Long distance relationships.

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  • becs_91
    becs_91 Posts: 180 Member
    I have a WEALTH of experience on long distance relationships, if anyone ever wants to talk, lol.

    A year into my relationship with my now fiance, we had both been living in DC, and just about inseparable for that year. At around the same time, I moved to Chicago for school, and he began his USAF enlistment (first in TX for about 6 months and then in Montana). We have been long distance for almost 3 years now.

    A *lot* of discussion went into making the decision to attempt long distance. We talked a lot about the pros and cons (oh boy, are there cons). We laid everything out on the table, acknowledged that it was probably going to be unbelievably difficult, and agreed that if either of us ever grew to be less than 100% in it (too discouraged, started to resent the other, met someone else, etc.) that we would tell each other.

    I'm happy to say that we are now closer than I could have ever imagined. Don't get me wrong, it SUCKS, a LOT of the time. Seeing each other only a few times a year is rough. The goodbyes get harder every time. But it is soooo worth it. If you're willing to put in the effort (including a LOT of communication), it can work.

    I will say, though, I can't wait until we're FINALLY not long distance anymore - this all ends next July! Can't wait to live like normal people! :happy:
  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
    They do not work for me.
  • zeebruhgirl
    zeebruhgirl Posts: 493 Member
    Jealousy will kill any relationship. If you don't trust them, don't date them.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    Relationships are about intimacy and trust. It seems quite difficult when you think about it in terms of intimacy that you could possibly maintain an intimately satisfying relationship when you are constantly states apart. That being said, ALL people are different!! Both people have to be 100% committed or it will NOT work.
  • renamarie77
    renamarie77 Posts: 98 Member
    Been in a few. Currently, my gf lives 5 hrs away and for awhile, we were seeing each other every two weeks. Now it's every month. It's absolutely killing me. If it wasn't for the phone and the ability to cam, I'd never make it. But even with that, it's killing me. The one with my ex-fiance, I felt like it was killing my soul. Sometimes now, I feel it. We're made to be together in the same space and the same time TOGETHER. I want to come home every day to her. I want to make plans on the weekend with her. It's weird living our lives separate. I'm trying, but idk how long it can stay that way. But I love her, so....
  • goldair23
    goldair23 Posts: 160
    Nope, I don't think I'd personally be very good in one. I like the physical side of a relationship like the cuddles and kisses and the sex haha. Although if I'd been with the guy for over a year in the same city and one of us had to move, I guess I'd consider it x
  • becs_91
    becs_91 Posts: 180 Member
    Jealousy will kill any relationship. If you don't trust them, don't date them.

    Amen to that. It's poison.

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