So, are you seeing anyone?

At least we've told EVERYBODY we are never having children, so hopefully that one will never come up.

Yeah that question will always come up. People used to tell me all the time that I'm young and I'll change my mind. If I said I didn't like them they'd come back with "But when it's yours it's different!" When I said I don't want to change my lifestyle I'd get the "Oh but you can still vacation they're just . . . . DIFFERENT!" Sorry but Disney is NOT my idea of a 'vacation' and if they knew what kind of vacations we go on they'd wish they didn't have kids too.

I now just shut it down by saying I am deathly allergic to children.

I always get "when are you going to have MY baby?" :grumble:

Fixed that for you.

Cheater! :grumble:

No, nobody asks me that question.

so are you seeing anyone :happy:

But now I'm getting the "When are you guys going to have another baby" questions. Um. Uh. What. The. F**k are you talking about? This baby making factory is closed. My new MIL still hasn't accepted that. I have to tell her to stay out of my uterus. And that's how I answer THAT question:" Stay out of my uterus. It's a hot mess up there." Then I wiggle my eyebrows. It's the right mix of defensiveness, hostility, and creepy. You guys should try it.

omg i love that! that just made my day

You aren't seeing anyone...are you?

Ha ha ha....funny....

I get the complete opposite from my family. They have actually told me that I have absolutely NO business dating right now. I need to focus on my kids (says my step mom who left her husband and kids for my dad....nice).

Is that a touchy subject for you?
When I was single I got asked that a lot, specially by my married friends who wanted details.

Married 15 years. Please.... Please send details.

I don't mind being asked if I'm in a relationship, but it really gets my goat when they follow up with 'why not?'. Um, what do they expect me to say???? If I reply with 'because no-one has shown the slightest interest in me for the past 12 years' (the honest answer), they get cross with me for making THEM feel awkward!!! :frown:

I, too, think you are perceiving it in a way that people aren't intending.

So, to answer your question: no it doesn't bother me.

Motives for people to ask you:
-they want to set you up with someone
-they are in a commited relationship and want to hear from someone who is "single and exciting"
-they are curious to see what's changed in your life, and want you happy

Reasons for the follow up 'why' question:
-They think you're awesome and can't see why someone wouldn't see that about you as well (hey can't blame your friends for that)
-they have someone in mind for you and want to know if you are in seek mode

So here's how to answer:
Single/looking - No, I'm sure not! Do you know anyone that's not crazy or have a third eye? (or fill in whatever qualities you see fit)
Single/not looking - no, still living the single life! Not even in my radar at the moment because I'm concentrating on my health (or whatever reason you want, I like that one)
Single and complicatedly 'talking' to someone - I got my eye on someone, not sure where its going to head, but I'll keep ya posted!
In a relationship but don't want to talk about it - Yes, I'm seeing someone, but it's still new, so not wanting to call CNN news just yet.

Short, sweet to the point. Don't be offended that people want to be involved in your life =D

I, too, think you are perceiving it in a way that people aren't intending...
Don't be offended that people want to be involved in your life =D

Yo! I know that these people who ask me mean well. What I'm saying is, the question is ANNOYING.
I also never said I was offended. I said I was ANNOYED!
(It's funny how people read into these posts. )
I posted this topic to see if anyone else was annoyed by the question or if I'm the only one.
Be that as it may, I very much appreciate your possible responses and might use a few!

I hear you.................I get annoyed when they don't take the time you comprehend the question. Or when people try to dictate how your suppose to feel...............according to them. wowwwwwwwwwwww

I don't get asked that question a lot but when I do the person is usually trying to "talk" to me.

When I'm not feeling the person I just have six words:" That is none of your concern."

I can see you saying that too!

I sometimes get asked that, usually by much older men, my answer is "yes, my husband".

When we had our son, he was literally out for a few hours before I started getting "are you having anymore?", then once we had our daughter we got "oh one of each, I guess you're finished now".
Then when we had our third child, a girl, we got either "you're not having anymore are you?" or "are you going to try for another boy to even things out?" (wtf?).
THEN when I did get pregnant again with our fourth (another girl) we got "oh" and "Haven't you figured out how to stop making babies yet?".
Now that we have five children (one boy, four girls) we either get "so when are you having another" or "are you trying again for another boy" (we never cared about gender to start with, we had such a hard time having children we were just over the moon it was a live baby).
And now that our youngest is two (next month) I get "so when are you going back to work?".

Strangers/friends/family are full of inappropriate questions. I was in my OB's waiting room, pregnant with my fifth, and a woman also waiting asked "is this your first?", I replied "no, this will be my fifth child", and she says "oh wow, are they all the same father?" WTF?! "Um yes, they are all my husband's". I was very tempted to throw in a "I think so" "The third might be from the milkman" or "do you know who the father of your baby is?".