets not pretend that we're all so deep that we don't care. We do. I might think my friend has an attractive personality and like hanging out with him, but I'm not going to date him if the notion of kissing him revolts me because I'm not even remotely attracted to him physically. And besides that, it really depends on what you're after. If you're just looking to get laid, who cares what the person's personality is like? Do the deed with someone you think is hot and then walk away. If you're looking for a relationship, you need both.

I mostly agree in that I think physical attraction is important in a long term relationship. However, sometimes physical attraction doesn't happen instantly. There have been times when I wasn't physically attracted to a guy when I first met him, but after getting to know him, I found myself more and more attracted to him. The flip side is when you meet someone that you're completely gaga over physically, but when you start talking to him, his personality or I.Q. level is a complete turn off.

Sure, that happens. I worked with one guy that I wasn't physically attracted to, and then I got to know him and I liked him. I would have dated him. But the only reason I got to know him was because we worked together. Honestly, if I saw him out somewhere, I wouldn't look twice at him, and I certainly wouldn't have approached him to talk to him. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I also worked with a guy when I was a lifeguard who was...stunning. And then he opened his mouth and he had the maturity level of an 8-year-old. Later, when girls would swoon over him, I'd think "Gross!"

When I wrote my reply, I was actually thinking of a specific person, a close friend of my sister and her husband. He'd had a pretty substantial crush on me, and I wasn't interested. He was a nice guy and we ended up hanging out together a lot. But he was quite overweight, and on the few occasions I sat down and forced myself to imagine myself in a sexual situation with him, or even just kissing and holding hands, it was literally shudder inducing. It was a huge point of contention because that was where he ultimately wanted to (and truly believed we would) end up, but I had told him that I wasn't interested. After a while we couldn't be friends anymore.

Lol, yeah, because this guy was really into you and it sounded more like you lead him on than "gave it a try."